Newbie - FAQ

Here's the text of one of my posts from back when everything worked. Welcome...
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Avoid discussion of sex acts or money in your initial contact.  The provider's rates are generally published on her web site, and the services she provides can usually be found in her profile and reviews.

Cooperate with the provider's screening process.  If you're not comfortable making certain information available, tell her so.  But, if such is the case, be prepared for a refusal of services on her part.

During the contacts leading up to your first meeting, be honest and forthcoming (within your level of comfort).  But understand some providers are more "all-business" than others, and may dislike long, chatty exchanges.  The provider will clearly let you know her preferences.

Follow the provider's instructions to the letter regarding the time and place of your first meeting and any procedures she requires you observe.

Avoid arriving too early.  If you arrive much more than ten minutes before your scheduled time, you may cause difficulties.  In fact, five mintes late is better than early.

Always be discrete.  Don't call attention to what you're doing, who you are or whom you're going to see.

When you arrive, precisely follow the provider's instructions concerning the handling of the donation.  And have the good taste not to haggle.

Arrive clean and well groomed.  Limit your use of cologne (or avoid it altogether).  Some people are uncomfortable with strong scents.  Regardless of your level of cleanliness, be prepared to take a shower on your arrival if the provider so requests.

If you would like to bring a gift in addition to the donation, consider that the provider may have to travel home via air, and that yours may not be the only gift she receives, so keep it small or consumable.  If you choose the latter, don't be insulted if she doesn't tear open the package in your presence; she may be on a diet, or just too polite to say she doesn't care for your offer.

Having done your research before hand, you should know what services are not available or which require an additional donation.  In most cases, these matters are addressed on the provider's web site.  If not, discretely bring up the matter after your initial contact, but before your meeting.  When I say be discrete, I mean don't blurt out, "Do you take it up the *ss?"  Instead, ask if she offers Greek lessons.  The glossary of terms here on TER will help.  Greek lessons, by the way, are a special case, since some providers request advance notice.

Don't ask for uncovered service if the provider doesn't make the offer.  You'll know which the case is; if you feel latex on your wiener, she doesn't offer uncovered services.  Even though it shouldn’t be required, bring along your own protection just in case.  But don't insist on using yours in preference to that provided by the lady; she'll most likely be more comfortable with her own.

Don't be afraid to discuss your desires and preferences openly and honestly once the session has begun.  Believe me, it's unlikely you're going to surprise or offend anyone.  But in having such discussions, be a gentleman.  Don't be crude.

Be considerate of the provider's feelings, both physical and emotional.  Also, be considerate of her time.  When she says the session’s over, don’t fool around.  She may need you to be out in a timely fashion.  If time’s not an issue, and the lady’s enjoying herself, she’ll let you know.

If you enjoyed the session, offer to write a review.  If you didn't, be SURE to write one.  In either case, present the facts honestly and completely.  Never say anything untrue or intended to simply be mean or hurtful.

If you would like to leave a tip, that’s up to you.  If the lady is from an agency, my personal practice is to give her a 20% tip, provided the service so warrants.

Beyond these, I reiterate the points I make in my ancient post, “Useful Insight into a Provider’s Mind…”

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ok so I am a real newbie . a service provider virgin.
i have read the sites and the reviews and the rates and the FAQ
when you see a rate how do you know whether this includes all services , some service or is just for a show up , if it is a show up and stay fee how does a virgin ( like me) find out what any other service fee would be . all while dodging the usual provisions of the law. stupid as they may be.
ok i have admitted it now and I feel  better.

Always check reviews and the ladies website for any and all available information. Asking questions on the phone will get a click on the other end and in person will leave you wanting for company as your lady walks out the door. Hope that keeps you in the ball game.
   Kisses Haley

It depends alot on what ad site you are looking at. Most providers on ad sites like Eros or Cityvibe - the rates are usually all inclusive and many times will state so. Most ladies you find reviewed on TER are all inclusive or the reviews will show "upselling" involved. But if you are an AMP kinda guy, most parlors have a door or entry fee then you discuss any additional once you are in the room. Hope that helps.

if it is a show up and stay fee how does a virgin ( like me) find out what any other service fee would be . all while dodging the usual provisions of the law. stupid as they may be.


