How big of a deal is it to request a bbbj technique? I don't want to seem like I'm criticizing her technique. What one person may think feels great, another may find irritating. Some of us are more sensitive than others. Can I say I've found that --- technique really feels good or something like that or do I just say lets skip the bj and do something else?
OK people this is how we learn, by asking questions, before we go out. If this is a really bad idea please let me know now.
Maybe I am misunderstanding your question, but from my experience ladies want you to tell them what you like.
I suppose it is possible that a lady may think her technique is the greatest in the world and be hurt if you offer criticism. One lady I've been with who really enjoys rimming seemed hurt, or at least confused, when I told her it tickled!
has gotten in the business, so don't worry about it. The great providers really do want you to enjoy yourself, and will, within reason, try to accommodate your requests. I would suggest that you try to word it so that it is not critical of what she is doing, but that you would prefer it another way.
That being said, you probably won't get anywhere if the technique you like is painful, too rough, or compromises safety in any way.
BTW, you are right, this is the place to learn and no Newbie should worry about asking.
check the reviews of the providers that catch your eye, and do you homework right here. You should be able to narrow it down to certain providers, and make the call or e-mail. I wouldnt ask or mention any specifics in the contacts portion, but if you read the reviews you know what to expect.
Questions are how we learn.
Good Luck
How liberating is that?!? Stretch your imagination. Your wildest fantasy. Your deepest unspoken desire. Just... Ask...
Of course she might say no, but she might not!
But your wanting to concentrate her tongue on the bottom of your mushroom (or whatever), that one should be easy.
Do not ask via email, phone, or until the two of you are entirely comfortable lol!
That said, at the right time, tell her how you would like your fun... we are not mind readers, and indeed, everybody is wired differently. The feedback and suggestions should be well received!
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What I have found is that, if the lady is a good provider, she will ask you what you like, what feels good, etc. Don't be afraid to tell her when something is or is not working. I love to have my balls fondled and squeezed (gently!) during a BBBJ but my ATF held off on this for a while because she had other guys complain about it. If you are really with the right lady communication should be a part of the experience.
It cuts both ways as well. I am much better at DATY today because a few good providers who really love it took the time to tell me what worked for them and what didn't. Believe me, nothing increases the quality of a BBBJ like giving the lady an orgasm or two before she goes down on you!
Both ways is key in a great experience. Don't hesitate to let her know what rocks your world, and be sure to listen to her also. If she doesn't say anything, then ask her.
Ladies, be sure to tell the guys what rocks your world also. Guys are dense (at least I am) and need words to guide us. As much as people seem to rely on gasps and sighs and moans, it isn't enough and words need to be used.
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Inquiring minds want to know?
Actually we are stuck thinking with our little heads, but we\'ll ask anyways...........
LOL!
I would love to see an easel with a few graphs and pictures on it to help "guide" me in a session with a provider, that would be hilarious 
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I second that! Be honest and open in all your communications. The TER Reviews will also give you an excellent idea if what you'd like is regularly offered.
Really, I am only just not-a-newbie, but common sense suggests that we are seen on an individual basis. What a SP might offer a well-established friend is likely a much more detailed menu than a first-time meeting (regardless of your hobby experience)!
Also - I would suggest you consider waiting to ask this specific Q until you first meet her: It is not a proper topic for preliminary email or phone conversations, (in my opinion)!
during DATY, and I appreciate the feedback.
Turnabout is fair play.
Here are my top three suggestions:
1. Lots of tongue pressure against the tip
2. No teeth
3. Be gentle with the boys.