"I Have Actually Had Ice Cream With Two Different Ladies...Were They....
Posted by terrev, 4/12/2008 8:47:48 PM
hinting that they wanted more than my sweet Terrev Lovin' and I missed the signal?
Damn!"
roflmao...Yep if they asked you out for ice cream off the clock you missed the signal..Now they probably think you are a closet gay..but the bright side of that, is they will ask you out for ice cream again, since you are no longer a threat...and dancing also...lol
Jazz said in another post "Smart providers have sharp antennae, and will sense when a client is trying to get to close. "
Other than asking to see a gal 'off the clock', would you all tell me some clues to look for? Also, how does one prevent her clients from wanting to get close?
You have to set strict guidelines and make sure you follow them. Most experienced hobbyists will not cross that line between personal and professionlal relationships.
Sometimes gents may mistake what we say during casual conversation as an invitation to spend 'off the clock' time with us.
Sometimes you just get the gent that he himself has a hard time seperating the two. Just be clear with them that you enjoy spending time with them but only on a professional basis. If he continues with the unwanted behaviour, block his emails, calls and he will hopefuly go away nicely. I think a lot of gents though don't even realize they're crossing the line and just need a gentle reminder.
xoxo,
Meow
It's ok to chat about general likes & dislikes, hobbies... nothing identifying. Prying into your real name, etc is a big flag.
We all know that GFE is an illusion... "if life had been different we could have ended up together..." and my hat's off to the ladies who turn in performances worthy of an Oscar on occasion. But if the gent, doesn't recognoize it ends at the door... becomes emotionally attached... NEED I SAY MORE?
IF he wants to be exclusive, shows jealosy, ...
It takes a sense of just what to reveal and how close to get... I can't say how to control it. In all honesty, I feel I crossed the line with my ATF... and forced myself to take several months off & found a new Fav, though not an ATF. I've seen her once since, and it has cooled, as indeed it must.
skb
What do you mean by crossing the line with your atf? Is that too personal or can you share a little?
Over a year of seeing my ATF, we revealed a lot about our civie lives. I began to have emotional reactions to things in her life. For instance I knew her home needed repairs & I started thinking of ways to to help her out... things a BF would do. I AM NOT a BF... can not be even if I wanted to.
It's easy to become emotionally attached to someone you're having sex with... especially repeatedly. Maybe that's why guys switch around a lot? Dunno, (Question for the Love Godess). MUST keep a short leash on your emotions, for sure.
skb
-- Modified on 4/14/2008 4:56:15 AM
I've actually stopped seeing a couple of clients because they got too close.
I tell them that I don't want a boyfriend, nor am I interested in dating anyone outside of the business.
It's not in my nature to be monogamous.
How did they get too close? You mean they were trying to date you? or that feelings were there...?
Posted by SweetJaneHR
'Also, how does one prevent her clients from wanting to get close?"
Never invite him out for ice cream.
-- Modified on 4/12/2008 6:54:44 PM
hinting that they wanted more than my sweet Terrev Lovin' and I missed the signal?
Damn!
Who knew...ice cream....
Que Sera Sera...
"I Have Actually Had Ice Cream With Two Different Ladies...Were They....
Posted by terrev, 4/12/2008 8:47:48 PM
hinting that they wanted more than my sweet Terrev Lovin' and I missed the signal?
Damn!"
roflmao...Yep if they asked you out for ice cream off the clock you missed the signal..Now they probably think you are a closet gay..but the bright side of that, is they will ask you out for ice cream again, since you are no longer a threat...and dancing also...lol
Would that be a uniquely GFE event? I'm finding that making a session special, which they should be, requires toeing the line. It's fun for both of us but I don't want anyone (or me) to get too emotionally involved.
I hope this isn't something best learned by experience.
Anything said or done in the appointment time should always be considered just for fun..by both hobbyist and provider..
Its when the provider calls the hobbyist off the clock, for ice cream, thats when the fun might end.