Sometimes when I have a session, there is some opening small talk, get to know you type stuff. If it's a returning engagement, it might be catching up, how you've been, etc. On occasion this goes on for what feels like an achingly long time, enough that it really feels like stalling. I've had it go in excess of half an hour before. This does not include a shower, which I willingly take but never feel I really need (I am obsessed with cleanliness).
I usually set up two-hour engagements, so I sometimes feel like the provider is taking advantage of the booking length. To be clear, this is not a case where I have a great relationship with the provider who extends the appointment, gratis.
And to be fair, there are those who exchange a few words, then get down to business, saving the conversation for downtime.
I don't want to be crude and suggest we cut to the chase, but what do you feel is an appropriate amount of introduction before moving on?
I bitched about this last week in General.
I like post sex pillow talk better, while she tries to get me hard again.
But you own the hour, and need to steer the conversation; start talking dirty.
Maybe she's trying not to be rude and cut you off, and both of you end up talking forever. A small number of clients do like to yap and yap.
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Small number of clients want to yap? Are you a man-whore or something?
hould be limited to 10 minutes or less and maybe even while you are showering! 
Check your PM's for more info!!
If you're over 50 like me, I think some providers assume you want to spend the extra time in a 2-hour session on social "companionship" like talking. Usually my first session with a provider is one hour, so I let them know I'm only looking for one pop during a one-hour session, but when I book two hours, I will want two pops, so we need to get the action going right away and do our "catching up" in between rounds. So far it's a good system.
CDL, the companionship factor you mention would be fine, if that was something I had wanted. I'm wondering if this whole time there has been some sort of custom, a sort of unspoken agreement about how much can be spoken. And am I being rude for moving things along?
Interesting discussion! My thought had always been I am hesitant to start in on a guy IMMEDIATELY because I don't want to give the impression that I'm just trying to "get it over with" or pop him asap and rush him out the door, because its not my intention.
It is SO HELPFUL if a man knows himself and is confident enough to explain either 'i don't last long, so lets take our time with foreplay and getting to know each other('s bodies)' or 'I may take the entire hour to finish so lets get right down to it!' or whatever in between. I would be happy to do whatever is requested. Trust me guys, the more you communicate the happier you'll be! :3
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CDL, the companionship factor you mention would be fine, if that was something I had wanted. I'm wondering if this whole time there has been some sort of custom, a sort of unspoken agreement about how much can be spoken. And am I being rude for moving things along?
Problem solved!
Of course that's after saying hello.
I'm a chatty type of girl when we first meet, because it's really important that I get to know you. Plus I like to show off the toys i enjoy and he may too, but I find it respecting the time we have together, this does not work with hour long appointments. Therefore, my hour appointments have time to shower, small talk and then right to business with some pillow talk at the end. NO WAY are you going to bang me out 3 or 4 times in an hour. Which is one of the reasons I'm considering starting out with 90min minimums, so I have time to try to really get to know my new friend.
I got in this business not only to make money, but to enjoy myself as well. Wow! This question gave me a lot to think about
Regarding what you said, "NO WAY are you going to bang me out 3 or 4 times in an hour." Do you mean that you don't think a guy could go 3 or 4 times or that you wouldn't allow it?
This is about 10 years ago. Showed up for an 8pm. She looked fantastic. She was a very, very nice person. She talked non-stop for....wait of it....FIVE hours!!!! yup from 8pm until 1am. I would have left after an hour but she was nice and kinda interesting and I became more and more curious as time went on as to WTF was happening... it became a bit of lab experiment and she was nice to look at. Happy ending (no pun intended). At a little after 1am she stops talking dead mid-sentence and grabs my hand and says "you need to come upstairs with me". What followed was nearly three hours of the most absolutely raw sweat-inducing sex ever. I asked her about donation and she said "no worries, you came for an our I came for three! 
what a memory
Just talk till it leads to something else or until there isn't anymore to say.
I like to chat for a bit, and kind of settle in, get a feel for who they are and let them know a little bit of my personality. If it's a return visit I like to catch up. About 10 minutes in I usually start to put my hand on her thigh, or shoulder, and lean in for a kiss. We may chat as the flirting gets more serious for the next 5-10, then it's pretty much hot and heavy. Direct works, but it takes me out of the mood/mindset. I like it this way because I like to get to know them and it makes the transition from greeting to sex smoother.
I try to remember at all times that they want to provide you a great experience, you giving them a clue what you want will only improve the service as long as you aren't pushy.
Help them help you.
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depends
Common sense helps to "read" if the client wants talk or not
I like my meals complete with Entrance.. main course the and dessert
No fast food for me
Some goes straight to the main course ..
usually introduction 5 minutes how are u? Nice met you "
Need shower? or something to drink?
OKAY..Let play..... I know you are not here to Talk... Or get to know me LOL
Or u be www.harmony .com
s always fun little chit chat flirting between DFK ...between ..... agree with CDL between pops is necessary a chit chat or massage to help recover
Unless u are " dick pop "machine '
suggest cut to the chase .....
Do your HUNTING!!! Grab her!! AND give her deep kiss 'shut her mouth' and START the deal!!
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Good reply, Carla. But this is where it gets frustrating. If I were playing talk show host and kept up the efforts to make conversation, that would be one thing. I wouldn't blame a girl for talking the entire time if I was fulfilling a Conan O'Brien fantasy.
Picture me slowing down, quietly gazing into her eyes, brushing her hair back as I move closer, then running into "So, what kind of TV shows do you watch?" That's what I'm talking about.
If you're thinking I get only passable references, I would hope that wasn't the case. I am always clean, well-behaved, and consistently tip.
i was just thinking about this very thing!
when i first started hobbying about 10 years ago, here was a trend among the ladies (at least the ones i saw) to stick their tongues down my throat the very second i walked in. and then on to business from there.
i don't find that much anymore, and tbh i am glad. i prefer a little chit chat to set the mood.
how much is too much? i never get to that point. when we sit and chat there is always plenty of glancing touches on the leg, the shoulder; light stroking of her hair as i compliment her eyes... i enjoy and indulge in the fantasy of seducing (or being seduced).
if you do it right, opening conversation can (and should) be fore play!
I had just that experience recently, and didn't like it - felt too I'm-here-for-the-money-ish...........but I think it was also a bit me, too, so perhaps I should give her another chance....eh, probably not.
a huge sloppy dfk session first thing w/o a hello or sit down and let's talk, to me, is incredibly impersonal. i'd rather the girl gets to know me, however slightly, as a unique person, before getting down to the "business" of pleasure.