 Never ask any sexual questions until you have done doggie or CG.....and even then whisper your request  .. Better yet just pretend you are visiting a GF you haven't seen in months...Don't ask ..Show

Avoid discussion of sex acts or money in your initial contact.  The provider's rates are generally published on her web site, and the services she provides can usually be found in her profile and reviews.

Cooperate with the provider's screening process.  If you're not comfortable making certain information available, tell her so.  But, if such is the case, be prepared for a refusal of services on her part.

During the contacts leading up to your first meeting, be honest and forthcoming (within your level of comfort).  But understand some providers are more "all-business" than others, and may dislike long, chatty exchanges.  The provider will clearly let you know her preferences.

Follow the provider's instructions to the letter regarding the time and place of your first meeting and any procedures she requires you observe.

Avoid arriving too early.  If you arrive much more than ten minutes before your scheduled time, you may cause difficulties.  In fact, five mintes late is better than early.

Always be discrete.  Don't call attention to what you're doing, who you are or whom you're going to see.

When you arrive, precisely follow the provider's instructions concerning the handling of the donation.  And have the good taste not to haggle.

Arrive clean and well groomed.  Limit your use of cologne (or avoid it altogether).  Some people are uncomfortable with strong scents.  Regardless of your level of cleanliness, be prepared to take a shower on your arrival if the provider so requests.

If you would like to bring a gift in addition to the donation, consider that the provider may have to travel home via air, and that yours may not be the only gift she receives, so keep it small or consumable.  If you choose the latter, don't be insulted if she doesn't tear open the package in your presence; she may be on a diet, or just too polite to say she doesn't care for your offer.

Having done your research before hand, you should know what services are not available or which require an additional donation.  In most cases, these matters are addressed on the provider's web site.  If not, discretely bring up the matter after your initial contact, but before your meeting.  When I say be discrete, I mean don't blurt out, "Do you take it up the *ss?"  Instead, ask if she offers Greek lessons.  The glossary of terms here on TER will help.  Greek lessons, by the way, are a special case, since some providers request advance notice.

Don't ask for uncovered service if the provider doesn't make the offer.  You'll know which the case is; if you feel latex on your wiener, she doesn't offer uncovered services.  Even though it shouldn’t be required, bring along your own protection just in case.  But don't insist on using yours in preference to that provided by the lady; she'll most likely be more comfortable with her own.

Don't be afraid to discuss your desires and preferences openly and honestly once the session has begun.  Believe me, it's unlikely you're going to surprise or offend anyone.  But in having such discussions, be a gentleman.  Don't be crude.

Be considerate of the provider's feelings, both physical and emotional.  Also, be considerate of her time.  When she says the session’s over, don’t fool around.  She may need you to be out in a timely fashion.  If time’s not an issue, and the lady’s enjoying herself, she’ll let you know.

If you enjoyed the session, offer to write a review.  If you didn't, be SURE to write one.  In either case, present the facts honestly and completely.  Never say anything untrue or intended to simply be mean or hurtful.

If you would like to leave a tip, that’s up to you.  If the lady is from an agency, my personal practice is to give her a 20% tip, provided the service so warrants.

Beyond these, I reiterate the points I make in my ancient post, “Useful Insight into a Provider’s Mind…”

Since you are a provider virgin. Post a massage rate and an hourly rate. If GFE say so in add. The hourly rate assumes F/S. Do not have a visitation fee, then upsell everything else. tell them in add to bring in envelope with donation on it. Do not touch the envelope or discuss it during visit.

Do not discuss money during your visit until you both are naked. But only if there are additional charges for other things such as gr$$k, BBBJ, 69 etc. Otherwise never discuss money with customer. You will need to assume he brought proper amount in envelope. Do not touch envelope during visit.

I love newbies, let me know when you post somewhere

"Posted by mrgjr1, 5/21/2008 9:10:51 AM
Do not discuss money during your visit until you both are naked. But only if there are additional charges for other things such as gr$$k, BBBJ, 69 etc. Otherwise never discuss money with customer."


 If I was naked with a provider and then "Oh..Honey // By the way 69 is a 100 extra ... I would be out of there never to return..But I doubt that would happen since I only see providers  that have high on performance Ter reviews......from reputable reviewers...

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