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keystonekid 114 Reviews 978 reads
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active2164 reads

Hi all,

I place this on the newbie board to remind guys of their options.  I was involved with the hobby for about 4 years.  I am no longer.  I do not claim any moral superiority for one decision or another.  There are people for whom the hobby is a good thing and an appropriate part of their lives.  For me, however, it was not.  If you are someone like me, who is entering with doubts and insecurities, I just want to remind you that there are other options.

I was convinced that the hobby was the best I was going to get, sexually.  I was in a bad marriage, and I thought this was just how life was.  In the end, I worked up the nerve and I left my ex.  I'm not proud of that, but I will say that it is the best thing I have ever done for myself in my life.  I have now been in a great relationship for 9 months (after about 9 months on my own), and that is the point of this message.  Now that I have found a girl with whom I have a genuine relationship (never true with my ex), the sex is FANTASTIC.  Better than any provider could ever match - no offence, girls :).  There truly is no better aphrodisiac than a real partner.

So if the hobby is genuinely fun for you, great.  Your heart is the best judge of what works for you.  But if it feels to you like it is a way to get by in a life that seems "never quite enough", then it's time to change your life.  Maybe the future will see me back here.  But I honestly hope not.  For me, the hobby was "never quite enough."

Have fun everyone, and be safe.

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Forrest G. Hump1640 reads

I have often felt that for me the hobby was "never quite enough"  ... but the stars haven't been aligned for me me in terms of a SO ...

So until I do find that "someone special" the hobby keeps me fulfilled.

Thanks for your perspective though ... and good luck in the civvie life!

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little phil1104 reads

I think most of us would prefer fulfillment away from here.  In the meantime, I can think of worse places to hang out.

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mrfisher1931 reads

best wishes on this new relationship but remember, we'll always be here when you need us.

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tokai1868 reads

just kidding.

Glad you found the lady of your dreams that also is fantastic in bed. A rare find.

Can we bring a few escorts to the Bachelor party?

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meettheman956 reads

I think you are not in the minority.  At least, I was in that position. I started only a couple of months ago and early on found an ATF. We hit it off and the time together was better than when I walked in popped the cash down and bought an hour.  The difference was she fullfilled what was missing in the marriage. However, she also told me she was not really enjoying the profession and was leaving it at the end fo Feb.  We've been seeing each other since on a social basis and growong closer. When she was getting out of it I began to wonder about seeing others but just had not desire to start hobbying again.  Of course we had lunch the other day and she made sure I went back to work; almost like being married.

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gtbeatdawgs1418 reads

I would say this:  I have been maried 2 X, the last for 17 years. I have been handling divorce case for 30 years.  These days a CR is tantamount to a marriage.  I truly have worn out with women and committed raltionships.  I just don't care to invest the time and energy in them any more.  I love the hobby!  I'v been at it a few months now and I really enjoy the freedom of seeing lovely young ladies that I choose and w/o any committments other than being a gentleman.  I'v been seeing a provider here in Atlanta who is about 30 years younger than me and she is absolutely stunning. I think I will be a hobbyist for ever.

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