Newbie - FAQ

1 bit of additional advice...
CR987 26 Reviews 1615 reads
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Be confident in your appearance. Even if you keep those 15 pounds, be proud of your appearance and be confident about it. There will be lots of guys who find you smoking hot just the way you are. You don't want to be a copy of all the other providors out there. You want to be YOU and have your own look and sexiness. I think you certainly have a unique look (agree about the sexy eyes, and I would love to kiss those lips) and if you are confident about yourself it will make you much hotter. A confident girl is definitely sexy and the confidence highlights your positive features. Showing a lack of confidence will mean not many repeat clients. If you don't think you are sexy, why should we? And in case there is any doubt...you ARE very sexy! Good luck, have fun, and most importantly be safe.

And show us some more pics! :)

LovePersia2982 reads

I have been researching escorting for the last month and have finally decided I am going to do it.  I need the money bad and am beginning to think my life is boring with the plain old 9 to 5.  I just don't know how to start.  I live in very northern NJ and there isn't much around here.  I mean NYC is only 1 hour 15 minutes away, but I kind of wanted to start out slow -- and NYC isn't exactly a slow kind of place.  I just don't want to be taken advantage of.

Any suggestions?  

Another thing I am worried about is that I gained 15lbs but I need the money NOW, so I don’t have time to lose it before I start.  I don’t want to have people think THIS is what I look like because I have never been like this, and I will definitely not continue to be like this.  I feel like it would be better to wait until I get back in better shape but like I said, I need the money now.

Hopefully my picture will show up below so you can see what I am workin with.

Love, Persia

I don't think you'll have any problems finding clients with those eyes.   If I wasn't on the other coast I'd consider seeing you myself :)

My only suggestion would be to be very careful about who you see when you are starting out.  Research the hell out of the information available to you here and make sure you screen your clients no matter how much you need the money.  Safety first.

LovePersia1347 reads

Thank you!  I just created a website, but I don't know how to get it exposure.  Does anyone know of any free places to advertise my site?

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Hi Persia,

it appears you have been doing your research, and are taking this seriously!!!  You put together a nice site with some VERY NICE pictures!

Unfortunately, your site is missing the one thing that you need for advertising free on TER - a TER badge or banner on one of its first two pages.  This is required for linking your site on any of TER's boards.  It is really quite easy to add to the template you are using.  Feel free to email me at [email protected] if you need help.

Once you at a badge or banner, you can post a free ad once every seven days on the New Jersey board, and can announce your visits to other cities if you decide to travel.

BTW - make this correction ASAP!!!  I feel more than a bit guilty, and greedy, being the only one here who has seen your site! :-)

jazz32

that prevents you from PM'ing me a link???

j/k!

but to help out a newbie gal, and the curious, here are some breadcrumbs:

I LOVE looking at the pictures of a gal named PERSIA, who describes herself as an ULTRA ESCORT.

Hope I haven't made things too obvious! ;-)

jazz32

my2cnts1419 reads

I was looking up RARE not Ultra.  But thanks.

High Roller1625 reads

Jeez...Jazz...you're probably the most well-loved mod...but did you have to take that link. :)  ok, i know, it's your job.... but some of us need a few more bread crumbs than that.  persia, ultra escort....tried every variation, still nothing.

and a .com.  You'll find it!!!

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High Roller985 reads

Thanks Jazz.  That's why you're the most well-LOVED mod on these boards.... by the way, Persia's even hotter in her other pics.

dru2601131 reads

Ive been searching and still havent found her website... Has it been TER approved so the link can be posted?

UncleJazz1303 reads

Here are a few tips:

1) Don't give up your day job!  I say this not as a impression of your photo, you do have lovely eyes!  Successful providers come in all forms, and I know more than a few who could drop 15lbs.

What I mean is that getting started in the business takes a lot of effort, and can take some time.  Remember, you are starting a business, and need to treat it like a business.  Like any other business, your new venture will have start-up costs (photos, advertising, travel, lingerie, lube, condoms, etc., etc., etc!!!)  You can spend a lot of bucks looking for fast money.  Don't abandon regular income until you get established.

2) As for location, who says that prostitution only happens in the big cities?!?  The hobby exists wherever there men and women coexist.  Search the reviews for you local area code, and I suspect you will be surprised by the number of ladies, and where they operate.

3) TER has a New Jersey board.  Look through it, and you will see places where ladies work in the Garden State.

4) Think this one through!  The personal/moral implications of becoming a provider are real.  How many people are there that you don't want to know about this.  Are you prepared to live a double-life?  Are you prepared to lie to friends and family, or to be honest about what you are up to?  We hobbyists make similar decisions, but I think it is more complicated for the ladies.

