Alhtough I'm reluctant to take this position, I think the unavoidable conclusion is that the provider has to be "outed" at least within the provider community.
The whole rationale for this review board is to alert others to the quality or lack of quality of the people with whom the community deals. Within certain limits, clients probably under-report bad experiences, but nevertheless do draw attention to the providers at the unacceptable end of the scale. Likewise, for providers there is a range of tolerable behavior. Unreliable reference checks, particularly on safety, have to be disqualifying, I would think, among providers, and there has to be accountability for that kind of conduct. I know this sounds harsh, but I don't see how it can be any other way. Of course, I think you should be informed by the provider's reaction when you confront her directly. If it was just a simple mistake (and the excuse seems credible) then let it go. Otherwise, go public.
I'm caught between a rock and a hard place here, but to say i'm livid would be an understatement.
I emailed a provider for client verification, her reply was 'yes he's safe'.
Now imagine my surprise/horror when i see a post she has made with a warning about this guy. She saw him last month and her warning post was a few days after she had emailed me saying he was safe.
I am always very honest when i give a client verification and assumed everyone else was.
Now clearly this provider can not be trusted verifying clients, do i name her on the PO Board?
After all, this is about all of our us and our safety in this industry.
Without knowing whats in her warning post I couldn't say. If the warning post was about conduct during her meeting, then maybe so. If the post was about conduct after her meeting (stalker, harassing email, crazy wife emailing her etc.) she might not have known when the reference was requested, so maybe not.
Alhtough I'm reluctant to take this position, I think the unavoidable conclusion is that the provider has to be "outed" at least within the provider community.
The whole rationale for this review board is to alert others to the quality or lack of quality of the people with whom the community deals. Within certain limits, clients probably under-report bad experiences, but nevertheless do draw attention to the providers at the unacceptable end of the scale. Likewise, for providers there is a range of tolerable behavior. Unreliable reference checks, particularly on safety, have to be disqualifying, I would think, among providers, and there has to be accountability for that kind of conduct.
I know this sounds harsh, but I don't see how it can be any other way. Of course, I think you should be informed by the provider's reaction when you confront her directly. If it was just a simple mistake (and the excuse seems credible) then let it go. Otherwise, go public.
I spoke with her privately today, now she is saying he is safe and she only gave a warning due to his emails to her over the last week.
2nd email contradicts 1st and she admits his behavior on the date in Feb.
Her warning post was clear that his behavior was not on when the date happened back in February.
Conflicting emails from her so not sure what to say.
But no, i will not be seeing the client that's for sure.
If you can prove the change in behavior that is one thing.
But her quick change on the client makes it sounds like a provider who is upset her client is seeing other ladies and is jealous. I have seen that in the past. I am just offering another possibility to the situation, which i hope is not the case.
You should contact another reference and do your own research to be sure.
Her definition of 'safe' must be different than yours.
I would email her back and ask about the confusion. I could be she's confused, or as another poster said, maybe it's due to things that happened after she emailed you.
good luck. Looking forward to seeing you in LA again!
DkG
I would agree with DarkGonzo. I can see why you are upset and rightfully frightened that you could have seen this now 'unsafe' client. But I would clarify with her, because it could have unfortunately been a careless mistake on her part if she was indeed confused about whom the actual client was. Hope u get some resolution soon.
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I won't go into detail regarding the private emails between myself and the provider, but let's just say she was fully aware of who she was talking about and something stinks, that's all i'm saying.