The Erotic Highway
Dear frankfurter69,
Answers to your questions:
Stimulating a woman's G spot maximally through the rectum? That's a new one. Please read a few threads below on G-spots. In addition, some men, no matter how much lube and caution they use, are simply too big in the penile department for some women's rectal areas. Period. No ifs or butts 
Sex therapists as glorified sex surrogates? It appears AASECT has done a really bad job in disseminating information about sex therapists. For your convenience, please see the information at the end of this posting. This is what it takes to become a sex therapist. It's probably as far as you could get from a sex surrogate, glorified or not.
As to preferences, well, we all have them. I don't know if you were the original poster asking the questions, or if you just concur with him. If it's the latter, and you feel completely satisfied with your preference, then there is no problem, and no more processing needed. If "anal sex [to you] overshadows other deficiencies," and, if you truly believe that you "don't know too many issues that couldn't be solved with [your] available resources," then I wish you the best of luck in finding an appropriate partner - if that's what you want. Just some caution - your beliefs may be in the minority. That's probably why the questions were asked in the first place.
Enjoy reading the sex therapist qualifications from AASECT,
the Love Goddess
AASECT Requirements for Therapist Certification
The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT) has established that the following education and experiential activities will meet the requirements for certification as a Sex Therapist.
Academic and Psychotherapy Experience:
The applicant will have earned an academic degree in a human service program that included psychotherapy training from an accredited college or university, and the following clinical experience as follows:
A. Master's degree plus two years of post-degree clinical experience or as a psychotherapist (20 hours/week x 50 weeks/year = 1,000 hours/year), ).
OR
B. B. A Doctorate degree plus one year of post-degree clinical experience as a psychotherapist (1000 hours/year).
IV. Clinical Certification:
A. The applicant will hold a valid state regulatory license or certificate in one of the following disciplines: psychology, medicine, social work, counseling, nursing, or marriage and family therapy.
V. Human Sexuality Education:
The applicant will have completed a minimum of ninety (90) clock hours of education covering general knowledge in the following core areas. This knowledge may have been gained through academic courses and training workshops.
A. Sexual and reproductive anatomy and physiology.
B. Developmental sexuality (from conception to old age) from a psychobiological perspective.
C. Dynamics of interpersonal relationships.
D. Gender‑related issues.
E. Socio-cultural (ethnicity, religion, socioeconomic status) factors in sexual values and behavior.
F. Marital Partnering and family dynamics.
G. Medical factors that may influence sexuality including illness, disability, drugs, pregnancy and pregnancy termination, contraception and fertility, sexually transmitted diseases.
H. Knowledge of sexually transmitted infections and safer sex practices.
I. Sex research/literature.
J. Sexual abuse.
K. Varieties of sexual orientation and gender identities.
L. Atypical sexual behavior, hyper-sexuality, and sexual dysfunction.
M. Substance abuse and sexuality.
N. History of the discipline of sexology.
VI. Sex Therapy Training:
The applicant will have completed a minimum of (60) clock hours of training in how to do therapy with patients/clients whose diagnoses include the Psychosexual Disorders described in the current edition of the Diagnostic and Statistics Manual of the American Psychiatric Association (DSM IV). Sex therapy training may have been obtained through credit courses, tutorials, workshop, etc. The following must have been included:
A. Theory and methods of sex-related psychotherapy, including several different models.
B. Techniques of sex-related assessment and diagnosis of the Psychosexual Disorders described in the current edition of the DSM IV.
C. Theory and methods of approach to intervention in relationship systems experiencing sex and intimacy problems.
D. Theory and method of approach to medical intervention in the evaluation and treatment of psychosexual disorders.
E. Principles of consultation, collaboration, and referral.
F. Techniques for evaluating clinical outcomes.
G. Practicum experience, i.e. exposure to treatment of clinical cases through observation, demonstration, videotape presentation, role-playing, etc.
VII. Attitudes/Values Training Experience:
The applicant will have participated in a minimum of ten (10) clock hours of structured group experience consisting of a process‑oriented exploration of the applicant's own feelings, attitudes, values, and beliefs regarding human sexuality and sexual behavior (e.g., a SAR). Such training may not be personal psychotherapy or an academic experience in which the primary emphasis is on cognitive information. It is strongly recommended that this experience occur early in the applicant's training to be most beneficial.
B. The applicant will submit a one page comprehensive statement of his/her professional philosophy and goals of sex therapy including how the SAR affected that philosophy.
VIII. Clinical Experience:
The applicant will have completed a minimum of two hundred fifty (250) hours of supervised clinical treatment of patients/clients who present with sexual concerns. Clinical experience will include, but not be limited to, the diagnosis and treatment of psychosexual dysfunctions (diagnoses included in the Psychosexual Disorders of the DSM IV). It is expected that the applicant will function as the sole or primary therapist with patients/clients. This clinical experience will have exposed the applicant to a variety of the listed psychosexual disorders and will have included therapy with patients/clients of both genders and with couples. This supervised experience may have been completed prior to, during, or following the receipt of the terminal graduate degree.
