If the lady asks you "what do you like?" after you are both "comfortably dressed" (or semi undressed), then you can say pretty much what you want.  Just don't mention $$!  If you say, "Can I give you a facial for an extra benjamin?" she may very well through you out on your a$$.

I read reviews first
I never ask for anything by email, phone ,or when first meeting
I always expect a hug and hopefully at least a light kiss when I arrive..
I discretely hide the donation{since Cowboy pay doesn't provide enough for  escort money I moonlight as a magician}
I sit down beside her and since I am in the second minute and only 58 to go I kiss her like she is my long lost lover and  my hands gently touch her ...... Okay game is on unless you didn't read reviews first..

Option two.. When she opens the door discretely  place the donation and throw her on the bed and start DATY.After DATY you should be able to request your preferences but always respect the providers limits.

Option three..Start talking and before you know it the hour will be up, and you won't find out what her limits are, until the next visit.

for instance...

i got a call one night from a friend of mine. .she had a client come over and he saw my website was up on her pc so they started talking about me and realized they both knew me

so he says, call her up and see if she'll come over.

so i go over and before we get started on the session she starts asking the client what he wants and its like she reading from a checklist and creating this agenda.. first we'll do this, then that, then so on and how do you want it to finish.

im sitting there like whoa this is so wierd.

the client is looking like he's at a loss for words so i say to my friend, hey lets play it by ear.

she says, ana i want to make sure he's getting everything he expects so he doesnt get disappointed and complain afterwards that we didnt do this or that.

so i was like oh good point.

now, i hate to talk about things.. i feel as if you never really know whats going to happen when 2 people get naked so why bother with chit chatting about it.. its not football and there's no need to huddle before-hand and discuss the play.

however, my friend made a valid point.

so the answer is sorry dunno.

my question to you is why do you feel like you will need to tell her what to do ?

in general, after you're naked and paid is ok to talk

If you've got some different ideas about what you like, then I would seek a provider who provides these things.

I personally don't discuss details of a session and prefer to just jump into it whatever that may be. If you're new, it might be best to play it by ear and afterwards, you may mention to the lady (if you liked her and want to see her again) that next time you may want to try different things that you may have failed to express.

It's hard to tell you what to do because what would freak one girl out might not freak another out.

Katie

Old Guy,
I'm also an Old Guy that hasen't participated yet. I'm wondering what you have learned on this site about being an older hobbyist? It would be interesting to see which of us will get his feet wet first and what his experience was like.
Tesaro

That really gets the conversation flowing.

I'm pretty new to this and spent a lot of the time with a ATF... so when I needed to take a break & started seeing new ladies, I had one ask "What do you like?"  I was not prepared to answer & don't remember what I said...  

If she initiates the conversation, then it's ok to answer.
If you want something particular, I'd wait until yer both undressed & say "Can we do xyz?"
skb

For me, when you get there pretend you are at the end of a date.  Relax, go with the flow.  If she asks, say let's just play it by ear.  When you are already at it, then politely ask if you are looking for something particular.  While most women seem to say they are very open to pleasing the gentleman, most also seem to appreciate it when you don't come with a checklist.  

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That'a a good question but not one I would worry about. I have only seen a couple TER providers so far and both asked what I liked once we got started. I also asked them what they liked as I like to please as much as I like being pleased!
Sex is mostly in the mind anyway. I know this for a fact because when my doctor checks my prostate, I can't wait for him to get his finger out of there. Yet my last provider made me see stars doing that...Thought I died and went to heaven!!!

Treat it like a date with a lady. Just proceed, and be sensitive about resistance. If she doesn't want you to do something, she will let you know.

If you want something you can't just do, then wait for the appropriate time and ask. But, don't mention $$$. So, if she is giving a great BJ and you want to CIF, then ask while she is giving the BJ. She will either say: Ok, No, or that will be an additional Benjamin.

Now, if you really want to get kinky, wait until the second date.