If you want BBBJ, then you should consider shaving it or trimming it short . I would think that most providers will appreciate a well groomed person.
Beside, tell your wife that you are trying something new if she questions you on the clean look. Use your big head & be creative w/ your answer!!!
It has been an interesting experience for me personally & my providers seem to appreciate it.
I know this may seem like a dumb question, but what is the proper attire for a hobbyist going to an appointment (this will be my first time)? I realize that it may be many and varied, and many providers list proper etiquette, but my question was related to proper clothing. Casual, dress, dress casual? I know cleanliness is the most important aspect(and I consider this to be of utmost importance), but I am not sure what to wear to my first appointment. I am always well-groomed, and have not facial hair. My profession allows me to wear athletic wear (khaki's, polo shirt or t-shirt, and tennis shoes). Is this appropriate, or should I wear clothes that are more dressy. I just want to make sure I make a good first impression. I always wear body spray and cologne. Is this OK?
I always show up in sport jacket, Tommy Bahama slacks and dress shoes. Being clean shaven "down there" has always gone a long, long way if you know what I mean.
Good luck be clean show respect and reap the rewards!!
Briar, thanks for your response. It sound mighty dressy to me. I am more of a casual, or dressy casual guy. I also understand the clean shaven idea, but can't do that. First, I am married. My wife would certainly question why I had done this. Also, read the posts on the Atlanta Board about this same issue, posted just yesterday. It seems like a lot of discomfort to me. Oh well, "different strokes, for different folks". Any other hobbyist out there with there suggestions?
If you want BBBJ, then you should consider shaving it or trimming it short . I would think that most providers will appreciate a well groomed person.
Beside, tell your wife that you are trying something new if she questions you on the clean look. Use your big head & be creative w/ your answer!!!
It has been an interesting experience for me personally & my providers seem to appreciate it.
I know that this could be reasonably explained by some, and I certainly can be imaginative, but why draw suspicion to something if I don't have to. Some SO'smight notquestion this, but I am sure others would. I certainly believe my wife would want to know why I did this after over 20 years of marriage. Any married men or ladies out there who can offer an opinion. I realize that providers probably prefer this look, but is this a reason for some to disqualify a hobbyist? Is this also true for men who have not been cut?
groomed yourself your SO may be more inclined to give you head?? It may also lead to you and her having an interesting conversation?? EVERY woman I've ever been with including providers, have always commented in the very positive on seeing a well groomed man. I've shaved for many years and use soap and water with no irritation what so ever. Woman have the same irritations and advise using a womans shaving cream and making sure the area is cleaned after words.
The way I see it, it's your fantasy...so what do You want the lady to wear is the better question. You should wear what makes you comfortable and you feel relaxed in. It also depends on what your date is consisting of. If its a dinner date then thats different and to what degree You want to take it to. It's your fantasy so its what works for you.
I never worried about my clients' attire, as long as they are clean. Jeans and T-shirt is totally fine with me.
many guys really overdo it. Give the lady a break.
If you must wear it, use it sparingly, one or two light sprays. Put it on your clothing after you dress. That way she can get just a whiff of it when you first meet but it will not be on you when you are getting down to business. Don't want to overwhelm her with the smell. And never spray it"down there", it tastes bad. Also, don't put it on just before the visit, give it a bit of time to mellow.
As for dress...depends where you are and what kind of guy you are. If meeting at her upscale, busy DT hotel, I dress like I do for a business meeting to blend in with the clientele. If it is a weekend I dress down more, again like the tourists that are visiting.
In a hotel that is not as much for the power business type, I go more casual. Jens or slacks and casual shirt.
It is not a date in the typical sense of the word. You do not have to impress, but you will show disrespect by being frumpy or disheveled, or by your dress and appearance being "out of place" and drawing unneeded attention.
You show your best side to a provider by being on time (not late, not early), following her ettiquette, being clean, polite and respectful. But mostly by being relaxed and having a good attitude. You will go far by being in the moment with her. Just like you want her to focus on you, treat you like a king, total devotion to you, you should do the same to her. Bring a smile and a great attitude and you'll be fine.
Certain ladies are just crazy for certain colognes, so if she is nice enough to give you a bottle, or even to make a suggestion that you wear a certain brand, take them up on it. You'll be glad you did but remember: A little dab will do ya.
Here's the drill as told to me by mine own sweet wonderful Beverly:
Put a drop or two on one forearm, them rub your two forearms together. then rub your forearms across your neck and chest. That's all there is to it.
This is the kind of shit they should be teaching in sex ed courses, not all that weird zygote crap.
he said this was his first time. And yeah, the forearm thing is great and a dab will do yah.
During the week, I dress business casual; typical casual, i.e., jeans, on Friday's and w/e's. No provider I have ever seen ever had any negative commentary, so I guess just wear what you are comfortable with. Cleanliness, as you stated, is key, and shaving the boys is helpful as well...
That's what she'll notice first. Make them leather and casual. Above all: no sneakers.
Harachis are OK for summer but only if you have decent toes and don't wear socks with them, what ever you do.
OK, I'll bite. Why absolutely no sneakers? I wouldn't wear smelly old ones, but a nice new pair of running shoes or tennis sneaks, she's liable to think you're a player......This does seem like a baseless prejudice, unless you're being tongue in cheek
And yes, I wear Asics running sneakers occasionally.....
I can not name names of course, but I do a lots of threesomes and also hang out socially with gals from time to time and when the discussion of footwear comes up, the mention of sneakers invariably brings a scrunch to the nose and mouth.
I don't pretend to understand it, after all, I'm a guy.
I think the gals still don't quite know why we like to see tits. 8o)
The main thing, of course, is to dress in a way that won't draw attention to yourself if your appt. is at an in-call location. If the in-call is a high-priced hotel, you want to blend in. That would likely mean no sweat pants. I've had the opposite situation where the in-call was a modest Days Inn and I felt totally out of place in full business attire.
My personal favorite setting aside? I tight fitting cashmere sweater. That way the provider really enjoys that first hug before the sweater comes off.
The other folks are right about lightening up on the body spray and cologne. As you'll see, the appt. is all about cleanliness. Smells are pretty natural and subtle. A lot of cologne might get in the way of appreciating the lady.
I dont think attire means anything as long as you are not totally sluming it...lol....It's funny how on the "turn-offs" on many of the girls narratives on their websites/ads are "bad smells",unclean people,etc...lol
Definatly make sure your hygiene is up to snuff.