Again, you have lovely eyes, and I wish you well,

jazz32

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Welcome hon,
I hope all goes well for you and wish you the best.

Where to get started and all...Well the research is a great begining. I have concerns about a young lady entering this biz with OUT doing enough research. Screening is essential. You need to know how to do this properly and safely. Your safety is first and foremost top on the list.
I have never worked for an agency, and it wasn't something I would want to do.
Yet, it may be a way for you to start out on the right foot. They can help you with pictures and advertising, hotels and bookings. Do your screening for you.  You need to remember it is expensive to maintain all...hotels, supplies, testing, its not as simple as it sounds.
I have a kid about your age, maybe older than you and not meant as an insult but along with youth comes being a bit neive. That worrys me.
You can start there, see if its for you, its not for everyone. They set you up and it is at little expense to you.
I don't know about any NJ or NY agencys but hon you are beautiful they will jump at the chance to work with you.
If you do this and feel you have gained enough $$flow and experience you can break out on your own and go Indie. If you decide it was Not for you you just walk away with lessons learned and you move on.
Running your own business, it is time consuming costly and detailed. I don't know you so I hope you don't see this as an insult. I just worry, I know people, there are a lot of good and bad ones out there. This is a tricky business if you are not careful. You are young and thats my concern.  I do think by coming here to Ter thats a great first step.
Be careful babe I wish you all the best.

Nicole

Persia,
Welcome to TER. Jazz gives you excellent advice. As to where to get started, please move south to the Carolinas. Nice winters and I can almost guarantee you that you'd be successfully there. I think you're lovely and would love to meet you.

nastydiva2041 reads

Welcome Persia!  I'm kind of in your situation.  I'm new and not from NYC, but I like working here.  And, as far as your picture, I think you look great!  Remember, different strokes for different folks.  You shouldn't feel you need to look a certain way, especially since you're already selling yourself short!  I don't have any suggestions (outside of what you've probably heard already), but if you have any questions you think I can help you with, I don't mind at all.  Maybe we can learn together.  Take care, and stay safe.

tokai1378 reads

Very pretty pic. If that is current, you shouldn't have a problem with the 15 lbs. Worst case, your looks rating start out at 8, and increase over time. BTW, it takes a little while to get reviews anyway.

Start slow. Don't quit your day job until you are firmly established.

While money is a great motivator, it is not a great motive. If you do it for the money and hate the job, it will come through, and you won't be able to command top $. At that point, it will be a lot less glamorous than you thought.

If you go to NYC, the cost of escorting there is much higher, hence the higher rates. I hear Newark/Secaucus, NJ is a popular listing location, so may be a good compromise, and place to start.

BTW: I sent you a PM with other thoughts. If you are not VIP, send me an e-mail at: [email protected].


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LovePersia1987 reads

I am not VIP so I don't think I have access to PMs.

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to have access to TER's PM system, you have to be a VIP, whether it be by payment, posting reviews, or the limited VIP status that TER offers ladies with at least three reviews.

jazz32

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shudaknownbetter2031 reads

Persha,
Your looks are fine.  Take the time to read all the boards here.  A lot of good tips mixed in with the chatter.  Read all the abreviations.  
You will need a cover for your source of income.  You'll have to pay some taxes.  Once you start making money, you need to establish a savings plan.  
BE CAREFUL.  Good looks are a help...   Never cheat anyone, be an honest provider.  Don't let anyone cheat you.  What you learn here will help keep you safe.  
At least to start, do not provide from where you live...  most never do.  
Get a separate phone for business.  
A separate e-mail.
Don't show your face in ads, blur them or do something.  Don't use the same ad or pict over & over (I figure those are ripped off from someone else).  Rotate 4-6 best shots, different views. Pick a stage name, build up a reputation for quality.  It is valueable.
Get a web site.  
There are many sites that you can advertize for free...  Check them periodically & update them.  Some sites outdate if not active.  
Best of luck...
skb

Wow - Your eyes are enchanting! I wouldn't be at all concerned over your appearance. Heck, adding another 15 lbs. wouldn't deter me from your stunning emeralds!

I suggest you look into preferred411.com which can help you establish yourself safely. It seems a great site for Newbies on both sides of the Hobby, and offers a level of security and safety that only our "Neighbor to the North" can provide. There are many, many places to post, but p411 and TER are the ones I know and trust.

I have also heard many SPs find themselves a "mentor" to help them along in the process.

Good luck in your new endeavor!

PS - Stay the hell away from Craig's List!!!

