I've always had interest in either at least once going to a swingers club or partisipating in a private utr gangbang or orgy. Here's the one question I've always had that frankly I'd feel like an a&s if I had to ask: how does the deal with the protection work?
Basically, I know this isn't the 1970s and bbfs probably wouldn't be readily available. Even if it was, I wouldn't want it. So what does one do in these situations. Do I basically move around with a cover on till I do my business? Is it standard to have to change it every time I move from one lady to another? And is cbj standard or would a bbbj be the norm? For that matter, is daty readily available if the lady invites you over?
thanks
a completely green "swinger"
I sometimes attend multi-provider parties here in the UK. Practice and protocols may vary, but here are the general rules I've seen:
1) all sex is protected, and condoms are always changed when moving from lady to another. Generally condoms are provided by the event organizer, but I would also recommend that you bring some of your own, just in case.
2) bbbj is common, but as with all ladies, it is at her discretion whether deep throat, CIM, etc., are available.
3) daty is also common, but again it does vary. For example at the party I went to on Saturday, one gal said no fingers inside, another said fingers were fine if they are covered by a condom, and the third allowed uncovered fingers inside her.
Play safe, follow her rules, communicate, and everyone has fun!
I have played in the past at several of the swingers clubs across the country- (*New York, Atlanta, Ft Lauderdale, Miami, Phoenix, San Diego*) .....I'm just offering thoughts from my personal experience, as a female.... and in regards to most US clubs. As Jazz suggested, abroad is different.
While soft swapping in most clubs go unprotected (* that is kissing and oral*) some women prefer that you not DATY unless they know you... so be cautious when starting and always remember in a swing club even the suggestion of no MEANS no!!!- a push on your shoulder, a nudge with an arm or even an open hand could signal NO. (*you don't want to be thrown out and possibly banned for no respecting women*) Just take things slow until you are certain.
In regards to a full swap and "the act"- for a lack of better terminology..... I always have my own protection. I have never witnessed unprotected full intercourse in a swingers club except for married spouses and some clubs frown on that. If you want to be safe then I'd bring your favorite condom with you and some lubricant. If you are with a woman she can carry a small bag with the essentials. Most women do. The clubs also have fishbowls of condoms sitting around as a last resort. If you are solo then good luck.... I'd just suggest carrying it around with you in open sight, most single guys in swingers clubs are thought to be on the prowl anyway so why not look the part....ready willing and able *LOL* Ok, I'm just teasing, but it is true in many clubs.
Oh and you must definitely change condoms with each lady!! Not doing so and trying to proceed is probably equivalent to spitting on the floor in a Sauna ....or something even worse. It would demonstrate poor manners at best and a lack of person concern for safety at worse... either way, you wouldn't be a favorite among the women playing.
That is one reason I love swingers clubs, men seem to be better behaved than in mainstream clubs... even just dancing on the dance floor seems more enjoyable. So try to remember to watch your manners, it could help decide whether you will get an additional BJ or not. Have fun play safe ....kisses ~T