I prefer my hands, but other toys can be nice. I LOVE to look you in the eyes, while taking your breath away! lol smile 4 me!
I have recently been exposed to the whole Dom/Sub aspect of sex. My wife has always liked being controlled during sex but after reading 50 shades she is into it more than ever. My biggest concern is with breath control. Both of us find it very erotic and I have found many providers who enjoy it as well.
I'm hoping some here will sound off on how to they think it should be done. I'm always very cautious of the pressure I use and I get varied reactions from the ladies. Some like light pressure while one provider kept telling me more till I was seriously concerned and backed off.
Thoughts?
I adore breath play but only do it selectively and with partners I have a rapport with. My best advice is to have a frank conversation before playing about how your partner enjoys it. Start out slow and gentle, gradually building intensity and length of time. I think the hottest part is looking into each other's eyes during breath play - you can really see some intense emotions and thoughts going on behind each other's eyes. Very arousing. Also, I like using hand signals or a puppy squeezy toy to signal " yellow" or "red". Experimenting with different textures besides your hands can be really fun- maybe a silk scarf? or cashmere? latex? chain? Neck vs. hand over nose/mouth? You can also have a debriefing to see if it can be improved in any way. Of course, there needs to be a high level of trust and communication throughout the whole process. Don't want anything to go wrong - a hurt sub is not a sexy sub!
I prefer my hands, but other toys can be nice. I LOVE to look you in the eyes, while taking your breath away! lol smile 4 me!
I'm hoping some here will sound off on how to they think it should be done. I'm always very cautious of the pressure I use and I get varied reactions from the ladies. Some like light pressure while one provider kept telling me more till I was seriously concerned and backed off.
Thoughts?
but will only do it with guys I really trust.... usually it is with their hands, and when I am on top or they are on top....
I like it because they can face slap me at the same time with the other hand, and the combo drives me wild!
But we do like pinches, one is ok, 2 is getting too much and 3 is back off now