UP: The provider can quickly surmise that you’re not LE, and easily contact a previous provider you’ve seen to further validate this. This can very often save you the need to ‘again’ give out screening information that you would rather not afford.
Down: Who you’ve previously seen and the types of scores you gave can give reason for the provider to “Cherry pick” as to whether she wishes to see you.
I notice that some providers asks for the client's TER handle among other things for verification. I'm not sure if I want the provider to know what I would later write about her. On the other hand, she might provide better service if she thinks that I would write a review. Any thoughts?
I always give mine, but I know a lot of guys don't for the reason you mentioned- fear that if they write a bad review, provider might get mad and out some of the info given for screening I guess? Also fear of associating in writing on a visible forum that they actually participated in the activity?
My thoughts in giving mine are this--
1) I like to give it because it gives the provider a chance to know me a little before coming in through my posts and reviews.
2) Because I've been pretty active in posting since joining TER and have bantered back and forth with my providers on the boards a good bit, many of the local providers who also actively participate will recognize me when I schedule and I think it has hastened/smoothed the screening a good bit.
3) I'm not afraid to give it out- I give providers the full respect they are due and that I would expect, which includes not being disrespectful in any reviews. Doesn't mean I won't describe the experience accurately but will definitely describe it respectfully.
4) If you want to be white listed, they gotta have your handle!
5) Plus.......... I only see great reviewed providers now, so I know in advance I'm unlikely to be writing less than a great review! Has served me well in good experiences!
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I have a couple reviews that indicate that I'd never be back, but I think that they're respectful of the provider. That's not to say that she'd be proud of them, but it is what it is.
As a frequent poster of my local board, I've had ladies ask when I was going to see them. Talk about easy screening.
Dude, it's an alias. What are you afraid of, that she'll find out you're a dick and badmouth the ladies you've seen?
Just be honest in your assessments and reviews.
I generally do, but it CAN bite you in the ass.
My TER handle is connected to nothing outside of TER's servers which are located offshore. She would play hell getting any information from them. I have never given nor will I ever give identifiable information about myself. Unless, that is, she is willing to answer all of my bullshit questions. What's fair for one is fair for all; there are plenty of fish in the sea. To my way of thinking it simply is not worth the potential risk.
UP: The provider can quickly surmise that you’re not LE, and easily contact a previous provider you’ve seen to further validate this. This can very often save you the need to ‘again’ give out screening information that you would rather not afford.
Down: Who you’ve previously seen and the types of scores you gave can give reason for the provider to “Cherry pick” as to whether she wishes to see you.
Providers ask for all kinds of personal information including employment information. I'd much rather give a TER handle, and I have no problem with the ladies reading what I write about our experience. I do an honest and accurate review. This is a good way for the provider to get some feedback about their performance, and to find other providers that may give you a reference. I have absolutely no problem with giving my TER handle. Oft times it's all the screening they need to do, once they know it's you.
And what is wrong with a provider "Cherry Picking" as you put it? Not everyone with $$$ is welcome. If she sees something about you in your reviews she doesn't like, it would benefit you in the long run as well as her.
It could be the difference between a great appointment or a mediocre appointment.
Or maybe the fact that she might refuse you is too much to deal with...hell if I know.
Flattering, high scored reviews are monetarily very valuable to a provider. Some hobbyists are exceedingly generous with their scores; sometimes out of basic gallantry, and sometimes for venal self serving reasons. Either can work to the detriment of other hobbyists.
Some hobbyists while being truly fair but less inclined to inflate scores for any reason are often clandestinely made a pariah and passed over by a provider simply because of her understandable wish to have a litany of exceptional review scores to her name.
The dynamics of the above scenarios ultimately works to devalue the review system, and compromise its original intent.
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Good point and well taken, however as far as I am concerned I am not reviewed so that does not apply to me. I like to know if a guy reviews and check them out only so I can see if we're going to be compatible or not. Also I am very discreet so the reviews are a great way of not putting anything in an email or via a phone conversation that will end up in a hang-up or the delte button.
There is no point on "Joe" who loves UTFCIM( let's say according to his reviews a deal-breaker) coming to see me when I won't. And yes even though I am not reviewed I do get a few requests a month from hobbyists who try to see me. I am very fair and will not book someone I know will be unhappy with the way I provide and I don't like to waste my time fending off the specific sexual advances of an increasingly pissed off hobbyist. That's the only reason I like to know a handle especially if they review and a lot can be gained from a guys postings as a lot, from your view point, can be gained by reading the postings of ASP's.
I hate wasting my and someone elses time.
I have witnessed many a scenario where a hobbyist with perhaps a penchant for 20-something Asian spinners will book with a buxom 5'8" Caucasian MILF and then lament in his review that she wasn't his aesthetic/age ideal, then obviously deduct points in BOTH appearance and performance categories when compared to her other review score aggregate.
Many moons ago an associate of mine sought to book with a very alluring Hispanic provider. She openly queried him as to why the preponderance of his reviews were of Caucasian blonds. His truthful reply was that it was simply coincidence and not a racial or hair color preference. The Provider who was enjoying a rather quickly established success agreed to see him; but contingent on his subsequent review reflecting no less than a "9 - 10". My friend chose to retain his integrity and hobbied elsewhere.
more interesting when you finally meet face to face. In my opinion I think it's petty if your too embarressed to face a provider knowing she knows you just may review her. WHO CARES? Every mans taste is different, and what I do with my clients, you may not like! (pulls off jell slicked rubber glove) POP!
And if your being honest in your reviews of her, and didn't quite care for this or that, or the fact that she was watching T.V. during the act, PUT IT ON THE BOARD! Don't be such a wooooos.
I am always happy to hear that not only the smiles leaving my room are sincere, but they are more than willing to shout to the rest of the Hobby how happy they were.
But this is just MY preference. ~winks~
xoxo
DI
The bigest plus is that she can see who may have white listed you. Another point is that some ladies will read some of your reviews to see what you like.
I wouldn't mind giving a provider I'm seeing my TER handle. I think it's fun to chat and flirt here sometimes. Also, she can read your reviews and posts and get an idea of what you like and also learn more about your personality.
As far as reviews go, I think if you are honest, but not harsh or disrespectful, things should be fine. I know there is always risk in terms of backlash if you write a bad review, but we're all taking some risks here anyway, right?
Runningman