My children and I certainly do not converse about our respective sex lives with each other regardless of our partners.  I was merely trying to ask a hypothetical question on how a gent thinks he may react if a child ever approached him with evidence that good ole dad played in the hobby.  I did not offer conjecture on how such evidence was attained nor am I suggesting that my own children would ever confront me if they had such information.  This was purely a ‘what if’ question that entered my mind based upon the thread below.

bostongreg’s original post contained the setup of a provider being worried about her livelihood being discovered by a child. The resulting replies were focused on how a hypothetical mother/child conversation may flow if the child discovered the sexual provider livelihood of the parent.  At the end of the thread, Love Goddess pointed out that no reviewed providers offered their thoughts and she suggested that this may be an indication of the difficulty surrounding this subject.   I tend to agree.  So I wondered how guys might deal with the reverse situation.  If this were to ever happen, I also think it would be a difficult subject matter.   This is the only comparison between the two situations I was trying to make. No more, no less…

In an attempt to spawn discussion, I then offered my thoughts on how I think I might deal with the situation.  I explicitly stated that I don’t think I could really know how I would actually respond until it happened.  Trust me this is not a conversation I ever plan on having and I’m not trying to prepare for it either.  With that being said, I guessed on how I might tap dance through this hypothetical minefield.  In doing so I was not trying to establish a template for how one should deal with this situation if it ever came to be.  I was simply expressing how I think I might react.  I agree with the ‘red flag’ that Love Goddess cited to some extent.  I would absolutely abhor asking my children to keep something from their mother to protect me from an unpleasant situation.  But speaking in hypothetical terms since I don’t know what I would really do, I think I may still be inclined to ask for the secrecy.  I acknowledge the possible negative impact this could have on my family relationships.  However I may also think about the potential of causing the least amount of harm.  So while it may have some degree of selfish motivation, I also think there is room for me to consider if it would be better to shield (not lie) a spouse and/or other child from this information if they were unaware of it.  I will repeat,  I’m not sure that I would take this tact but I’m fairly positive the thought would cross my mind and I’d give it consideration.

One last clarification.  While I cannot speak for any subconscious thoughts that flowed through my mind at the time of posting, my motivation for the post was not driven by guilt nor the quest for absolution.  I was just contributing to a discussion board and writing my honest thoughts based upon an earlier thread.  Since the subject at hand is difficult in nature, I felt the anxiety as I tried to put myself in the hypothetical situation.  I find great distinction in this then from any actual guilt I feel about my hobbying.  To be honest that guilt is quite real but for me it is another subject altogether.  Despite this, I do thank you Love Goddess for your absolution                                        


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