for instance, if she has an incall in a 5 star hotel, a "work uniform," if you wear one at work, would stand out. Also ripped jeans and a tshirt would also be equally conspicuous. Business casual is always a good bet (or if you prefer you can dress up).
However, if she is meeting in a more casual motel, a suit and tie may draw attention. Not many guys wear suits to the "Red Roof Inn" or "Motel 6."
I guess the best answer, as always, is to use your common sense. The key is to be well groomed, clean and fresh (or be prepared to take a quick shower beforehand). Fresh breath is always appreciated and if you are a smoker, ladies always appreciate if you have brushed your teeth, rinsed out your mouth with mouthwash and washed off your face before meeting. For non-smokers, its still like "kissing an ashtray."
I read all the time about ladies who complain that the gent's breath smelled or garlic or onions or of cigarettes or cigars.
Remember, the provider will have taken the time to primp for your appointment. She will be freshly showered, her breath will be clean and fresh, and she will welcum (sorry couldn't resist the play on words) you looking her best.
Have fun, stay safe and enjoy your erotic adventures!
SINfully sinthia
As a newbie preparing for my very first foray into "hobbying", I was looking for some advice on how to dress for my encounter. Above all else I always want to make a good first impression but a tie and/or jacket just doesn't sit well with me....more like a nice pair of jeans and button-down collared dress shirt kinda guy. Is this enough or do I need to bite the bullet???
My first I just went dressed as "business casual".
...is one you feel comfortable in. A tie and jacket are by no means needed and pretty unusual for a hobbyiest to turn up in unless he's just popped out from the office.
Jeans and a shirt will be absolutely fine.
Have fun! 
Just dress neatly and cleanly. I normally wear business casual to work and thats what I wear on a date. It's pretty low key and doesn't attract unwanted attention from hotel staff and neighbors.
I think it is good to dress like you would if you were going on an actual date. If your appointment is a dinner date at a nice restaurant then you should dress appropriately for that.
Even if the appointment is a 1 or 2-hr , I feel that you should dress like it's a date. You want to show her that you appreciate her seeing you, and that you actually took some time to look nice for her.
Runningman
Dress as if you were taking her out. If she is an upscale lady, then I would dress business casual at the least (no jeans). If she is more down to earth, then jeans may be ok.
You can get an idea of the lady from her pics. In all her pics is she dressed in evening dresses/fancy lingerie, or is she wearing tight t-shirts.
I am usually coming from the office, so that's what I wear. If I'm overdressed, it is not a problem. I'm not likely to be underdressed.
However, she is a professional, and will overlook your dress (unless you are really taking her out). It is more important to be clean and well groomed.
shoes.
Never sneakers, always clean and polished.
Just think about it: Half a woman's mind is devoted to the subject of shoes. What makes you think she won't be interested in yours?
I'm finalizing plans for this afternoon, and just noticed that my shoes need touching up.
I hope she doesn't mind me showing up in bare feet.
I whole-heartedly agree with mrfisher; shoes are important to the ladies. To my surprise, I've gotten consistant compliments on how nice my shoes look. A well tailored shirt made out of crisp, high quality fabric gets good reviews also.
I have two goals in how I dress for an encounter and neither one is to impress or try to win the lady over in any way or try to convince her I am her ultimate stud.
1. I want to look ultra clean and presentable so she is as comfortable with me as possible
2. I want to be comfortable- meaning totally me, not trying to be someone else.
For me, it simply means clean, pressed clothing that I would normally wear on a nice date.
No, but seriously, it depends on the appt. If its just an hour or two behind closed doors, I'd say just wear what makes you feel comfortable. If you are going out, dress according to where you will be going.
Being clean & respectful is more important.
Be Safe, Have Fun!
Smooches,
Cami~
-- Modified on 11/10/2007 7:51:00 AM
in Florida where the dress code is a lot different than up north. I would feel like a real fool meeting a lady in a suit, or even a shirt and tie, especially in the summer.
Shoes? I've never heard a lady request a certain type of shoes. Down here, there are only two types, those with laces, those without. LOL
I guess I am just glad I have been lucky enough to see ladies at the time when dressing up was not required.
I do recommend that your clothes, whatever style you choose, be clean and neat, along with your body. After all, as someone mentioned above, the clothes aren't gonna be on too long, unless you picked the wrong lady.
my Florida .02
Swim
Has always worked for me. Remember, you will be meeting a lady for the first time...regardless of whether she is a provider, you want to exude class and respect. She will notice your choice of clothing...won't necessarily mean a better first session, but will factor into her decision to see you again. You don't need to be Daper Dan, but dressing well never hurts...
for instance, if she has an incall in a 5 star hotel, a "work uniform," if you wear one at work, would stand out. Also ripped jeans and a tshirt would also be equally conspicuous. Business casual is always a good bet (or if you prefer you can dress up).
However, if she is meeting in a more casual motel, a suit and tie may draw attention. Not many guys wear suits to the "Red Roof Inn" or "Motel 6."
I guess the best answer, as always, is to use your common sense. The key is to be well groomed, clean and fresh (or be prepared to take a quick shower beforehand). Fresh breath is always appreciated and if you are a smoker, ladies always appreciate if you have brushed your teeth, rinsed out your mouth with mouthwash and washed off your face before meeting. For non-smokers, its still like "kissing an ashtray."
I read all the time about ladies who complain that the gent's breath smelled or garlic or onions or of cigarettes or cigars.
Remember, the provider will have taken the time to primp for your appointment. She will be freshly showered, her breath will be clean and fresh, and she will welcum (sorry couldn't resist the play on words) you looking her best.
Have fun, stay safe and enjoy your erotic adventures!
SINfully sinthia
Good insight, but one question. If a provider is using a hotel/motel for her incall, how is a hobbyist supposed to know which one far enough ahead of time to know what to wear? It is my understanding that the place to meet her isn't told until the gentleman is on his way.
I still think that a pair of slacks or nice jeans and a clean button up or nice polo is just fine no matter where the appointment. Cut off shorts, muscle shirt, and flip flops are just as far one way as a tuxedo would be the other way.
Like Sin said, be clean and fresh no matter what. You expect her to be that way, so you better be assured you are that way.