IX. Supervision:
The applicant shall have completed a minimum of fifty (50) hours of individual supervision with an AASECT Certified Supervisor or AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. Where such supervision is not feasible or possible, supervision can be arranged, with prior approval, from an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist who has experience in the supervision of clinical practice.
Oh the jokes a shrink could make out of your posting, Buttplugger,
I'm trying to restrain myself from answering in somewhat of a punny jest. It's not working very well. I just have to say it: Dear Buttplugger, you are arrested at the Freudian psychosexual ANAL STAGE and can't get out of it!
Ok, now that's done, and we can get on with more serious matters. Why do most women hate anal sex so much? First of all, I don't think most women HATE anal sex, but clearly, many are not fond of it. Why? Maybe because it hurts? It could be as simple as that. Also, some women are so intensely clitorally and vaginally orgasmic, that travels up the Hershey highway just doesn't do it for them. And of course, we've got the intense cultural taboo against putting things up the butt - for good reason. It's the area where poop comes out. Excrement is waste, and there are loads of germs in that waste. So possibility of disease and infection might be another factor for why people in general associate the anus with things going out and nothing going in.
What should you do to meet a woman who enjoys it so much like you, so that you can get married some day? Well, I sure hope that ain't the criterion for getting married. As is evidenced by the members of this board, sexual practices alone are not good indicators of a happy marriage. There are plenty of players on TER who profess to be happily married. So clearly, they weren't looking for a woman who could deliver the best BJ's or come up with the most positions when they said their vows. Generally, marriage entails a meeting of the minds in most arenas OTHER than the sexual.
Should you marry a porn star or provider? Well, yes, if you both fall in love with each other and apply the criteria above. Try to match up everything NON-sexual, to ensure that you share the same philosophy when it comes to creating a mutually satisfying household. Outside of their professions, porn stars and providers who are married are usually responsible parents, mortgage payers, and generally engage in the same mundane activities as the rest of the world out there. But yes, if the stars align along every galaxy, AND there is a fondness for anal sex, why not? But watch out - plenty of providers and porn stars don't necessarily like it in their spare time. It could be a function of their profession!
Do you need psychological help to "cure" you of your fetish? Well, if you came to my office and we were in session, I would not attempt to "cure" you of your fetish. I believe that your fetish is totally fine - if you treat it as a fetish, and not as an obsession. But, since you allude to the fact that it might be just that - meaning, you have constant thoughts about butts, how to score the next butt, you can't concentrate at work, your whole life revolves around butt-thoughts - then we'd go deeper and plumb the depths [egads, pun, couldn't resist] of your thinking pattern, and perhaps fine comb your life in a historical sense, to explore the topic from all angles.
Another issue would be, what if you find a woman who loves anal sex, but has a bunch of other, problematic life issues? Would you be with her regardless, as long as you got to butt plug her whenever? Maybe that's a problem...you are willing to overlook some serious deficiencies in a woman, as long as she butters up to you [sorry 
again}.
I really believe the issue deserves to be processed, and perhaps this forum will not be satisfying enough for you. Talking to a sex therapist might actually help. Not to "cure," but to explore.
Let's hear it from our esteemed board members, shall we?
the Love Goddess
Dear frankfurter69,
Answers to your questions:
Stimulating a woman's G spot maximally through the rectum? That's a new one. Please read a few threads below on G-spots. In addition, some men, no matter how much lube and caution they use, are simply too big in the penile department for some women's rectal areas. Period. No ifs or butts
Sex therapists as glorified sex surrogates? It appears AASECT has done a really bad job in disseminating information about sex therapists. For your convenience, please see the information at the end of this posting. This is what it takes to become a sex therapist. It's probably as far as you could get from a sex surrogate, glorified or not.
As to preferences, well, we all have them. I don't know if you were the original poster asking the questions, or if you just concur with him. If it's the latter, and you feel completely satisfied with your preference, then there is no problem, and no more processing needed. If "anal sex [to you] overshadows other deficiencies," and, if you truly believe that you "don't know too many issues that couldn't be solved with [your] available resources," then I wish you the best of luck in finding an appropriate partner - if that's what you want. Just some caution - your beliefs may be in the minority. That's probably why the questions were asked in the first place.
Enjoy reading the sex therapist qualifications from AASECT,
the Love Goddess
AASECT Requirements for Therapist Certification
The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT) has established that the following education and experiential activities will meet the requirements for certification as a Sex Therapist.
