This may sound simple but.. Be there and listen to
her. No work or any thing else. Don't push it.
you'll have the time of your life.

Great attitude! I guess you are talking about sexually spicing up. If she is more conservative very upscale day spas offer double massage rooms (legit) where you both receive a theraputic massage in the same room by two different therapists, then afterwards enjoy time together the jacuzzi at the facilities so you can get intimate with the added excitement of being "caught" by one of the therapists (it happened to me). If your wife is a little more adventurous then using a provider to give her a massage while you watch is erotic without putting pressure on her to take it further, then maybe you get to take it further or if not, the sex afterwards will still be hot.  If she is more adventurous then an adrenalin activity like doing a sky dive (very safe for all ages) is amazing - the rush is out of this world and makes for amazing sex afterwards, a great bonding experience having shared the danger and then the "release".  All tried and tested. Please report back.

Re:Spice up the marriage

Quester hit it right on the head, sx2709,

If you follow his advice, your chances of having a better time will increase. You are not stating whether or not this is a surprise weekend; still, asking her what "spiciness" she would wish for, prior to going away, is a great beginning.

The issue is that women are highly individualized in their preferences. Things that turn one woman off can be a great aphrodisiac to another. Focusing on HER is always a great idea. You could get some massage oil or cream and give her entire body a wonderful rubdown...very slowly, while her favorite music is playing in the background. Try to resist the urge to make it explicitly sexual in the beginning. Explore the sensual aspect of massaging her body. Let her enjoy every stroke. Having her favorite beverage nearby is also good. Dimming the lights and lighting some candles seem to be a favorite mood enhancer with most people.

Above all, go  s l o w l y [then whip out your big stick, LOL]. One thing women do not like, is rushing. Women are more oxytocin-dependent than men; the more you caress a woman, the more oxytocin is released in her brain, priming her for more nitric oxide reaching her genitals and giving her more bang for her buck. Caresses are like female Viagra. I do find that in general, men don't take their time to caress in a non-sexual way. When I say time, I mean 20 minutes! And yet, that is what turns most women on. Getting their hair caressed, their necks nuzzled, tiny kisses all over....all at a snail's pace, to give her body time to rev up for the grand finale.

You might also bring her a gift of some boudoir wear. Unless she is comfortable with her body, try to resist the urge to come home with something made of just a few strips of fabric. Unfortunately, a majority of civilian women who are subject to the relentless media imagery of supertaut vixens and who don't resemble them in the slightest, will feel self-conscious and unable to focus on their enjoyment when wearing something too exotic. But everyone can feel feminine in a short see-through chiffon robe and some thigh-high stockings. A pair of beautiful high heels might also do the trick. After all, she only has to wear them in bed .

More than anything else, though: tell her that you find her incredibly sexy and desirable...and show it. If there is anything that will rev up a female, it's knowing that she is the object of a man's complete desire.

More hints from other ladies, perhaps,
the Love Goddess

A nice weekend with breakfast in bed. A nice day at the spa. Dinner out in some elegant restaurant. A movie or concert afterwards. And through the whole weekend never expect sex from her. What a special treat.
She may love Sea Mountain Spa, you might like it too.

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