Cautionary tale about keeping records - also posted on the LA Board. What to do now?

To all TER members..I want to share a story with you. A few years ago, when I was in college, I started escorting. At that time, I used my real name and I was
 very cavalier about giving out all sorts of personal details. I didn't have a page on the Internet, TER was not on my radar screen and I mainly got referrals from a
 few other providers. One day, I got a call from a very successful professional in his mid-30s. We met at a hotel. He was very attractive, fun, smart, great in bed
 and VERY GENEROUS. He also was, in his own words, ''in a crappy marriage,'' and I was made to feel that this wasn't just a physical encounter, it was also a
 meeting of the minds. He was very complimentary and our meetings became a once-a-month event. We started meeting in his home town a few hours driving time
 from LA. As these meetings were a few hours long, and, I had to do the driving back and forth, I charged accordingly. He was only too happy to pay and to help
 out with my college expenses. After a few months of these meetings, he began to worry about handing me so much cash. He asked to write checks to me, which I
 felt was OK. After another few months of writing checks to my name, he started agonizing that his wife might find out. We both devised a plan that he should
 write the checks directly to various accounts I had, like my car loan, my student account, my credit card account. All the checks were written with the paid to name
 in initials only; for example, the payment for the car loan went to BFXKS, etc. This went on for a few years. He once reflected on it and said, ''oh well, if I get
 divorced one day, she might find out and I might have to pay her a little extra in the settlement, that's all." Besides depositing these checks, I never kept any
 records or accounts of how much money I was given. I never really reflected on the amount, except I was very grateful for his generosity and the entire situation.
 Of course, I provided a service to him and he was undoubtedly grateful also!

 All of a sudden, it was going on year six and he finally separated from his wife. In doing so, he also met another woman ''in real life,'' began dating her and
 effectively terminated our relationship. I understood completely, wished him the best of luck and went on my merry way. Two years passed and life went by as
 usual. Then, one day last week, at 10pm, in my own home, I was served with papers from the wife's lawyer. The experience was very unpleasant and I became
 very anxious. They asked for records (which I didn't have,) but more so, they asked me to call them to discuss the matter, obviously to help them in locating his
 frittered-away community funds so that the wife could recover them in the divorce.

 I called the wife's lawyer the next day. She was an older woman, very kind and sweet, but also very factual. She told me that he had confessed everything, had
 provided the exact amounts, and would I please verify everything with a written statement, thereby avoiding a deposition taken in her office. Of course, I had no
 choice, despite my not remembering dates and the amounts. I worried about the IRS, but fortunately the obligation was spread out over the course of six years,
 so it didn't really qualify. It also turned out that he had cut a wide swath of paid sexcapades all over the country, so in some way I didn't feel singled out. Still, it
 was a horrible experience. I felt violated of any privacy, shamed to discuss intimate details and very, very sorry for the wife, who must have been enraged beyond
 belief. I still live in fear that she is going to somehow ''get me'' (even though it's probably irrational,) but most of all I feel sick about everything having gone on
 legal record. He was the only client I ever took a check from, and of course this had to happen. So, that's why I am so adamant about never keeping records,
 never revealing any names and certainly never taking a check again! Pax vobiscum, Anne Onimous.