Stuff happens, just get over it. If you really do your research with an established lady, 90% of the time things will go as you planned. If the lady doesn't call you the day of the meeting I would suggest calling her as a reminder. I've only had two occasions that the lady backed out on me over the last 6 years. One was a beautiful little redhead in Atlanta that I talked with 2 hours before our appointment and then was unable to reach her for her exact location after that. I wrote her off as young, inexperienced but probably so busy that it didn't matter to her. Was I pissed, yes but I got over it when one of my favorites arrived later that afternoon for an overnight visit. Surprisingly it was the same overnight guest that also had cancelled on me about a month earlier due to a family emergency.
On 2-23-8 before I left for Las Vegas I confirmed an appointment with xxxxx for an appointment on the 28th at 10:00. This was over the phone with her looking at a calender. The 28th at 10:00 pm came and went and no xxxxx. Should I have called her that day to reconfirm since I am new to the "hobby" or what is the common practice?
Any help would be appreciated on this matter
Sincerely
redrum721
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I'm sorry I had to have gutted your post!!!
OK, your post has two messages: 1) disappointment/anger with a NCNS (no call, no show), and 2) what could you have done to prevent it.
1) This needs to be addressed on a regional board!!!
2) Even if you have pre-scheduled, you definitely need to re-confirm either the day before, or on the day of the meeting by phone or email. Many ladies require this, and even if they don't, it is a good way to avoid disappointment! They know schedules can change, particularly if a client is from out of town.
Now some hopefully helpful advice. Remember, while you are hoping for a fantasy experience, you are dealing with a real person, with a real life! There are many legitimate reasons why she wasn't there at 10 pm (car trouble, health, family issues, etc.). It is both unfortunate, and unprofessional, that she didn't call you, assuming she was in a position to do so. Still I would email her, give her an opportunity to explain and make good, before I would post a public complaint.
jazz32
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despite our best efforts.
You SHOULD call to re-confirm, But, this won't be the last time a lazy, or inconsiderate, or drunk, or stoned lady stands you up. It happens to the best of us--(no matter how experienced). Stick with well reviewed gals, and the likelihood will go down exponentially.
Interesting.....Only lazy, inconsiderate, drunk or stoned ladies have real life issues and can't make appts. I am none of the above and have had to cance appts before, although I always contacted the client. I'm also as you say 'well reviewed'.
She may have instructed him to email or call day of...day before to reconfirm. I know I ask gents to please do so and many of them have no recollection of being asked to do that. If I have time, I will shoot an email to them asking if we're still on...if not though, I assume the appt is canceled.
Gents DO need to take a bit of responsibility here.
I generally confirm a day or 2 in advance "See Ya Tomorrow." "Can't wait..."
With others, longer commute... I call once I'm on the road with an ETA.
Are you sure you 2 didn't get your signals crossed when scheduling? Are you sure she wasn't expecting you at 10:00 AM that day, not 10:00 PM? Maybe you were her first appointment that day and you were the NCNS as far as she's concerned. Just a possibility.
10derTush
If you put this on the LV board, with the providers name, you'll get a lot of attention. Depending on what you're looking for, that could be a good or bad thing.
What newbies need to know when going to Sin City is that lots of guys get caught up in events and flake on girls. As a result, if you don't confirm, she most likely wrote you off and made other plans. If you'd like to PM me, I can tell you if she's known to no-show, or if she requires confirmation.
In any event, take it as a life lesson and get beyond it. It sucks, because you were probably pretty excited in anticipation. There are things that increase your chances of success.
between confirmation and actual date. She should have let you know that she wasn't going to make it- but YOU should have called to reconfirm. Maybe she lost your number, etc. By all means, contact her first to see if she can make things right before you go and tell potential clients without at least getting her side of the story.
confirmed with the lady 2 or 3 days before, 1 day before then again the morning of the appointment (unless it was for 10 a.m.)
Stuff happens, just get over it. If you really do your research with an established lady, 90% of the time things will go as you planned. If the lady doesn't call you the day of the meeting I would suggest calling her as a reminder. I've only had two occasions that the lady backed out on me over the last 6 years. One was a beautiful little redhead in Atlanta that I talked with 2 hours before our appointment and then was unable to reach her for her exact location after that. I wrote her off as young, inexperienced but probably so busy that it didn't matter to her. Was I pissed, yes but I got over it when one of my favorites arrived later that afternoon for an overnight visit. Surprisingly it was the same overnight guest that also had cancelled on me about a month earlier due to a family emergency.
I have to travel at least 3 hours (usually to Chicago) to hook up. I agree that starting with a reliable provider is the best first step, but taking reasonable steps along the way is warranted. Occasionally "stuff happens" but I do everything reasonable to minimize disappointment. I always email a reminder TWO days before, since some are on a 24 hour email cycle. Then I phone call the next morning as I'm hiting the road. My regulars know and appreciate the time and trouble I go through. When they’ve had to cancel or shift times, I usually get a discount the next time (usually in the form of extra time). I always have a plan B, which is a last minute call to a list of independents (usually “hit or miss" due to late notice), then I can call a couple of reputable agencies that can cater to short notice. Not every city has “reputable” agencies. Ask around the regional boards for any trust worthy agencies.
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and maximize pleasure. I'm from Boston, and about ten to fifteen minutes from multiple avenues to nirvana, but I still have plans b and c when I've set something up. Ed2000 ensures that he will have success by having a fall-back to his fall-back, which is one hell of a smart thing to do. Our estimable mod, Jazz, recently posted about this very topic.
Always expect that something human will come up when dealing with humanity. It's on her to communicate with you to let you know what happened if she ever wants your business again. Always have another option, like an agency or a list of back-ups to mitigate the damages.
Good Luck
Ask her when you finalize the date how and when she wants wants to communicate that basically things are still on track. Most girls don't mind "extra" communication as long as you keep it short and on topic. Too much or annoying communication is typically that where the guy is just trying to talk too much. It shouldn't take more than a minute on the phone to take care of business. When you have special circumstances as in my case, let her know this.
Since you didn't call to confirm with her she probably thought YOU were the No Show, and made other plans. I always call or email a day or 2 prior to the appointment. Then she knows you remember, and you can firm things up. If it's an incall, she may not want to give you directions until the day of the appointment, and you'll have to call again. But calling to confirm shows that you respect her time and schedule, and that you are serious about the meeting! (They get a lot of prank no shows too)
Hope that helps
I prefer to book and confirm through e-mail, then there is no misunderstandings. For the ladies that like to start on the phone, I will confirm through e-mail.
I will then reconfirm the day before, or the day of. That is usually when the lady gives me directions (go to the drugstore, and call me from there), or she asks them from me (which hotel and room number).
Too many things can happen at the last minute.