You will want to read the entire manual, available from the link at the top of the page.  However, this link answers your question.  There is also a recent thread about tone of voice when calling a provider that addresses the issue.

I've been with a provider friend when guys call, and she can be very sweet to them (it's her job, after all), but when she gets rubbed the wrong way, she can be a major bitch.  Guys often forget that she's heard that stupid question a thousand times.

Read the suggested section; then when you decide on a lady read her website at least twice before contacting her.  You should be fine.

Without knowing what you specifically said to the provider it is hard to know why she hung up on you. It may have been your fault entirely (i.e. you used sexually explicit language, you asked questions that could easily be found on her website, you had no idea when you wanted to schedule an appointment) or you may have done nothing wrong and the provider for whatever reason did not wish to deal with you at that particular moment. She may have been having a bad personal day or she may have just angrily hung up on someone else. Relax and heed some advice:

1. Most importantly, be professional and mature when you call up a provider. Speak confidently about the reason you are calling (i.e. Hi Joan, I came across your profile on TER and am interested in setting up an appointment). If you are just calling up to find out some general information, that is fine, but tell the lady upfront. If you wish to make an appointment, then know when you would like to schedule a session. (I.e. would 3:00PM on Thursday at your hotel be amenable?) Do NOT simply state, "hey honey I'd like to see you sometime over the next few weeks". You wouldn’t be so care free about scheduling a meeting with your attorney so be respectful that the provider has to plan her schedule as well. Obviously, NEVER discuss anything blatantly sexual or anything that could be perceived as a sexual innuendo or reference. This is the quickest way to have a provider hang up on you immediately. You will NOT get a second chance with that lady.    

2. Be prepared to give the provider whatever information she deems necessary for her security and safety. Remember, a provider is 1000 times for nervous about seeing you than you are about seeing her. She must have the confidence and belief in you that you will not cause her any harm before, during or after the session. To that end, give her the information she requests. You may believe that two references or employment information are an overkill, but YOU MUST RESPECT the providers wishes. If you are unwilling to meet her screening criteria, then you should see someone else. Period.

3. If the donation amount is available on her website, DO NOT ASK her what it is. Do your homework. If you want to confirm what the rate is (i.e. your advertisement says its 300 for an hour of your time, is that accurate?) that is okay. If her rate is not posted, you can certainly ask her what her hourly or two hour rate is for her time. Again, no sexual discussion.

4. NEVER haggle with a provider over her rate. NEVER. If her rate is 300 for an hour, do not get her on the phone and say, how about I pay you 200. If you can only afford $200 for the hour then so be it and find a different lady. Trying to negotiate with a provider is another quick way to have the lady think less of you. Some ladies are known to refuse to see someone altogether if they start to negotiate. Do not do it; it is classless and tacky.

5. DO NOT get the provider on the phone to shoot the proverbial breeze. She is not there to make small talk with you. Her objective is to set up an appointment with you and that should be your sole objective as well. If you want to ask her views about why Pluto is no longer a planet or whether history has looked kindly on the Chester Arthur Presidency, save this riveting discussion for your initial meeting. Do nothing else on the phone other than to set up your meeting time.  

6. Do NOT ask the provider for additional photos. She may only wish to show certain photos on her website and does not wish to provide you with more. Read the reviews and you'll know if other hobbyists feel her physical description/available photos match what she actually looks like. If you know her physical description, do not ask her to repeat it.

7. Ask her how you should confirm the appointment. Do you need to confirm the day before? Should you call her the day of your meeting in the morning? Or do you only need to call her when you are downstairs in front of her hotel 5 minutes before your session? You may have to call her once to confirm and then again from an appropriate street corner to obtain the specifics (i.e. hotel name and room number) of her location. Know what needs to be done in order for everything to go smoothly.  

I think if you follow the above advice you will know what to say to a provider on the phone. Practice makes perfect. Once everything is confirmed and you know all the facts (location, donation, contact method) my only other advice is to show up on time, be professional and mature with how you initially speak with the provider (remember during the first 5-10 minutes you are both are prob. very nervous) and always make the lady feel safe and secure. Have fun and enjoy.  






-- Modified on 1/8/2008 10:06:56 AM

I am a nervous Nellie... So most of my first contacts are done by e-mail (ok I know it sounds stupid but I am 42 and still have rejection issues..) I only e-mail well reviewed ladies, I give them plenty of notice, and all the information they need, Name and number, Since I am a newbie and I don't get to hobby much I tell them it all in advance.  from there I wait, if I get a call or response by e-mail I respond in kind.  I find it much easier on me this way.. but that is my and like I said I still have rejection issues.. Good luck and don't give up.....

Thx to everyone that replied.  I will read up on the section and proceed as suggested and hopefully get to have fun.  Thanks.