Academic and Psychotherapy Experience:
The applicant will have earned an academic degree in a human service program that included psychotherapy training from an accredited college or university, and the following clinical experience as follows:
A. Master's degree plus two years of post-degree clinical experience or as a psychotherapist (20 hours/week x 50 weeks/year = 1,000 hours/year), ).
OR
B. B. A Doctorate degree plus one year of post-degree clinical experience as a psychotherapist (1000 hours/year).
IV. Clinical Certification:
A. The applicant will hold a valid state regulatory license or certificate in one of the following disciplines: psychology, medicine, social work, counseling, nursing, or marriage and family therapy.
V. Human Sexuality Education:
The applicant will have completed a minimum of ninety (90) clock hours of education covering general knowledge in the following core areas. This knowledge may have been gained through academic courses and training workshops.
A. Sexual and reproductive anatomy and physiology.
B. Developmental sexuality (from conception to old age) from a psychobiological perspective.
C. Dynamics of interpersonal relationships.
D. Gender‑related issues.
E. Socio-cultural (ethnicity, religion, socioeconomic status) factors in sexual values and behavior.
F. Marital Partnering and family dynamics.
G. Medical factors that may influence sexuality including illness, disability, drugs, pregnancy and pregnancy termination, contraception and fertility, sexually transmitted diseases.
H. Knowledge of sexually transmitted infections and safer sex practices.
I. Sex research/literature.
J. Sexual abuse.
K. Varieties of sexual orientation and gender identities.
L. Atypical sexual behavior, hyper-sexuality, and sexual dysfunction.
M. Substance abuse and sexuality.
N. History of the discipline of sexology.
VI. Sex Therapy Training:
The applicant will have completed a minimum of (60) clock hours of training in how to do therapy with patients/clients whose diagnoses include the Psychosexual Disorders described in the current edition of the Diagnostic and Statistics Manual of the American Psychiatric Association (DSM IV). Sex therapy training may have been obtained through credit courses, tutorials, workshop, etc. The following must have been included:
A. Theory and methods of sex-related psychotherapy, including several different models.
B. Techniques of sex-related assessment and diagnosis of the Psychosexual Disorders described in the current edition of the DSM IV.
C. Theory and methods of approach to intervention in relationship systems experiencing sex and intimacy problems.
D. Theory and method of approach to medical intervention in the evaluation and treatment of psychosexual disorders.
E. Principles of consultation, collaboration, and referral.
F. Techniques for evaluating clinical outcomes.
G. Practicum experience, i.e. exposure to treatment of clinical cases through observation, demonstration, videotape presentation, role-playing, etc.
VII. Attitudes/Values Training Experience:
The applicant will have participated in a minimum of ten (10) clock hours of structured group experience consisting of a process‑oriented exploration of the applicant's own feelings, attitudes, values, and beliefs regarding human sexuality and sexual behavior (e.g., a SAR). Such training may not be personal psychotherapy or an academic experience in which the primary emphasis is on cognitive information. It is strongly recommended that this experience occur early in the applicant's training to be most beneficial.
B. The applicant will submit a one page comprehensive statement of his/her professional philosophy and goals of sex therapy including how the SAR affected that philosophy.
VIII. Clinical Experience:
The applicant will have completed a minimum of two hundred fifty (250) hours of supervised clinical treatment of patients/clients who present with sexual concerns. Clinical experience will include, but not be limited to, the diagnosis and treatment of psychosexual dysfunctions (diagnoses included in the Psychosexual Disorders of the DSM IV). It is expected that the applicant will function as the sole or primary therapist with patients/clients. This clinical experience will have exposed the applicant to a variety of the listed psychosexual disorders and will have included therapy with patients/clients of both genders and with couples. This supervised experience may have been completed prior to, during, or following the receipt of the terminal graduate degree.
IX. Supervision:
The applicant shall have completed a minimum of fifty (50) hours of individual supervision with an AASECT Certified Supervisor or AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. Where such supervision is not feasible or possible, supervision can be arranged, with prior approval, from an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist who has experience in the supervision of clinical practice.
I can't get enough either!
Nothing better than a man deep inside my butt!
I could live off giving blow jobs and getting my ass pounded!
Well, I guess I do...right?
Damn! I wish I could find a man like you for my own personal pleasure!~~~~
BDG
Yes, just the username "BackDoorGirl" makes you marriage material.
I normally just read and don't indulge in adding to the "fray" but I've got to the say this is the most entertaining forum discussion that I've EVER read! I don't mean to be insensitive to any of the parties involved in this discussion because it sounds like some big-ass problems (pun intended butt boy, the jokes by LG and "Buttplugger meet BackDoorGirl" is just absolutely hilarious!!!!
It sounds like LG had as much fun with it as I had fun reading it...
Thanks for making my day.