Right as Im going for the hello baby WELCOME ~smiles~ then ~SMOOCH~ then....let nature take it's course. Sometimes a little conversation is needed to break the ice, others a more exuberant HUG and BOING He is AT attention already. oh my...im rambling...
xoxo
DI
I posed this question to a group of ladies in another forum, but then I thought I might do better to ask the men too.
When you're with a provider, do you prefer that she initiate the first kiss or do you prefer initiating it yourself?
Also, is that answer the same if you're on a regular date as opposed to a provider date?
Mostly just curious...
Honestly, I do not care who initiates the kiss be it with a provider or a civilian.
Isn't a kiss mutually initiated usually? When two people kiss, it is a mutual decision whatever their motivation. Your eyes connect, you move into each other's space, you touch, you kiss.
Having said that, when I have been kissed by a woman who "doesn't kiss", it was such a sweet gesture (initiated by the lady), that I treasure the memory.
when w/a provider, i prefer the lady to initiate the first kiss, i like being needy w/her. w/a civie, either way, but if she plants the first one,it's a hell of a compliment (in my eyes).
with a nice big kiss when entering the room.
I expect the opposite with a civie.
When I visit w/ providers I like it when they initiate. The reason is simply that if it is say a first meeting she is not only setting a tone for the appointment but putting you at ease by letting you know she is accepting you. In my opinion the provider is mostly in control of sessions.
In civilian life, I would be the one to initiate mostly for the opposite reasons.
All that being said, I've had some outrageously good sessions that started w/out a kiss/ hug. I suppose it's just my preference that they all would. It's a nice thing to do for your guest 
I strongly second Boris993. My best sessions with providers have been those where, within a few minutes of meeting her, she initiates a deep French kiss with me. It shows that she wants to make the session very sensual and special. When I have to initiate the first kiss, it is almost as if I am imposing myself on her ... and we all know that that doesn't jibe with the fantasy atmosphere we are there for.
So if she wants to grab me, hug me, tear my clothes off, tie me up and have her way with me, more power to her; providers or civies.
initiates the action then I know I am in for a special time. Bring it on baby!
Right as Im going for the hello baby WELCOME ~smiles~ then ~SMOOCH~ then....let nature take it's course. Sometimes a little conversation is needed to break the ice, others a more exuberant HUG and BOING He is AT attention already. oh my...im rambling...
xoxo
DI
When I see a provider, in my opinion there is nothing hotter than when she initiate that first kiss. It makes me feel like she actually wants to be there with me and enjoy a hot time together.
Depending on my mood, however, I may just suddenly move in for that first kiss. Each session is different.
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My two worst expereinces with providers have been with ones who don't kiss or pull away if you initiate the kiss after waiting for them in vain. When the providers initiates it sets the tone and relaxes everyone. Afterall, they are "supposed" to be professionals. Those who don't, in my book, are not very good and get a negative review, especially after advertising themselves as GFE.
This is a very good post--original, appropos, and insightful.
Well, I've always been a little shy when it comes to initiating. Am I in the wrong business? I don't think so! Admittedly, my first couple of experiences as a provider have been slightly awkward...not awkward as in disappointing, but awkward as in nervous - for both of us! You can read all the forums and board postings you want until you go cross-eyed, but no one can ever tell you what the first experience will be like.
My first client brought along a bottle of wine. Yeah! That helped us both loosen up a bit. When I greeted him at the door, I gave him a nice full body hug and was GOING to kiss him, but he turned and I ended up pecking his cheek. Hmmmm...nervous perhaps? After a few sips of wine and some chatting, he did admit that he had the first date jitters. THAT made me feel a whole world better and I felt more confident taking the lead. I wanted to make sure I didn't rush anything and the gentleman would get a great session with me. We continued to talk and sip our wine. We talked for quite a while, and I didn't want him to think his time was slipping away with no action. So I started to move closer, and closer, then my fingers started wandering, and his fingers started wandering. I noticed there was a gleam in his eyes and I could tell his heart was beating faster...so I just pounced on the poor guy! I'm guessing he didn't mind at all since we'll be getting together again soon. ~wink, wink
To be honest, I can't say that I think there are any hard and fast rules (no pun intended) about who initiates the first kiss. I think it's a chemistry thing, and if the chemistry is right, then everything should just flow. For me, I'd like to take at least a bit of time to chat before we jump right in, but not necessarily all the time. Or if the gentleman seems exceptionally nervous, I may just run my fingers through his hair while he's talking and surprise him with some LFK and see if he reciprocates. It's usually all downhill from there. LOL
But I do have to say that even as a relative newbie, my confidence and comfort levels are quickly rising...so you could get a pussycat or a puma when you knock on my door! I like to mix it up a bit...
XOXO,
Stella