....when they're asking you if you'll provide sexual services. I shut conversations down if someone gets explicit at all, whether they're asking for a specific sex act or not. It shows a complete disregard for safety and discretion, and that isn't someone that I'm content bringing to my incall.
It could be that he was new & just didn't know the difference - but if that's the case, he should get the hint when you either ignore him or ask him to please be appropriate. If someone continues to push, then it's time to shut things down and utilize the block button.
Don't second guess yourself when it comes to your safety. Not all money is good money.
A guy I was set to meet has been emailing questions about sex acts and payment after I confirmed the appointment which I ignored. He had 4 reviews from this month only.. as well as references for this month who gave the okay. I told him I changed my mind but I'm unsure if i did the right thing. I feel unsafe seeing him since he's so new. Any suggestions ladies
run for the hills. Men should not be emailing explicit information.
Thanks so much! I was feeling incredibly unsafe even though he had 6 okays only from July and no other months.
Seriously, there is no point in risking yourself. Build up a good network with your fellow providers and try to share the questionable guy's TER handle. The guy's an idiot to ask those questions. The providers board is a good place to start. Now to see what's in the fridge...
gut instinct first and foremost no matter what you 'think' is the right thing to do. I have refused to see a few gents because something just didn't 'feel' right no matter what I was told. I think you did the right thing. Feel good about that.
The 'I smell bacon' comment was hilarious lol.
specific information ..
you have reviews he should read.. that it
he sounds bad news
Yes I was truly shocked he passed such extensive screening and managed to go through with it and ended up attempting to see me. He even passed the k-girl reference check which is rare. After he was in the hobby for 1 month with all of his reviews, references, etc it was shocking to read his emails to me. The first time he violated my safety in an email, I excused it since he seemed new but as he emailed me more, his comments became unacceptable. I learned a lesson today.
Nature put those little hairs on the back of your neck for a reason. Whether it's getting eaten by a tiger or popped by a pig, you have to trust them.
OK. I'm going out on a limb and "ASSUMING" things:
You have a website.
Things are pretty much spelled out on it.
He was told to read the website for information.
And you continue to get very probing emails.
If someone you've never met is asking about ANYTHING involving sexual acts and money at the same time, I can't think of a bigger red flag asking "Would you please arrest me, Officer, because I'm clueless about the business and legalities ?".
Asking about specific amounts of time and money is one thing and legal. The other ain't. In the Meth Lab of Democracy (AZ), even things like saying "GFE" (spoken or written) are grounds to get you some new chrome or pink bracelets.
Those little hairs should have been screaming and you did the right thing. Trust them and you'll be fine as long as you VERIFY VERIFY VERIFY and VERIFY again.
....when they're asking you if you'll provide sexual services. I shut conversations down if someone gets explicit at all, whether they're asking for a specific sex act or not. It shows a complete disregard for safety and discretion, and that isn't someone that I'm content bringing to my incall.
It could be that he was new & just didn't know the difference - but if that's the case, he should get the hint when you either ignore him or ask him to please be appropriate. If someone continues to push, then it's time to shut things down and utilize the block button.
Don't second guess yourself when it comes to your safety. Not all money is good money.
Don't second guess yourself, you did the right thing. In all honesty the odds are that he is just an idiot. But why risk it. He should have had enough common sense to see you once so you were comfortable with him before asking such things, especially in standard e-mail. There are also more discrete ways to drop a hint about what one is looking for without asking any questions or requiring any answer.