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Being a provider has been an adventure for sure. Flying here and there. Staying at beautiful hotels and dining at amazing restaurants. Let's not forget the random gifts I get via mail. This life is quite addicting.
When I started this I had a boyfriend. He was nice, hot and very normal. One day after weeks of suspicions, he hacked my tablet and let's just say, he lost his shit.
I didn't know how to handle his feelings so I just called it off.
My question is, how do you ladies, and men, keep up the "act" (lack of a better word) when trying to hide this life from your significant other?!
I'm single and I'm trying to figure out how to move forward with this guy who is suspicious already!! 😂😂
the differences between being a boyfriend and a customer. Sometimes the differences are only subtle, but it takes a confident guy to be with a girl that is providing. Its not for everyone, and has challenges that you don't have in civvie relationships.
I think you have to be honest. He has to know what you do for a living. Hiding it makes it look like something your sneaking behind his back. I've had several provider girlfriends, and since I first met them as a customer, and the relationship evolved into something personal, there was never any thought given to deception. We both went to work, and we both came home, just like any other couple. As long as she practiced 100% safety with her customers, I had no problem with what she did with them.
How did you know you were falling for a companion? Or how did make sure you don't fall for one? Your wisdom much appreciated!
I like to think it's different between clients and providers... but maybe that's just a lie I like to tell myself.
For a provider, it's potentially daily, certainly weekly issue to tell your SO that you're traveling for work, or heading to a meeting, or whatever. It would be quite the challenge to keep up that facade for long. All the provider's I've known, who were in a relationship, were honest with their partners. It's just simpler in the long run and easier on their psyche.
For client, or lets say me, for example. It's a couple times in a month I need to cover my actions. Much simpler, but still stressful upon occasion
Hi There,
I have contemplated this on both sides of this transactional hobby...
I am not crazy about seeing providers that have serious boyfriends that have no idea what they do. I feel this way simply because when they find out (almost always by getting into the providers computer) they have access to my info and they are jealous, pissed and hurt and have the potential to drop my girl an email...
Look, I feel it's a job for a provider and a pretty good one at that - be transparent - it's the better foundation for a relationship! If you don't have that in you and you want a b/f - just engineer your provider profile and advertising to find b/f candidates and by the time they are falling for you everything is clear for everyone.
In my opinion, it's hard out there in the world and if you are making a good living and improving the lives of others - and doing it in a safe way - it's all good.
Myself on the other hand - well I'm just a deviant and a liar for no particular reason other than I'm trying to suck the marrow out of this life. Every time I go to stop, I reflect back to some of the extraordinary humans I have met in the hobby and there is no way I can...
Somtimes an atf would be open to dating a ter guy, but as a client I wouldn't know about it
until she "retired" with the former john. One time she was gone for half a year. Then she
leaked she had dumped some other ter guy she had been dating. I used to get pretty jealous
about it. But that only goes to show I was really on the bottom of her client pool
IMO the stress being dishonest causes is not worth it. Be upfront, you'll likely be pleasantly surprised.
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