It is understood not to discuss "things of a sexual nature" when making initial contact to provider/agency.
But what about asking questions regarding their body, such as implants, bush or shaved, tattoos and piercings, etc. Would that necessarily be considered sexual and end the contact?
Even for women reviewed here, that information may not be accurate or could be outdated.
I guess it wouldn't be out of bounds from a legal standpoint but I've gotta be honest, I wouldn't ask a lady questions like that on the phone as I think it's just plain rude. What's next? Are you going to ask her if she has gained weight or colored her hair since her last pictures were taken? Is she retaining water? An ingrown toenail perhaps?
OK, I'm being a bit of a wise-ass now but my stance is this: If I found her here on TER and I liked her reviews enough to book with her I'm not going to let any of the things you mentioned alter my decision.
I'm not, for instance, a big fan of implants but one of my favorite ladies ever had implants even though her profile said she didn't. She had only been working for a week when I met her and her TER profile was brand new so it wasn't outdated, the guy that wrote it was just not able to tell the difference.
I guess everyone has to decide for themselves how important this stuff is but my thought process is that asking about it on the phone sends a possibly insulting message to a lady that you are going to be asking to perform a very intimate act with you at some future time.
just my opinion of course...
alot of guys ask those questions so you're not necessarily out of bounds but personally, i get turned off by a guy who feels he needs to know any of that information before deciding to meet me.
i'm not saying its a dealbreaker but it just tells me something about the guy's personality and makes the prospect of getting together with him less desirable.
I would think that asking those type of questions would put you into the "sex only" group. Let me explain.
I think there are basically two kinds of hobbyists. Sex only and experience wanted. Sex only types are your basic wham/bam/see ya ma'am types. Asking those questions narrows down the playing field to the type of look and body you want under/over you while you get off.
Experience wanted types are after a lovely woman and a wonderful time. A few qualities are what makes the provider attractive, but it is the overall experience that is needed so all the smaller minor details are not important.
Not being a provider I wouldn't know for sure, but I would think a provider wants to give the client what they want. If someone was put into the sex only group in her mind, then the overall experience will probably be lacking a bit because she is thinking the client is only there for the sex act alone.
On the other hand if the provider feels the client is looking for more than just sex, then the experience (in my opinion) improves for both.
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Well said. We may be a fantasy, but we are humans as well. If someone were to ask me "bush or shaved", I don't think I'd enjoy my time with them. If you're going to base your decision on whether or not my pussy is shaved, I'm going to base my decision to see YOU on your lack of tact. There's more to me- and to every other woman out there- than just our hole, be it hairy or not.
Well said Balathazar. I have had a gentlemen call me and ask all types of questions from "are your pictures real", to "are you shaved". He then went into details about what I would or wouldnt do. The topper was when he asked for some "recent pictures". UGGHH. Needless to say, I never scheduled with him. If you need a wham/nam/thank you mam, then I am not the woman for you. I enjoy giving the gfe as much as you like receiving it. Quickies are what cl is for.
Kari
Just review their profiles on TER. They are generally correct, and let you know all the information you are seeking and accuracy of that information.
Look on the lady's own web site. If you read the juicy parts of the reviews the answers should be there as well. If you don't have VIP, spend the $20; it is the best investment going in order to have better experiences.
Other methods include sending a PM to some guys she has seen (they did reviews of her). Once you have been verified, then you can ask some general questions on the phone but I wouldn't put anything in an e-mail.
As alluded to by the others, the "Negatives" of asking those questions will far outweigh the "Positives". That's how you should look at it, so focus on something else.