Any good GFE provider will establish her safety first and then ask you what you like to do. I dare say any lady who doesn't ask is someone I probably won't be seeing again.
What's really fun is the gals who start to tell you what THEY like!
After jumping in to the hobby with both feet, just a few thoughts on communication.
For the hobbyist, they would prefer to have as much information about the providers when they are makng their choice.
Legal issues however, create a situation at this stage where there is a needed caution as to what is said by a provider and client.
This situation can be eased by review sites like TER.
The caution can continue initially at the first meeting until the parties are comfortable that the other are who they say they are and not LE.
Once you get past this point, things have to change if your session is going to go the way you want it to.
Providers may have many skills, but as far as I know mind reading isn't one of them. If you want something, the client/hobbyist has to talk to the provider. For the usually quiet or newbie talking explicitly may seem awkward. Maybe some of our more veteran members or providers have some tips for this without sounding crass.
If you have done the research, found a provider with multiple reviews by reviewers who have reviewed a multiple of providers the chance of her deeming you "crass" for uttering that you want to run your tongue 6" up her poop-chute is negligible.
I think I'm just not used to talking so frank to a person I just met.
but it certainly is childish
... I just contacted a lady, and she has a very entertaining first response that states as much. She ended it by saying she doesn't want to hear any fantasies involving children or animals.
The better ladies are good mind readers, in as much as helping to make the time flow smoothly. If there is something specific you want, you do have to eventually ask for it (even if it is as ordinary as doing her from behind). Yes, it will be awkward at first, but you will get use to it. If you do see a lady regularly, you won't have to ask again.
Actually, there was one lady I saw where we were both asking to try new stuff.
I've also been in private chats with ladies I have not seen. The conversation goes along the lines of "have you done this before", not "will you do this when I visit" (capiche?). You are not soliciting anything. It's just a conversation between two people discussing their sex lives.
Any good GFE provider will establish her safety first and then ask you what you like to do. I dare say any lady who doesn't ask is someone I probably won't be seeing again.
What's really fun is the gals who start to tell you what THEY like!