Sometimes things come up and people have to cancel. We are all just regular people here (well some are sexier than others, but I digress). She apologized and offered a reduced rate for another day. Sounds like she is truly sorry and wants to make it up to you. Set up an appointment with her, and take her up on her offer. If she blows you off again (not in the good way) then you know to move on.
So, don't worry, don't get yourself upset and try again with her.
Cheers,
BBxxx
So I had my very first session scheduled for this afternoon at 12 sharp. Gulp! Being a newbie, I had no references so was asked to go through preferred411 to get verification. I was a little hesitant about the fee and the call to my place of work but eventually decided to give it a shot. Everything went fine and was very discreet.
The provider had many TER reviews and appeared legit. We had multiple email exchanges and I was getting extremely nervous/excited with anticipation. I agreed to meet her at her residence and was told she would call this morning with directions around 9 or 10. 10 o'clock came and went, no call. 11 o'clock came and went, no call. Finally, at 11:30 I receive an email that an emergency came up and she left her phone at home. She apologized and offered additional time or a lower donation if another day would work. After days of nervousness and anticipation this was a big disappointment to say the least!
I guess my question is what should I do now? Find a different provider? Give the first one another shot? I'm a bit irritated that I jumped through all the hoops but did not receive so much as a phone call. Is this a normal occurrence and am I just over reacting??
give her one more chance, and accept her offer for extra time, or reduced donation. If she has many good reviews it will probably work out the 2nd time. There probably was a real emergency, or this was an aberration.
Sometimes things come up and people have to cancel. We are all just regular people here (well some are sexier than others, but I digress). She apologized and offered a reduced rate for another day. Sounds like she is truly sorry and wants to make it up to you. Set up an appointment with her, and take her up on her offer. If she blows you off again (not in the good way) then you know to move on.
So, don't worry, don't get yourself upset and try again with her.
Cheers,
BBxxx
Yes, you should be upset, just as she would be upset if the tables were turned. Still, since you said that she had several good reviews, I would give her a second shot. Take her up on her offer, and I would go for the extra time, rather than the reduced rate. She did finally contact you, even if it was late. The simple facts that she contacted you, and she made you an offer would tell me that she does feel bad that it happened. Who knows, maybe you'll even get a little "special treatment".
I would call her right away, and good luck.
Sorry to hear about your unfortunate experience, especially for a 1st timer. I believe that most, if not all, of the well reviewed providers would not act that way. I would chalk up to an off day for that provider and bad luck on your part. I am sure that we all have one of those off days. Providers are no different. If you can keep an open mind without being angry and really likes that provider, I would give another shot. Otherwise, move on. You have the choice!!!
Yes, you are disappointed... who wouldn't be? But emergencies do happen. She appears to be an honest provider, good reviews, called YOU, accepted blame, appologized, offered to make it up to you. What more could she do?
Right now you're disappointed... step back, take some deep breaths. Then call her back & make a new date.
Yes, I think you're being too hard on her.
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So jack_32 Deal or No Deal
(TAKE THE DEAL! TAKE THE DEAL!)
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The very same thing happened with my first meeting last week. I certainly understood her situation and didn't take it personally. She sounded sincere and tried to reschedule for that afternoon or two days later. My calendar was full, however, so we're looking at next week. Think of it as longer foreplay...
the other day I had my first appt. with an indy, I was so happy cause I knew that would give me an in for further meetings with other indys( plus she was smoking hot). two hours before our date she called me to tell me she had to cancel cause the hotel lobby was loaded with cameras & she was concerned . Of course I was disappointed but what was the alternative? getting my mug on some camera?
she said she'll look for another hotel & we'll get together next week, damn straight I'll wait for her call, no need to see another provider
The same thing happened to me last week with a well reviewed provider. I actually drove over to her place and kept trying to call her to no avail I finally drove home and checked my email and had a message saying she had a family issue come up. She offered me a two hour appointment for the price of one next time. I've scheduled to see her next week and can't wait. Things happen, give her another chance.
"two hours before our date she called me to tell me she had to cancel cause the hotel lobby was loaded with cameras & she was concerned . Of course I was disappointed but what was the alternative? getting my mug on some camera?"
Actually there are very good cameras at most Hotels and Restaurants,... It might take her more than a week to find one that doesn't have a camera..
ok, ok. If I'm going to become a hobbyist, I guess I need to learn to be flexible. But just to be clear, she NEVER called me. She sent an email cancelling @ 11:30. The appt was at 12. Oh well, I'll give her another shot and hope for the best. Thanks all! Good luck to those of you in the same situation.
btw - she's an indy as well. Sounds like getting in with them reaps extra benefits?
jack_32,
Let's not split hairs, she didn't call but she used e-mail to communicate (cancel) prior to the appointment time. And you already knew (or should have known) there was a problem, since she didn't make the location call.
The main thing is she DID communicate. Sometimes we get all wrapped up in the anticipation (Hey, their selling the sissle as well as the steak!). But we can forget to look at it from the providers view.
What if her child got sick at school & she had to go get them? Yes, that happened to me.
What if she had an auto accident. No one hurt but car wrecked & the place was crawling with cops? Happened to a friend of mine.
What if she's sick (bad cold)? I sure don't want to catch it. She made it up to me.
I also had to call a date & tell her I was going to be late... missed a turn thanks to a big truck to my right... so I pulled over & called, did the next exit... she didn't hold it against me & was able to accomidate the change in plans.
We deserve to be kept in the loop... as they do... communication at the first opportunity.
skb
She e-mailed you before your scheduled meeting, albeit last minute, and provided an apology and explanation that you should probably take at face value, especially if she is well known and reviewed. This happens to us all...just like us, the ladies have personal lives outside the hobby, and sh*t happens! I would go ahead and reschedule, and take advantage of her offer. Now, if she cancels again...no third chances, time to move on!
would give her a 2nd chance. Sometimes things do happen.
I had someone bitch me out for not leaving the hospital to see him when my grandpa had a heart attack. I couldn't explain to him that I didn't plan the heart attack, but if my grandpa were to die, then I'd want to be there in his last moments. He still didn't understand despite my calls and my emails to him in advance of our appointment.
Life gets in the way sometimes. It sounds like she's sincere and is offering to make it right. She sounds reputable. Just brush it off as a slight mishap. If you MUST see someone today, then I guess I'd give the p411 info to a new girl and jump through those hoops.
Good luck and remember, sometimes these things happen.
Katie