First of all, I always pay first. Afterwards, I just say something nice, like "I had a great time. You were wonderful." Then I get dressed, and give her a hug on the way out.
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What is the proper way to end the evening (besides payment)? I have been with only a few providers. I didn't know if we should provide something to the ladies to help them freshen up (lubricant/vagisil/mouthwash) If anyone has something to add, please respond.
You "end" with payment? In my experience, you should start with payment.
My suggestion: when it's over, give them a hug, thank them for their time, and be on your way. If you are so inclined, give them a gratuity. If you have any gifts, you usually present them up front although I'm sure anytime is good.
I wouldn't provide them with any hygiene products since they are more likely to trust only those that they themselves have purchased.
Don't keep the lady wondering when you are going to turn over the envelope. Place it in plain site the moment you walk into the room. Be clean, sober, courteous and mindful of her time. You have paid for an hour, not 65 minutes. The ladies do OK, they can afford mouthwash and lube. Vagisil?
First of all, I always pay first. Afterwards, I just say something nice, like "I had a great time. You were wonderful." Then I get dressed, and give her a hug on the way out.
-- Modified on 10/28/2007 2:18:21 AM
Donation should always be made first, unless you are a regular. Even then, not recommended. As for feminine hygiene items, lubes, etc., the provider will almost cetainly have this covered, even if you are hosting. You should always make sure that you bring a condom or two, just in case. Most good providers will subtly hint when the session is ending, at which time you should get dressed, thank her and let her know that enjoyed the session, and if you feel it's appropriate, provide any additional gratuities. Then, a last hug, maybe a kiss, then off into the night. Parting is such sweet sorrow, but it comes with the territory in this great game of ours...
Lastly, if you intend to see the provider in question again, it's usually ok to send a follow-up e-mail within the next next day or so informing her of this, and reiterating that you enjoyed the last session. Beyond that, the future is up to you...play it right, and you will be smilimg...
CD
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I know you mean well..........But under NO circumstances ever should ANY woman be offered Vagisil after sex. That would be real bad.
that wiping yourself off on the curtains before you leave is also considered to be in bad taste?lmao
Sheri, I know you didn't mean to post your reply under mine, but... For the record, I 100% agree about Vagisil...wow, that would be bad, lol! BTW, the pics on your site are marv-u-less...especially the one in jeans! Hope you weren't affected by those nasty fires out there in SoCal. Have a good one!
Hi sorry I often just reply at the last post, so it looks like i am talking to that person, not the original
I am not even 100% sure what Vagisil IS, except is "stops feminine itching" and has been around forever!
I agree that the ladies generally have everything they need for a session. With the provider I see, I have done all outcalls and I generally have a bottle of mouthwash in the bathroom, in case she wants to use any. But, I've seen her several times and we feel quite comfortable with each other.
If you are seeing a new lady, I don't think you need to worry about providing her anything to freshen up.
I am laughing as I write this as it happened just the other day. A very nice gentlemen came a courting and I was his first.By the way not from TER but he will be now. When I arrived at the hotel he had a dozen condoms on the night stand just laying there in plain view. Either he's superman or I guess i'm wonderwoman.Anyway made me uncomfortable to say the least. Two seconds later tongue in mouth and clothes are off. Guess everything is fine. Don't worry guys being a boyscout most of the time is great but could get you in trouble. As a girlscout I too have learned the moto be prepared. Kisses Haley
Haley, OK, so how many of the dozen condoms did you end up using????
Well for all those inquisitive minds that just got to know! As usual my mouth got the better of me. Told him to keep them for a souvenir and he just laughed and said no complaints here. Next time i'll just bring myself. Nice time had by all
Kisses Haley
When I have an outcall encounter, I do make sure there are a few personal hygene products available for their use if they choose. All products are travel size and sealed to ensure they have not been tampered with. IME all providers have used some of the products and appreciate the thoughfullness.
When hosting a provider in my home, I take special care to make sure the provider is as comfortable a possible. If she is comfortable it just makes for a better time for both of us.
Like everyone else said, most providers will be prepared with everything they need. But it is appreciated when a hobbyist thinks of the lady and provides some things to freshen up with at the end of the evening. (Minus the vagisil because that could almost be seen as an insult.) I would just make sure to have the items available (like in the bathroom on the counter) but don't hand them to her as this could again be seen as a bit odd and awkward.
As for the lubricant, that would be needed more during the evening than at the end, don't you think? And if you do enjoy using lubricant, it is a good idea to provide that yourself because I personally have never brought lubricant to an appointment.
I always place the envelope in plain view so the lady will see it when she enters the room. I provide mouthwash (little sealed bottle fromt he hotel) in case she needs some. When the date is nearly over I will tell the lady I had a great time and that I will want to see her again. I will thank the lady for spending time with me and offer to walk her to her vehicle if she came to my hotel.