Not being quite as old as mrfisher (I am only 41) I have actually had a few friends with benefits over the years. The first part "friends" might be a little misleading, as so many define friends very differently. If I used a very loose definition of friend then yes they would be a friend.
Once in a while we would go to a movie or a game or something. I guess another term could be called "booty call friend". Someone you go out with occasionally, but mainly see each other for the sex. No commitment to each other for a relationship. Someone you are comfortable with to help with sexual frustrations while searching for your SO.
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I looked in the newbie manual and cannot find the definition for "friends with benefits," and "friends with privileges." Can you possibly enlighten me.?
Thanks
It is a term popular with the Gen X and Y crowd to describe a relationship whereby two people who like each other will engage in sexual activities with each other but without any of the strings (i.e. committments) that usually attend such activity.
It will be interesting to see where this trend leads us as I have my doubts about this.
It's always been my contention that any relationship that involves sex needs a three legged base to rest on: this, that and the other.
(Good raport, good sex and either a time and energy committment or, as we use in this business: $)
As Mr Fisher said, popular concept among college students- friends who have sex but aren't girlfriend and boyfriend.
I.E. satisfy the sexual urge with a friend instead of being the college slut or playboy?
Not being quite as old as mrfisher (I am only 41) I have actually had a few friends with benefits over the years. The first part "friends" might be a little misleading, as so many define friends very differently. If I used a very loose definition of friend then yes they would be a friend.
Once in a while we would go to a movie or a game or something. I guess another term could be called "booty call friend". Someone you go out with occasionally, but mainly see each other for the sex. No commitment to each other for a relationship. Someone you are comfortable with to help with sexual frustrations while searching for your SO.
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Me being an old-fashioned, shy type of guy...how do you initiate such a relationship, if you can call it that? Just look at them one day and say "hey, you wanna?"
I have had 3 of this type of relationship. Two were exgirlfriends who wanted someone they knew and were comfortable with, but didn't want the attachment. The third was a friend of an exgirlfriend who wanted the same thing. It was always the women who initiated this "friendship". I guess they didn't want to be seen as promiscuous and still wanted sexual satisfaction.
Like I said before, basically it was an arrangement to have a release from sexual tension with another person while dating and trying to find the person you wanted to develop a relationship with. When the ladies found the guy they wanted to be with seriously, they ended the FWB thing with no hard feelings.
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Which explains why it never happened with me. Too much of the "you're a great friend" type and not enough of the "you're a great friend I wouldn't mind doing every now and then"...
Because it has nothing to do with escorting....
I got married and had a child at the age of 21, and soon drafted into the sevice. With family responsibilities most of my adult life I've had little opportunity for the typical drug and sex exploration that was part of the culture, starting in my generation.
Thanks again for educating me in part of what I missed while growing up in my own culture.
Otherwise platonic friends who turn to each other for sexual release when there is no romantic interests to accommodate this in their current life.
Since there is no money exchanged for the sex it does not fall under "hobby" parameters.
lol, sometimes falls under hobby parameters- one of my providers calls me her "fuck buddy" but it's not a freebie! Guess she means we both have a lot of fun but I pay!
Maybe best interpretation of "friend with benefits" from her point of view!
but rather a term that relates to two friends who are also intimate, but are not in a committed relationship. That casual girlfriend or boyfriend who someone sees for fun and sex, but where there is a high probability that the relationship is not going anywhere.