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Why most prefer the 2 call method .... and-
Tori Of ATL See my TER Reviews 1713 reads
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My usual procedures. (*all providers are different- this is just what I usually do*)

I simply make contact through email get most of the necessary screening accomplished and attain a level of comfort while inviting the gent to feel free to express any concerns.
(*Nothing explicit or detailed just items which might be causing him anxiety*)

I call him or even better he calls me and I give him the exact location that we are meeting at. If it is outcall then he can tell me his property and Suite number. (*If it is incall then I have the location reserved and ready- whether it be a private residence or hotel room*) If it is outcall then the client invites me to his location.

Since I'm not in the habit of receiving visitors where I have the ability to monitor every vehicle driving in and out; a car description isn't necessary for me. I also try to make certain I am very secure with the identity of the guest before he arrives. I would NEVER suggest watching from a window to try to determine whether it is L/E or not. If you are in an established  incall,  by the time you see the vehicle L/E will have already made plans to arrest you. I would suggest screening better and having more confidence with the guest that is arriving. ....-BUT- ...I do understand different providers conduct their business differently.

If the visitor wishes to he can call when en route or if anything goes awry with the plans. I caution newbie's about excessive phone calls to the same number. Especially if their phone log is monitored.

I think a good recommendation is for each hobbyist to find what works for him and what makes him comfortable and then stick with it. I personally don't ever involve vehicles or descriptions of vehicles in my encounters -but- some may.... I guess it is just a matter of what you are seeking..... kisses ~T

Just Helping a Newbie2389 reads

(note from jazz32 - this was originally posted by grandviceroy as an OT reply on another thread, to help him get his answer I'm reposting it as its own topic.)


tomorrow is my first time...yes, my very first.  i have a date, incall.  she told me to meet her at a hotel, told me what kind of car she will be driving, and asked me what kind i will be driving.

ok, so, since this is an incall, and i am meeting her, do i get the room, or will she have one?  how do i find her?

new and nervous at 53 - almost 54 -, but very excited....

But what you describe, especially the part about what kind of car she is driving, sounds like an outcall situation; so this is pretty fuzzy.

Why not pick up the phone and ask her what her expectation is.

Does she have reviews?  Have you read them?  Where there any comments as to whether she did outcall or incall?

Research is the key to having things go smoothly, especially as this is your first time.

sleepydasher1628 reads

I hope she is well reviewed and known on your local board because I'd be a little suspicious of her telling you what kind of car she will be driving and asking what you will be driving.

I've never had any provider do that- and would assume a provider wouldn't want you knowing what she is driving for her own protection.

If she is known and well reviewed- no problem.  If you found her on CL- I'd beware of a setup.

My usual procedures. (*all providers are different- this is just what I usually do*)

I simply make contact through email get most of the necessary screening accomplished and attain a level of comfort while inviting the gent to feel free to express any concerns.
(*Nothing explicit or detailed just items which might be causing him anxiety*)

I call him or even better he calls me and I give him the exact location that we are meeting at. If it is outcall then he can tell me his property and Suite number. (*If it is incall then I have the location reserved and ready- whether it be a private residence or hotel room*) If it is outcall then the client invites me to his location.

Since I'm not in the habit of receiving visitors where I have the ability to monitor every vehicle driving in and out; a car description isn't necessary for me. I also try to make certain I am very secure with the identity of the guest before he arrives. I would NEVER suggest watching from a window to try to determine whether it is L/E or not. If you are in an established  incall,  by the time you see the vehicle L/E will have already made plans to arrest you. I would suggest screening better and having more confidence with the guest that is arriving. ....-BUT- ...I do understand different providers conduct their business differently.

If the visitor wishes to he can call when en route or if anything goes awry with the plans. I caution newbie's about excessive phone calls to the same number. Especially if their phone log is monitored.

I think a good recommendation is for each hobbyist to find what works for him and what makes him comfortable and then stick with it. I personally don't ever involve vehicles or descriptions of vehicles in my encounters -but- some may.... I guess it is just a matter of what you are seeking..... kisses ~T

I hope that she is not driving a non-descript Ford Crown Victoria with extra antnenas on it. lol

but sometimes a good thing.

My first visit with my now ATF was at a fabulous bungalow style resort.  Large property, each unit its own exterior entrance.  By her letting me know what she was driving, it was easier for me to locate what area of the property she was in.  By letting her what I was driving, it was easy for her to keep an eye out for me through the window, and hen I arrived, discretely come out to meet me in the parking lot as if I an old friend, or simply her next business appointment.

Must be nice to know you are her next business appointment...  :-)

Seriously though, at my incall when I remember I ask what someone is driving as the garage is too low for SUVs and they have to park outside and get a guest sticker.  Nothing nefarious.

Giggle,
TS Jamie :-)

The gal with whom I traded vehicle info had 10 pages of reviews at the time (she now has 19), and I had met her her briefly months earlier, when I had an incall visit with one her friends with the agency she used to operate.

Obviously information is the key!

I know you are extremely excited cowboy, but you really need to slow down and think about the situation(with your big head)

This scenario you just outlined has way too many questions. First, I would be wary about the whole initial meeting. Since you are exchanging car info, then it now sounds like she may want you to meet her in the parking lot of the hotel. Is she just nervous about you and wants to make sure you are professional and legit? In a worse case, is she LE and you will be surrounded by cops as you pull into the parking lot? Even if she is not LE, then the next thing you have to worry about is the room situation. Do you walk into the hotel together or separately? Has she paid for the room or does she expect you to secure it upon arrival? In a normal incall situation, she would have the room and all you would have to do is call her from downstairs to get the room number.

This is NOT what I would recommend for a first time experience. You will be nervous enough about the actual session and now you are throwing into the mix questions about how you will find her, where to meet her and who pays for the room? This is not worth it. Redo your homework and find a provider who is professional in her initial contact, will make sure you completely understand how to contact her to get the specific meeting location and will ultimately make sure you have a fun and safe session.  
 

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When I first started I worked for an agency and we did the same thing. They didn't have a consistent incall location due to risk and got new hotel room every day.  The first incall in an area would have to be set up by one of the providers.  She would meet the client in the parking lot, collect half of the money and then go inside to get the room. After she got the room, she would call him up.  On occasion if someone was feeling skiddish, I would tell him to come inside with me to insure that I wasn't LE.  We would laugh and joke like college roommates and talk about how great it was for me to be in town for "the reunion".LOL.

Some ladies also ask so that they can keep a look out for you and know when you are there to make sure you are not rolling in one of those lovely dark blue crown vics.

To answer your question.Yes, this is an incall and she should get the room.  An outcall, would be you have gotten the room before hand and tell her where to come.
Kisses

Symone

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