ALWAY use your intuitions and of course lead with the big head, the one on your neck, unless the other one is bigger Lol!. I'm always impressed when you guys do your homework as well. So keep up the good work there!
I can tell you that I have "broken in" several first timers. They all said I look "real" in my photos. They usually arrive nervous as hell so we spend a few minutes talking (and petting) to get comfortable. I'm really laid back so it doesn't take long for the "turtle to come out of its shell".
When it's time to "indulge", I'm comfortable leading as it makes me feel like I am taking advantage of him (devilish grin). Then again, I like to be devoured too (I love being coy).
Anyway, they have all been positive experiences and some of them have even thanked me for "giving them their wings". Now they are full-fledged "hobbyists".
Just my $.50.
Smoo`ches,
Cami
Dear Friends,
I have been researching the hobby for a long time now, learning what to do and what not to do, and I understand the hobby's etiquette and protocol. However, I am finding it difficult to select a provider for my first encounter.
My problems are manifold. Every girl who looks and advertises herself like she might be the right girl has either no reviews, poor reviews, or mixed reviews, and generally has a limited number of reviews. I know that sometimes YMMV, but one cannot be too careful when selecting providers, and I would prefer not to end up TOFTT at my first session. At the same time, I don't want to see a provider who typically "provides" for several guys before me that same day (or perhaps that is something which is accepted as part of the hobby).
Since this is a service for which I would be paying, I am also particular about a number of things pertaining to the girl (i.e. her appearance, her attitude, the services she provides and the quality thereof, and the amount of the donation). However, I may be a little too selective when it comes to these things. Would it be wise to seek a reputable provider who is not exactly my type, or who is busier than I would prefer, to ensure a good experience? Doing this would of course mean putting aside some of my reservations and jumping right in to the hobby.
Any help from anyone with any experience will be appreciated. I would especially love to hear about some first experiences from hobbyists, as well as some experiences from providers who provided the first session to a newbie.
Many thanks in advance,
vivace5000
I'm recently new to hobbying, also. I carefully reviewed women, on TER, with a VIP membership, for a couple of weeks; which means, who are they looking for, and who has reviewed them. I had many of the same concerns as you, so I looked for women who were looking for "a few good men," so to speak. And, I looked, not just for the highest ratings, but for women who were rated by a significant number of men, who had seen her multiple times. I was interested, also, in how many other women these men had reviewed, and how the woman I was considering stacked up to those others.
I feel I came away with a winner the first time and I've seen her multiple times. I lost sight of this strategy my next two times and it went down hill from there. I focused too much on high ratings regarding appearance and performance (how many positions and pops).
Hope that helps.
I am still a newbie and I can identify with you. I did the same thing, I spend months researching, and learning so I would not make a fool of myself. when it came time to pick my first provider, I had trouble as well, I mean after all the amount of time and energy put into I wanted that first time to be a knockout... well I fore went all the ones that might me iffy, and looked for only ones who have several reviews, until I found one that I could "settle" for. as it turns out.. She was wonderful. you know what you want just chose one that has several reviews so you are not disappointed.... good luck
No, you are not being too selective. Your first experience in the hobby ought to be a positive one. To ensure that, make sure you don't compromise your criteria.
For example, going with a provider based solely on her stellar reviews may result in selecting someone who is physically not your "type".
(the one factor you may ease up on is the donation amount: don't be a cheapskate & let $$ influence your selection)
So I'd recommend (based on similar personal experience) being selective & sticking to your criteria. There are plenty of stunning providers that also have great reviews.
And if you're worried about being the tenth guy that day, just ask her to schedule you for her first of the day.
Whatever you do, don't pick based on looks & few or no reviews. Being new to the game you will almost certainly be disappointed. There's a minefield out there: scams, cash&dash, old pics, bait & switch, upselling, not to mention LE stings, etc, etc
Happy hobbying!
For starters, VIP is worth the money. It not only gives you a better read of her do's & don'ts, but it allows you an opportunity to see who the reviewers have seen, and to send them private mail.
Once you've looked through the stack of potential ladies, starting with the strictest criteria you can establish, make contact with definite times and see what happens. From there, work your way down the list until you hit paydirt. There are plenty of top rated providers that will play with newbies, so you shouldn't need to settle.
Don't count on seeing a lady that's not been around guys before. That's what she does, and not just with you.
Regarding the rate, figure out what the encounter is worth to you and stick with it. There's no guarantee that you'll find someone in that price range, but you should only pay what it's worth to YOU, or you'll be disappointed. My personal limit is around 500 per hour. I've only been there a couple times, and I've never been disappointed, but I don't see the event as worth more than that, so I won't go there, unless .... (it's a secret, LOL)
Look best thing to do to start, is go to search. Select the items you want, BBBJ, CBJ, ANAL, and so on.
Set it to 3 reviews or more. Pick the type you want white, black, asian.
Then see what comes up. As for $$ concerns its better to pay $ or $$ more than you planned to waste your money on a bad time.
I realize it is a slight risk, and an expenditure of cash, but honestly I think you CAN be too careful selecting a provider. This is supposed to be fun, a hobby. If it takes 3 monthes of research and you feel your "problems are manifold" are you really having any fun???
You aren't selecting a heart surgeon!
I think good reviews are far better than mixed or poor reviews on a lady who is just a bit more your perfect type. Life is full of surprises and you may go in with doubts and have your world rocked..........or go meet your physical ideal and find her to be uninspired or worse. You sometimes just have to say what the fuck
One thing one being the first of the day, if outcall doesnt work for you, and you see a provider who does incall from a hotel, schedule the earliest appointment, but remember a hotel with a 3pm check in may tell us they will try to get us in at noon, but it rarely happens.
Just take the plunge
ALWAY use your intuitions and of course lead with the big head, the one on your neck, unless the other one is bigger Lol!. I'm always impressed when you guys do your homework as well. So keep up the good work there!
I can tell you that I have "broken in" several first timers. They all said I look "real" in my photos. They usually arrive nervous as hell so we spend a few minutes talking (and petting) to get comfortable. I'm really laid back so it doesn't take long for the "turtle to come out of its shell".
When it's time to "indulge", I'm comfortable leading as it makes me feel like I am taking advantage of him (devilish grin). Then again, I like to be devoured too (I love being coy).
Anyway, they have all been positive experiences and some of them have even thanked me for "giving them their wings". Now they are full-fledged "hobbyists".
Just my $.50.
Smoo`ches,
Cami
I think you answered your own question
RESEARCH RESEARCH RESEARCH!
Perhaps POST IN YOUR AREA/CITY with what YOU WANT IN A LADY?
You may just get some replies
Is it ever appropriate to ask a new provider with no reviews if she knows if any clients she has seen recently will be writing a review of her?
...is what I did....roll the dice on CL! Or, in other words...."Fools rush in..."
You're doing it right. Wish I had known about TER ahead of time. I would have saved a very dissatisfying experience. Live and learn.
Good, solid, consistent reviews from a well-respected provider is a good place to start. You won't regret going a bit up-scale for starters.
Basically you need to trust the reviews on ter and the amount of reviews on anyone you are considering.
The reviews are our only way of keeping the quality of service at its top so we need you to be detailed in any review you give and not get caught up in giving a provider slack because you are new. I would suggest a higher rate provider with several pages of reviews and doing advanced searches with services you want in a provider and reading the reviews to see if they are doing what thier profiles say they do.
The more roses the less you are going to have awkward moments and its going to feel like the best slutty girlfriend you could wish for rather than the annoying lame girlfriend who cant give head and wants you to talk about why you arent in a relationship etc.