I have been seeing a massage parlor girl for 5 months. I'm married but i try to stop by her shop and see her every day. i havent had a problem getting jealous when she has a customer come by for a massage and hj.
it's her job and she treats me well- she is so polite and pretty and sweet.
however i have had some unbelievable experiences
hanging out at an amp. I'm a financial executive and I often ask my self- what am i doing here??? but when you're 50 and there is a young hot asian girl with a hug and smile who
seems to be in love - i can't leave - i keep hoping she will meet some nice single guy and dump me so i can go back to my non descript suburban life. my wife thinks i ignore her because i have been "working so many late hours and almost every weekend" it has been crazy.
i hope it ends well for all of us.
With providers and clients sharing such intimate moments in real life, I was wondering how common that is in real life in the many scenarios that it can develop.
Secneario 1: providers and clients developing relationships
Scenario 2: clients start developing feelings for a provider
A girl I see mentioned that she had dated a few of her clients in the past, which really surprised me and made wonder about all the issues that could come up. She did say that she continued working and that he would always throw that in her face and there was some jealousy issues. Another one said that her friend ended up marrying a client who knows all about her life and they just keep it quiet. So, for scenario 1, just wondering how common that was and how that usually works out.
For scenario 2, for hobbyists, has a girl rocked your world so much where you secretly start developing feelings for her even though you know that it's not smart to feel that way. For providers, how do you feel when clients start developing these feelings?
Pretty Woman was a pretty slick well-produced movie, but I have a feeling that real life is way more messy and complicated than Richard Gere running up a tower to overcome his fear of heights.
I have been seeing a massage parlor girl for 5 months. I'm married but i try to stop by her shop and see her every day. i havent had a problem getting jealous when she has a customer come by for a massage and hj.
it's her job and she treats me well- she is so polite and pretty and sweet.
however i have had some unbelievable experiences
hanging out at an amp. I'm a financial executive and I often ask my self- what am i doing here??? but when you're 50 and there is a young hot asian girl with a hug and smile who
seems to be in love - i can't leave - i keep hoping she will meet some nice single guy and dump me so i can go back to my non descript suburban life. my wife thinks i ignore her because i have been "working so many late hours and almost every weekend" it has been crazy.
i hope it ends well for all of us.
Generally men who meet providers meet them in artificial circumstances. What I mean is that both the lady and the client are on their best behavior. Neither knows about those little idiosyncracies of the other; does she leave her pantyhose hanging over the shower curtain, does he leave the seat up after he uses the toilet? Plus, they really don't know the other person's life... how do they each handle stress, what do they like to do in the evening (does one like to go out and the other wants to sit in front of the tube), how they handle the relationships in their life (kids, parents, friends) and much more.
Personally, I keep biz and personal separate. I've had clients who felt they were in love.. a love I could not reciprocate. Normally what happens is they quit booking with me.
Just mu .02 cents.
You mean they just stop booking with you when they realize you can't reciprocate? Just wanted to clarify your last sentence. How did you know they were in love?
and please correct me if I am wrong Sinthia, or any of the other gals.
While an intense physical hour with a lady, like Sinthia, can do your emotional health a world of good (I know from experience!!!) is fantastic, it is not the basis of an emotional relationship.
I have many provider friends for whom I care deeply, and I believe the feeling is mutual. I've been there for one lady during a very hard time, and more than one has lady been there for me when I've needed a sounding board. When I think of these ladies, I wish them love and peace, and, of course, imagine our next encounter. But I ALWAYS keep on a friendly client / provider basis.
Unfortunately, there are guys who forget the nature of the relationship, or like Richard Gere in Pretty Woman, decide that it is his role to rescue a damsel in distress. Some damsels don't want to be rescued, and more would deny that they are in distress!!!
Smart providers have sharp antennae, and will sense when a client is trying to get to close. It is rather easy for her to let him know indirectly that she doesn't share his feelings or isn't interested. If he has a clue, he will move on. if he doesn't, all she has to do is ignore his calls and emails.
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I see a provider exclusively for whom I care very deeply and want the best for her in life. She tells me that she feels the same way about me. However, we are both in other long-term relationships (I'm married). Do I love her? Yes, most definitely. But that is where it begins and ends. We see each other once every 4 to 6 weeks and trade e-mails about once a week. Every few months she will call me just to say hello. Other than that, when I'm not with her I have fond thoughts. When we're together the passion is so deep and powerful it is like we are the only two people in the world. I feel so fortunate to know her. I'm not going to ruin a great thing!
I believe both scenarios are a lot more common than we want to admitt, with Scenario 2 being more prevalent. I have been seeing a women, who is a part-time provider (if there is a such a thing). Awhile ago we both accidentally cross that line. It started off with me helping out during a crisis in her life, of which she shared many of her personal life details. At one pt, i was even helping her to get a job at my work (yes, I know that was dumb). I continue to see her, and do not know how long it could last. As you pointed out, it could get messy. It is interesting you mentioned the "throwing it" in her face subject. The flip slide to this opinion is how Providers feel about dating clients. I'd like to hear from Providers how they feel about dating clients, with clients' questionable "fidelity" history. That seems to the barrier in the Provider mindset to dating clients.
Posted by jt2010
"I'd like to hear from Providers how they feel about dating clients, with clients' questionable "fidelity" history. That seems to the barrier in the Provider mindset to dating clients."
Lol I am not a provider but I think you are way off base.. I doubt seriously a provider would not express a desire , if she felt she wanted more than cash and dash, because of my infidelity issues.. IMO. I think the self esteem of most providers would tell them he won't want or need to cheat on me..
I would think the barrier would be more from a business stand point..
I am not way off base as you put it. I have possed the same question my provider. It was dissappointing to learn from her that had we met in other circumstances, our relationship would be a lot more fruitful. it is not so much a matter of fidelity, but more that she doesn't like the idea I have been hobbying. While we have hung out together, neither one of us believe we are marriage-material for each other. Her biggest holdback is this issue. Of course, this is only my experience, others maybe completely different
the provider may suspect (and rightly so) that the client she dates is just trying to get a bargain out of her; therefore she (rightly) wants to avoid such a messy situation.
Whether dating or a provider/client relationship, it is incumbent upon both parties to treat the other equitably, and if discussing the matter in this fashion makes either queasy (again, very understandable), then it is better not to go down that road.
The real question each of us must ask ourselves is: "Why do I want to date this person?" If it is just for sex and companionship, then stick to the provider/client scenario and you will both be better off.
If the reason is something more intense than that, then....best of luck to you both. (And I say that sincerely, not sarcastically.)