Agreed - when there is a lone at-odds-with-all-others review I immediately assume the reviewer is more interested in being vindictive rather than ever confronting the veracity of the situation that he himself helped creat
Despite the little yellow flags I accepted a new client visiting Los Angeles on business. While I was completely safe, and he in no way made me feel unsafe, it was quite annoying and potentially damaging to my otherwise excellent reputation on TER. I feel the need to express a few points this disgruntled little man left out of his inaccurate diatribe on the evening that I had the misfortune of wasting with him. He wrote the worst review I have ever received but left out some key points, one he arrived 40 minutes late for his already late 10 pm appointment, he did not bother to pay for the session until the end at which point he reluctantly plunked down 1/3 of what he owed, I did in fact ask him to hurry as he is clueless as to how to properly navigate the Greek isles and was hurting my already exhausted body since he had already overstayed his welcome by two hours and it was approaching 1 am. To be fair to me, I had given him an opportunity to leave without charging for the two hours he consumed of my evening boring me with the details of how proud he was of his being chosen to go perform the layoffs around the country in person, how torn he was leaving his small town, forced by his very mediocre corporate job to relocate to yet another small town at the age of 59 and having never lived elsewhere. He was very interested in talking about himself, his job and his issues with his move, which I believe I did listen intently and try to offer my insights. It was the way he chose to spend his time with me. After listening to him for two hours, I was repulsed by his personality and found his voice and accent annoying. I was honest and told him I was not attracted to him, he pouted, didn't want to leave and wanted to continue with the session anyway. Then threw a little temper tantrum because in the first ten minutes I was not "passionate" enough for him, and when he was hurting me I asked him to hurry and finish because it was hurting! Totally unconscious selfish cad. He then gives me a 7 for appearance and a 2 for performance and stiffs me to boot!
...is what others will take his review with. The other reviews give what I'm sure is a much clearer picture.
all your other reviews are good so nobody is going to pay attention to him
Agreed - when there is a lone at-odds-with-all-others review I immediately assume the reviewer is more interested in being vindictive rather than ever confronting the veracity of the situation that he himself helped creat
Thank you darling.
you are on my short list to call next and this review has not deterred me..
...maybe you should choose a different handle. "Pound Trish" might give some guys the wrong idea...unless it's on the BDSM board.
I'm glad you're okay
I don't know you, and I don't know whomever the guy is
You should get a 2 for being indiscreet and blatantly bitching about him to the board with statements like " very medicore corportate job". Make some girlfriends you can complain to or keep it on a female board if you need to vent because this post just makes you look unprofessional. Your post did more for your reputation then his review likely because guys are going to say they can get over on you and you post "sour grapes" rebuttals.
I get he was late, but you control th SESSION, you could have cancelled. You didn't. You took his money, so you don't get to insult his job, that essentially paid you.
Complaining about a guy not paying you correctly AFTER the session? Your FAULT that you didn't get the cash UPFRONT.
The session ran too long? YOUR FAULT. He didn't MAKE you indulge him or his conversaion by force.
Complaining about a guy TALKING about HIMSELF? This isn't MATCH.com, Men often pay for an understanding EAR. If you don't like it, learn to fake it or find abother gig but don't bitch about it on the board.
You told him you weren't atracted to him? Just DUH....
Ok..now regarding Greece...totally fine that being a tour guide didn't work but that is one reason some ladies put "at my descretion" or won't offer that tour to new clients so when/if doesn't work out because of chemistry they aren't left hanging...and they get their payment first...You wouldn't of been writing 50% of this post if you had 1) gotten your money first 2) had kept your mouth shut about his looks/personality 3) ended your session on time...
Take it as a lesson but I'm sure multiple people read this and laughed at your complaints....and the rest didn't want to be HONEST that you own the majority of this poor experience.
Most girls have had missteps o their own accord, bad reviews, or had downright bad things happen that were not their fault...but I can't believe you honestly are playing the victim here.
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You are right I guess I have been very lucky as prior to this experience I have had the good fortune to "fall in love" with my darling clients. I should have taken control of the session but I believed what he needed was indeed to talk so I allowed him to do just that for a very long time. I wanted to end the session after two hours but still didn't and you are 100% correct it was 90% my fault. I was not attracted to his personality at all and I hated his story of how proud he was of himself to travel around and fire people in his company. But you are absolutely correct and that post was written out of disgust and anger . Not from a good place.
Glad to see you are rethinking your post.
I tend to have very long term relationships with long sessions (overnights, weekends, etc.) with one or two ladies. My experience has shown that how people respond to "bad" dates says as much about them as positive reviews.
I would never condone your being shorted or hurt in anyway under any circumstance.
However, if you sit there and listen intently without reminding him that time is winding down or that you expect more donation if the session runs over, then you are largely responsible for the overrun - he thought you were genuinely interested and it was the end of the day.
Lastly, calling someone uncomplimentary names ("little man" and "cad") is unprofessional as well - critiquing behavior is one thing, however name calling reduces you to his level.
As the old saying goes, the only thing fighting with a skunk guarantees is that you will end up being stinky too.
I always hate to hear about a client ripping a girl off. That's NEVER acceptable. It's our responsibility to make sure we get paid; getting the money upfront solves the problem of performance without compensation. That said, it sounds like you set the stage for a terrible time. You didn't take charge and did things that you didn't want to do, and you were brutally honest with him & probably hurt his feelings. And, he was honest with you in regards to his experience and gave you a 2. It is what it is. You have been totally indiscreet by posting enough info for people to figure out who you're talking about, and have also divulged personal details he discussed with you. Men pay us for our time & also for our DISCRETION. You have every right to list his info on provider-only boards/blacklist him for not paying you. But, posting all of these other details having nothing to do with the rip-off on a public board? No ma'am. You're wrong as two left shoes for that shit. I've been a provider for 15 years; just my two cents.
you needed to vent and you did. However, it's another lesson on why it's a good idea to vent in private on paper, then clean it up, then make it public. But not to worry we have all done it, or at least I sure have......more than a few times.
So as the old saying goes...............
When you're angry, write TWO letters - the one you WANT to send, and the one you ACTUALLY send.
The first one starts out nasty ("Dear A-hole") and completely vents. The second is professional, to the point, and avoids crap.
Sending the first one buys you trouble in almost every instance. The second, if done properly, rarely does and usually carries the day in a dispute.
If responding by e-mail, remove the "TO" address, lest you hit "send" accidentally, then write your screed (and promptly delete it).
