Excuse me.  Are you asking one of us to aid and abet a person about to embark on criminal behavior?

If you are, do you think we're nuts?

for legal debate only

perhaps the question should be worded as

a provider is wanting to know what should she do and say to protect herself from legal hassles.

As I go through massage school, we constantly have to deal w/ protecting ourselves from frivolous lawsuits from clients.

She should only agree for money for her time and companionship and then proceed with activities she feels comfortable with.

The legal test of prostitution is a quid-pro-quo:

If you give me money, I will give you sex.  She needs
to stay as far away from that equation as possible. And
most real clients will want to help her avoid saying
that.  If a guy is trying to pin her down on the key
equation "If I pay you $X, will you do Y" then RUN,
because he is probably a cop.  Most guys are afraid
that the woman is an undercover policewoman, so the
guy does NOT want to say or hear the dangerous words
"I'll have sex with you if you give me money" because
it is just as dangerous for the man to say those
words or respond to those words.  Now there are some
guys who are worried about a rip-off and will want to
get specific, but the risks of it being a sting make
it not worth saving those clients.

If I were a provider and a woman, what I would do is
start fooling around with a guy WITHOUT asking for any
money.  (I would also have a hidden tape recorder because
none of this matters if the cop gets on the witness
stand and lies about what happened.  Reality won't matter.)

A guy is MORE likely to pay everything he owns after
he is in the middle of fooling around then before.  So
there is really very little risk that a guy won't pay
if the girl starts getting physical.

Then, only after the guy has gotten so deeply involved
that he could not be a cop and keep his job and not be
laughed out of court (totally naked, real sexual contact,
not merely massaging but something actually sexual) THEN
the girl can say "Oh, you know what, I forgot to even
ask for a little donation.  Silly me!" (play it up as
cute like men enjoy).  At that point the guy is likely
to empty his wallet just so she won't stop.

Sure, there is a risk that sometimes the girl wont' get
paid.  But so what?  I would trade the risk of sometimes
not getting paid against the risk of getting arrested.
If you have sex for free, boo-hoo, it's not the worst
thing in the world.

ALSO, what a gal should be trying to do is find guys that
she trusts to meet with regularly.  So it's worth it to
risk the money once or twice, while she is looking for
a list of guys who will keep coming back again and again.

The riskiest moment is meeting someone new for the first
time.  So the goal should be to find guys she knows who
will keep coming back.

Obviously, any guy who doesn't treat her right goes on
the black list for "never again."

Also, if I were a provider, I would act like everything
she does is ONLY for this one guy because he is so
special.  If she gets physical or sexual, act like she
never does this with anyone else, but he is so wonderful.
For example, maybe other guys just pay her for her time
to hang out or go out to dinner, but THIS guy (only) makes
her feel so hot (by the way he talks if he isn't attractive)
that she can't keep her hands off of him.  This has the
double benfit of stroking the guys ego while also making
it clear that she is NOT having sex for money, she is
doing it only because she WANTS to.

Maybe she normally gets paid for giving a massage.  But
just this once, she can't help herself, "I normally never
do this but I'm feeling horny."

And along these lines, the dangerous moment is when the
guy wants to know "what are you going to do for me?" This
should always be answered with a clear DENIAL of having sex
for money.  "Well, I don't have sex for money if that's what
you mean.  But I am a woman with feelings and naturally I
enjoy guys like any gal, of course.  So if you are nice to
me, you never know where it could lead.  I get turned on
like any gal.  And you look really handsome (or talk
really sweet or whatever)."