Re:*I'm cumming* - Some of us verbalize it. Others do not. Do you like to say it? Like to hear it?

Hiya codpeace,

You are asking "is it better [for you] to remain mute until my climax has run its course?"

I don't believe that censoring verbal expressions OF ANY KIND is a good thing during sex. This can lead to a whole host of problems like for instance "spectatoring," the cognitive monitoring of sexual performance. The sexual act can become excessively self-focused, non-erotic and performance-oriented.

Yes, I do believe that the spontaneous outburst of "I'm coming," or, as the Japanese would say, "I'm going," or any type of vocalization, is related to that endorphin rush we all crave. So keep screaming, drooling, clawing and in general act crazed with desire. It's good for you! If your partner gets a little out of sync, well, look at what happens - you feel like repeating, to squeeze the last drop out of that sexual high.

Round two usually does it
the Love Goddess

I usually proclaim my imminent arrival to my partner and God with either a straightforward declarative or some medley of guttural vocalizations.  I have also experienced how this sometimes leads to a change of my partner's movements and tempo that sometimes is not for the better (although it's never actually bad and it never prevents the finale).  I've found that many times if I establish a deep eye contact lock at that moment then she will focus on recipricating the stare and thus leave the movements and tempo as they were.  But otherwise as you suggest I think she changes in an attempt to increase your pleasure and/or attempts to ready herself to 'cum' along for the ride.

I also have to admit that I at times may be guilty of the same.  My DATY style is usually one that incorporates slow and deliberate licks, flicks and deep tongue action.  However I do notice that sometimes when she is reaching an impending O that I'll suddenly go harder and faster and in doing so perhaps I've broken her stride.  Because of this I try to make an effort to maintain my pace and action sequence and just hold on for the hip-thrust ride that follows.    

One last obvious thought:  It's easy enough to say 'keep doing it just like that' to inform our partners that they are doing just fine.      

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I guess it depends on cir"cum"stances. With some, it is a warning when CIM is not appreciated, or when she wants it on her body and not in the bag. Other times, when she is close, it's just a signal for simultaneous climax. Other times it's just part of OH GOD, as in THIS IS THE BEST FUCK TODAY! Also depends on the general level of vocalization throughout the entire session - some are much more quiet than others. - DC Board Member

I've tried being less vocal, if possible, for the same reason.  I find if I articulate my response at a critical moment, a man tends to go faster or harder, and although it may feel great, it messes up the arousal level I had reached that may have taken me to a climax.  Maybe women are different in this way, but for me, doing the same feel-good thing but a bit longer or possibly going slower (depending) would be better.  I know it is all about communicating your needs, but the problem with me is at that lightning-quick moment, I do not have the presence of mind to say "I'm almost there, please god, do not change what you're doing one little bit"  Maybe I should practice that.  

Many when the earth starts to move for me ....  I'm yelling I'm calling out to the heavens I'm slapping her ass and she knows I'm pounding for home ....  The neighbors KNOW I'm pounding my babe.

In the BJ department, my hands slip behind her head and I pull her gently down on me for DT as I let her know I want he to take it all deep ...

Rarely am I refused and as I'm cuming she knows I want her to swallow it all.

So gimme sex .... with sound effects added.

Muff



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