You probably would have had to give her money to play, right?
I'm a long time lurker and rarely post on the boards, but this latest situation has me a bit baffled and I want to get others opinions. I like to frequent AMPs in my area and have a few favorites that I go to regularly. A few weeks ago I had a great session with a Chinese lady. As I was getting ready to leave, she makes a point to stop me and hurriedly writes her personal phone number on a card telling me to "call her". Next day I send her a short text to give her my number while I'm still fresh in her mind. The following week I call, have a brief convo and set up another appointment with her at the spa later in the day. The 2nd session goes as well as the first and we converse for about 10 minutes afterward. She tells me that the following Monday she will be on vacation for a week and I ask if she would like to meet outside the spa for shopping (she told me she likes to shop for clothes) or lunch while on vacation. She seemed receptive to the idea and told me to contact her. So on Monday I text her to confirm she was on vacation and she responds back. I then text her to find out if she is still interested in meeting for shopping or lunch. No reply. Wait a day and inquire again. No reply. Two days go by and it's now today, so I wished her a Happy New Year, hoping to at least garner a reply. Silence. So now I'm baffled as to her intentions. She gave me her personal number and she seemed friendly and receptive to the idea of meeting outside the spa, but it now seems clear she doesn't want to. Did I misread things? Why did she give me her number? Was it just to make sure I would only schedule with her at the spa? I was planning to make her a regular at the spa, but now I feel like I'm being played. I've always just gone to an AMP, enjoyed the experience and never worried about befriending any of the ladies, so this is all new to me. What doth those more experienced then me in these matters think may be going on
...She told you she likes to shop for clothes, meaning she was looking for someone to PAY for the shopping. Since you didn't commit, she latched onto someone who would.
I phrased it as "I would take her shopping for clothes", but maybe because of the language barrier she didn't pick up on it. I understand they want someone to spend money on them, not just someone to hang out with.
Was it your impression that she was going to spend some of her precious vacation time with you off the clock to watch her go clothes shopping with her own money?
That would be very naïve, and if she picked up vibes from you that that was your intension, I'm not surprised you got the bum's rush from her.
I have on occasion spent OTC time with a Kgal I met at an AMP, but it was someone I had been seeing for several years, not two dates.
You need to be more realistic if you want to play this game.
Otherwise, any number of circumstances could have come up including taking ill or a family emergency, or as BP says, a better opportunity.
Let us know if you hear from her again and what she comes up with as an excuse.
I once went into an AMP and found a lovely young lady that did a masterful massage. I went back a handful of times and we talked about numerous things. One day I walked in and asked for her, she told me that she was heading to the casino and had a cab on the way, but if I wanted to I could drive her. I said sure and did. 1 hour one way to casino and we talked like usual, next time I saw her for massage she asked me if I didn't like her, a dim light came on, when I said yes I like her, she said when she asked me why I didn't stay at the casino with her, she had a room. Light full on and opportunity long gone!
It has never happened again but I sure wish I would have heard the knocking!
You probably would have had to give her money to play, right?
Now be that dinner, money for gambling, money for room time. The point was there was an opportunity to spend time with her outside of the MP and I missed it entirely!
it happens. Hinting is not such a great plan. But some of these deals are not to your benifit.
Just a little encouragement. She clearly gave you her number for a reason, and seemed open to doing something outside with you, whether it's shopping or something else. Just give it a little time and when you think she might be back from her vacation (she actually might have gone somewhere), try and give her a call. Perhaps it's as simple as she doesn't text much.
Try again. Also, if you are really interested, go back and see her again for another session. That way she will remember you and will hopefully encourage you to call her again. All you have to lose is the $ for another session, which you indicated was worthwhile anyway.
But I also advise you to lower expectations and just see if she's game to meet outside the spa. Sometimes that can get a girl fired, so ask those kinds of things if you get to talk with her outside the place.
Good luck and report bac