I feel like tongues and fingers are usually more sure things than penises? While I am committed to doing everything in my power to achieve a nice hard cock to play with, sometimes age/health/nerves, etc., works against this- so I prefer to take the pressure off a gent to 'perform' and just focus on pleasure, connection, doing other naughty things with his penis, and (if he so wishes) pleasing me in other ways. If I'm with another woman (provider, client, or civilian), it depends on what she is comfortable with, her level of experience and what turns her on, too. I'm a really big fan of fingers, though, with anyone!

I'm a terrible example for this since I like everything lol... Tongue first, then penis I don't usually run into problems with the gentlemans equipment not working so that's not really an issue. I def have had that happen so when that does happen, I agree with Harlowe and find other pleasure zones! Sometimes I feel like our pussies and penis' have their own language lol. For women, I like fingers, toys, scissoring, any and all oral! I've come to realization I'm just horny all the time