Thank you for posting that!!
Always nice to hear when people understand that stuff matters...Hey fam
Another post on here about a NCNS provider got me thinking about how clients view screening and safety. I know why I screen, from a provider's perspective, and while quality gentlemen are fine with it of course, everyone kind of seems to want to get an appointment without screening, leading me to believe they would accept one if it was offered.
I sincerely think men should take screening as seriously as good providers do. We say its for 'your safety and mine' because if a provider acts unsafely, it potentially puts all her clients at risk. A dangerous person could post up near a providers location looking to rob the men coming to see her, or LE could bust her and decide they’re gonna hang around for everyone else who shows up that day.
Practicing thorough and consistent screening (yes, even when its last-minute and yes, even if you sound totally sexy over the phone) protects a provider’s business as a whole, which ensures its a sound and safe retreat for everyone she entertains.
I, for example, never give my location to anyone who I haven’t established is safe, no exceptions. However, only rarely does a gentleman provide the information needed in the initial contact - where it is requested. When he does I know I'm speaking with someone who knows what he's doing and values mutual safety and discretion. (I, like many other providers, won't contact your references until there's a set day/time arranged for an appointment, so you shouldn't be hesitant to provide their names).
Interested to hear your thoughts.
Even though clients research the provider and hopefully read her website, there can still be uncertainty. Are those hot pics real? Recent shoots? Does she double book? What part of town is she in? Apartment or hotel room? These and various other things are stuff that clients might still want to know before committing. And safety and discretion is an issue both ways. So in a sense, the client and the provider screen each other.
Providers or their assistants usually treat the initial contact assuming that the client is sold and that the deal is done. But to maybe a lesser extent and for different reasons the client is sounding out the provider. That doesn't mean asking a lot of questions, but it does mean paying attention to how she responds and what additional information she wants to know.
I see the weight balanced much like an entertainer going to an audition. Obviously the musician/actor/dancer/whatever wants work, so s/he's being auditioned, but to some extent s/he's auditioning the plant at the same time. Is it a good venue? Trusted? Legit? A good fit for the talent offered?
Yes, screening is weighted to the provider to accept or reject, but if the vibes ain't right or there's not enough of the human scent, the provider might fail the client's screening.
mentioned this before: You have minimum requirements for screening. I have maximum limits for intrusiveness. If they overlap, we're in business. If there's a gap, we could try to negotiate something acceptable in between, and if not, I'll just move on. Its really as simple as that.
Absolutely. I've found that being flexible and open to what works for us both is a winning situation, in both screening and the experience as a whole. Thank you for your response!
I do care that a lady screens. It's a good thing. I do care for the reasons you suggested.
I also care because a woman who screens cares about herself. Someone is taking their business, their safety and their life seriously. It's an indicator that she will treat the rest of the encounter professionally. Meaning if she goes through the effort of advertising, screening, and communicating that those clients that survive the winnowing process are ones she is now invested in. No one wants to spend lots of time spinning their wheels for no payoff.
As a general rule, women who are really lax in screening are lax in other aspects of the experience as well. They don't take care with their appearance and the experience they provide.
Professionals act professional.
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Excellent point. I'm spending time screening, to bail on the actual appt would be foolish! And I would add- I'm usually not only invested but interested! I've likely gotten a small taste of who you are, am intrigued, and I want to meet you and find out more about you and your personality.
Thank you for posting that!!
Always nice to hear when people understand that stuff matters...
I check out potential dates as well to make sure everything is legit. If I am going to give reference info and do not get a good feeling back, then I'll stay clear, especially in a nutty town like PHX with the puritanical LE jerks out there.