Welcome aboard, and I hope everything goes well for you.

Cell Phone:  When you contact her, whether directly or by message, make sure to tell her the hours she can safely call your cell phone.  If you don't, she may assume (although she definitely shouldn't) that she can call anytime.  If she is well reviewed, she will most likely respect your wishes.  If in doubt, turn off your phone when your wife can answer it.

White List:  It's not a review, it's just a recommendation stating that she considers you safe.  It's like having a reference without any details unless the next provider contacts her to ask when screening you.  Some providers do not like to participate, nor do they want to be indiscriminately contacted by the next providers for references.  Usually, they will give you a reference, but they want you to ask them before hand.  If they Whitelist you, they don't have that control.

Sooner or later, you will find someone to Whitelist you if you earn it and they participate in it.


Good Luck

For married guys, I would suggest that you get a disposable cell phone and keep its very existence quiet from the meme sahib.

These can be picked up at most discount stores and loaded up with minutes as needed.

Second on using a disposable phone.

Also, if you're tricky, you could use something like Grand Central to pre-screen calls or to "shut out" unknown numbers during certain hours.

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I use a Virgin Mobile phone for my recreational interests.  I add $20 in minutes every 3 months and have never run out of minutes.  No paper trail whatsoever.

This phone does not come home with me.  PERIOD.

Good suggestions above.  I have never even thought of a "white list" review.  Never had one.  Never needed one.  Just treat everyone by the 'golden rule' and you'll develop a good reputation by which the ladies will be happy to give you a recommendation when asked.