I recently had a session with a new provider
I have never met before and I can say we really hit it off well. The chemistry was there and it
seemed we had know each other for a very long time. Would it be best for me to continually spend time with this same provider and grow the
relationship and forget all of the others or by
nature of the hobby try to "date" others who
I have never seen before? I am not sure if the
old saying variety is the spice of life is always
the best route to take or should I stick only
with a proven winner?
That is something only you can decide for yourself. There is no "nature of the hobby" that says you have to see many providers.
Being as new as I am, I have only seen one provider. I plan to continue to see her many times. Most likely I will see one maybe two others also after a while just so I don't start getting "attached".
Some guys like the "hunt", some guys like the "prize", and yet others couldn't care about either and just want to "get off". You have to decide what you want then do it.
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An All-Time-Favorite (ATF) is a great thing to find. just don't go getting delusional, or all sappy and gushy.
Bye all means frequent this special provider and enjoy; but on occasion enjoy the many other flavors the hobby has too offer so as to both retain 'balance' as well as savour the variety.
See her again to see if the chemistry is still there. See someone else to give you an idea of what else is out there.
Then you will have more info to decide if you like a known quantity, or variety.
I like to settle in with someone I know, but I keep getting distracted by new ladies who offer something different.
BTW: sometimes you "grow" out of the relationship.
The relationship is simple: You pay her for sex. If you enjoy the time with her I would keep doing it. Do not however start to fool yourself into thinking that you are building anything other than a hopefully a friendly and mutually beneficial business relationship.
There is of course no reason why you can't see her and other ladies as well.
depending on what city I'm in but I also like to meet new ladies as well. Whatever works for you is what you need to follow. There is no "right" answer.
When I met the provider who would later become my first ATF, I saw her for about 3 sessions straight. Afterwards I started looking around but I still see my ATF. Now, whenever I meet someone I click with, I see her a couple of more times and move on.
Now I have 2 ATFs with different performance styles.
This way, I am able to satisfy my need for variety but I have a couple of sure bets for a great time if I ever feel like I don't want to take a chance on someone new.
new provider / ATF / new provider / ATF. I've never returned to somebody a second time except for my one ATF. Although I'm still fairly new at this game.
Or should I ALWAYS get a pepperoni pizza?
I think its important to realize its a perk to be doing what we do and also that its a business transaction no matter how much you think the two of you click. For all the advantgaes its still not reality so dont get caught up in the performance just be glad you can get a bj when you want one rather than hoping a wife or girlfriend will give you someday. You can get laid when you want and by who you want, overall if anything it just takes the edge off of feeling powerless in the dating scene or in marriage where lets face it there is no sex.