Newbie - FAQ

Re: Becoming a regular
niceguy195 12 Reviews 1112 reads
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Yeah but if a provider starts slacking off, you can always stop coming. It's not like getting divorced

Ok while I still consider myself a newbie..
I've seen a couple of providers that gave a real varied level of services.
While a couple of the women I thought I would like to see again, one person I saw recently asked if I'd be a regular.
First I took this as a real compliment, that she must have enjoyed our time together.
Besides money which could easily become a problem.
What are the pros/cons of being a regular with a provider?

although that is not too common.

She might also be more into "experimenting" with things that she won't do with new or non-regular clients, but that's also not a forgone conclusion.

Also she might be more willing to go out of her way to see you some time when she might take a pass on others because she is busy with other things.

Other than that, there's all the nice times you'll have with a provider you are familiar with and the ability to get into each others' heads a bit.

Some people see this as a positive, and some a negative, but I see it as a positive as long as you respect each others' boundaries.

One negative that I have noticed a few times is that some providers might take you for granted and not bring their A game to each session.  I experienced this and moved off of them because of it.

I agree with mrfisher. I've found that I'm able to do things, as a regular, that I was not able to do as a first-timer, sometimes things that even other reviews were not reporting doing with that provider. And, I'm not so likely to be rushed out the door on the hour. I am always conscious of the possibility of the A game not being offered, but it hasn't happened yet.

...is the "expanded menu" you may find once a provider gets to know you.  I will also point out that I will never highlight an offering enjoyed with that provider that isn't on the main menu, protecting her privacy and right to decide what is offered to whom.

sleepydasher1575 reads

I've been at it about 8 weeks but jumped in with both feet, so have been quite a busy boy! :)

Here is my perspective:

1) Providers vary on what they consider a 'regular' but a recent thread on one of the boards- the consensus seemed to be more than once a month is a regular.  Less than once a month- a 'repeat'.  Some providers are willing to advance with regulars to have somewhat of a friendship as trust develops- within very necessary boundaries, and some keep their regulars fairly distant.  One of the ones I intend to repeat with monthly is delightful to be with and wonderful sex and I like her, but she does not want hobbyists "in her head"- she is delightful but it is strictly business.  I enjoy her and will repeat.

2) The first two really good gfe's I experienced, I knew I wanted to see again and guessed they would be regulars.  But rather than repeating immediately, I saw several others first to break myself of any 'newbie attachment' issues.  Since then, I've seen one twice and am requesting a third, and the other three times and have a fourth scheduled.  Why?  I really enjoy them and and am finding most of the advantages Mr. Fisher listed (except the discount which does not matter to me).  We are getting to know each other better, talk about personal things some and I think we enjoy each other.  All within the necessary boundaries as Mr. Fisher mentioned- i.e. we chat back and forth by pm or email- usually only when they initiate or answer back a scheduling email with some ongoing banter.

3) For me- my preference will be to find 2-4 ladies I really enjoy to repeat/maybe regular with and occasionally venture new when someone twinkles my eye.  I prefer ongoing contact over always new.  

That is obviously a highly individual thing-  you see many here who love new and that is a good thing too!

I am going to agree with MrFisher.

Being a regular means a couple things I think to the providers.

1. Safety (less unknown men the better for her)
2. Fixed income schedule (she can decide whether or not to work that day or etc if she knows she has some form on continued income coming soon).
3. Stressed or strained session as she is trying out figure how to best perform for her client. Also the more sessions together the better she can become at finding how to best perform.
4. Willing to do more than the norm. Could mean maybe the different between a CBJ and BBBJ.
5. Maybe she likes ya and enjoys your time with you (don't pat youself on the back to much).

We have to admit though that people tend to do do there best initially with any job and then get a little more relaxed later so I think after a while things will taper off or change.

I like to comment that you are the hobbiest (damm spelling police!!) it is your choice and you should do what makes you the happiest.

ducker721274 reads

Being a regular just depends on what angle you are in hobbying for, I can see where the comfort level would be a nice thing but also if she knows she has you every couple weeks she could get lazy in her approach ; begin deleting options much like a mainstream girlfriend and wife do once they know you are pussy whipped. The one night stand approach seems to work because they have to give a good performance or odds are you wont be back. She could be throwing away a steady grand a month which she has the potential to lose with every bad session.

Yeah but if a provider starts slacking off, you can always stop coming. It's not like getting divorced

sleepydasher1115 reads

surely work to prevent boredom and don't slack off to keep their regulars coming.

The one I've seen the most broke out the blind fold last time, and threatened (promised?) the soft hand cuffs next time!  lol- she's no dummy!

tokai861 reads

because it is a way to get business. That's not to say she didn't enjoy the date (why would she mention it to someone who was an ass?).

Pro:
#1- you know that you will enjoy the time with her.
You might want to do a longer date with her.
Don't have to get verified.
Can be explicit in communications.
Can get right to it when you get there.
She knows how to prepare for you.
She knows what turns you on.
She may offer a discount to regulars.
She may keep you at the same rate, as she raises her rates for other new guys (variation of discount).
She is willing to modify her schedule to accommodate you.
She may stop taking new guys, but you can still see her.
She will get to know you.
You can get to know about her.

Cons:
You may want to see her more than you would otherwise.
She may be overly possessive when you don't want to see her (think stalker).
She may take you for granted (cancel with you to take a date from a new guy because she knows you will reschedule).
She may ask you to loan her money.
You may find out more than you really want to know about her.
You may fall in love with her.

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