Be confident in your appearance. Even if you keep those 15 pounds, be proud of your appearance and be confident about it. There will be lots of guys who find you smoking hot just the way you are. You don't want to be a copy of all the other providors out there. You want to be YOU and have your own look and sexiness. I think you certainly have a unique look (agree about the sexy eyes, and I would love to kiss those lips) and if you are confident about yourself it will make you much hotter. A confident girl is definitely sexy and the confidence highlights your positive features. Showing a lack of confidence will mean not many repeat clients. If you don't think you are sexy, why should we? And in case there is any doubt...you ARE very sexy! Good luck, have fun, and most importantly be safe.

And show us some more pics! :)

Persia, you have received some excellent advise from all of the other posters to your thread.  

I would only like to add one observation.  No matter how beautiful you are, there will be others more beautiful.  Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, so as one of the others so eloquently stated, be proud of the person you are.

The thing I have seen that seems to differentiate the most successful ladies from the crowd is one thing.  They seem to have the ability to make every guy feel like he has a special connection with the lady.  Success in this business is built around repeat visits.  The more of these repeat clients you have, the more successful you will become.  

Those guys will come back again and again if you make them feel they are special.  

Good luck and don't settle or attempt to take shortcuts.

Persia,

One thing you might consider is working for a legitimate agency to begin with.  While they will take a substantial cut of your fee, they will also handle screening and cover the costs of incall.  This will give you an opportunity to learn a bit and decide if this is really what you want to do.  After a bit of time, you can always go independent if that is what you want.  You are a stunningly beautiful woman so I imagine most agencies would love to have you on staff if you are up for the job.

Search reviews in your area (or NYC for that matter) and find out what agencies have highly rated providers.  This will get you in with a respected agency that has happy repeat customers. Possibly some of the gents on here can suggest agencies local to you.  

I'm not going to go into a long lecture of what you should expect in this line of work, since the providers here could give you much better advice.  But as others have mentioned, appearances are only a portion of the game ... attitude is generally more important.  And that means coming to work with the attitude that you want to please the man that has shown up.

I wish you the best of luck in whatever you decide to do.


High Roller1760 reads

Looks are very important.
Fortunately for you, you look really hot....kind of like a hot girl at club look.  Like many have mentioned, I'd be careful, especially where safety and screening is concerned.  I disagree with the whole confidence thing...the fact that you're a hot girl who is a little insecure about her looks is actually kind of appealing--a little humility is not a bad thing at all...I don't think you have to worry about your looks.  You're better off working in New York since you can make way more moeny there than in New Jersey and you don't want to be working near your home where someone might recongize you.  Agencies might be a good place to start, but some don't really screen as well as you think so be selective of which agency you choose... maybe, you can pose this question in the New York board.  There is this book written by a former Dallas escort...I wish I could remember the name (do you guys here remember?) where the escort pretty much lays out how to get started, how to deal with customers and every issue that an escort faces...  If anyone remembers that books name, please mention it..  It was like a guide to escorting.  

If there's any way you can pay your bills another way, you're probably better off not entering the business.  I know that's not a popular opinion around here.  But, there's a lot of issues that you will face entering the business...and if it's just paying your bills, well....I don't know, I just would hate to see a fresh-faced girl like you do something that she would regret just to pay the bills.

my2cnts1106 reads

I agree with most of the advice you have gotten so far.  Key thing to remember is you don't want to do something you might regret later on so think carefully and take your time.  You also want to make sure this is really what you want to do.  If it isn't and money is your sole concern, it will show in your performance and in turn effect your business.  

Also, an agency may be the best way to go, which I notice in your post below you are already considering.  Besides gaining experience, talk to some of the other girls you meet.  They'll be able to offer advice.  

Take your time and I wish you the best.  Also, what is your email?  If you aren't vip and can't see messages, I'm sure others, including other ladies, wouldn't mind offering advice if they could contact you.

Honey, you need to move to Atlanta, its booming in this business.  PM me and I will put you in touch with someone here who can help you.

GT

you would love the South hon...beautiful weather~~~Nice people~~~Little winter~~~AND~~~
GREAT food!!! Biscuits and gravy~~Sweet tea~~chicken n dumplings....YUMMY!!!

LovePersia1717 reads

Haha I wish I could move.  Unfortunately I am tied to NJ until I save up enough money to leave.  I want to thank everyone for their support!!!  My e-mail is [email protected] for those of you who want to PM me because I am not VIP.  (Sorry Jazz if I am not supposed to put that up! :-/)  

I have an appointment with an agency today.  I think they might end up being bad…but we’ll see!  I got my first date request from my website yesterday, so I am going to check that out today too!
I posted another picture below FYI.

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