First, you have to understand that nothing is 100% safe. However, if you stick with well reviewed TER independent providers, your chances of being ripped off or caught in an LE trap are minisicule (to the point that it shouldnt even be a thought in your head). Agency girls, especially for newbies, can be tricky particularly if you do not contact a reputable one. I would stay clear of agencies and stick with independent ladies until you have a better feel of the hobby.
Second, study the reviews. Look at all the comments but also look at the hobbyists who are making those comments. Make sure that the hobbyists have a history of making reviews; ie. dont necessarily put all your faith in a review written by a hobbyist who only has that one review. I think after reading all the reviews you will get a fairly good idea over what to expect in a session. If you do not like what certain hobbyists have said about a provider (i.e. what she offers, her location, her attitude, her punctuality, etc.) in a review, that would be your red flag to look at another provider. Use your best educated judgement and you will be fine. You should have no doubts when you contact the provider that she is first legitimate and second what particulars she offers in her service. There should be no surprises.
Third, contacting a provider can be tough at first, but you have to get through it. Understand how the provider wishes to be contacted (phone, E-mail) and what information she wants up front. Some providers require 2 provider references, some require a work verification number, some require nothing. BE PREPARED to give whatever that provider wants in terms of information. (obviously as a newbie, if the provider insists on other provider references you will have to find someone else) It is totally discretionary; the provider must feel comfortable. Please realize that the providers are MUCH more nervous and concerned about seeing you (they dont know anything about you and are about to spend private time with you) then you are about seeing them. Give them all the information they need to feel safe. If you cant or do not wish to provide the requested information to a provider, understand and respect that she may not choose to see you.
More important then having verfication information is to understand what you should and should not say when first contacting a provider. Remember: You NEVER (especially true in this hobby) get a second chance to make that all important first impression. Obviously, never mention anything sexual (if you have read her reviews, you know what will happen in a session, so there is NO need to bring it up). Do not talk about things that you can easily find out on her website (i.e. rates). Have a SPECIFIC date and time in mind that you would like to see her (i.e. dont call up and say "hey, I'd like to see you sometime in the next two weeks, are you free?). Act professionally and confident when you contact a lady.
Finally, is it safe to bring a provider to your home? I will assume that you are a single guy, with no significant other. (If you are married then that will bring a whole host of other problems) As a newbie, I would NOT recommend bringing a provider to your home. You are going to be extremely nervous about the whole session itself; why add the extra stress about bringing a lady (who you know NOTHING about other than what her add or website have told you) into your home? This makes no sense. You have to develop a comfort and trust within the hobby first. Once you have seen the lady several times at her incall location, and you are comfortable with the type of person she is, then you can invite her into your home. Until then, I would strongly urge you to consider seeing the lady on her turf, not yours.
Good luck and happy hobbying
-- Modified on 10/19/2007 5:27:43 AM
-- Modified on 10/19/2007 5:30:35 AM
Hey everyone,
This may sound like a stupid question, but i'm new to this site and just curious on what is the safest way to go about calling a 'provider'. I mean i've been thinking about it for a while and i had some buddies of mine tell me they tried it and got ripped off. Are there certain 'red flags' or certain things to avoid...i mean how do you really know, is it safe to bring one to my home? If they are reviewed on here does that make them ok?
Thanks for any feedback on these questions
Stick to well reviewed ladies, meaning ones with multiple reviews over a period of time that are consistent, and where some of the reviews are by hobbiests who have multiple reviews under their profile.
You might want to do an incall first couple times rather than have a lady to your house, and if you are new, the well reviewed ladies may prefer that you come to them. Look at the topic on this board near yours about getting appts with "TER Ladies"
First, you have to understand that nothing is 100% safe. However, if you stick with well reviewed TER independent providers, your chances of being ripped off or caught in an LE trap are minisicule (to the point that it shouldnt even be a thought in your head). Agency girls, especially for newbies, can be tricky particularly if you do not contact a reputable one. I would stay clear of agencies and stick with independent ladies until you have a better feel of the hobby.
Second, study the reviews. Look at all the comments but also look at the hobbyists who are making those comments. Make sure that the hobbyists have a history of making reviews; ie. dont necessarily put all your faith in a review written by a hobbyist who only has that one review. I think after reading all the reviews you will get a fairly good idea over what to expect in a session. If you do not like what certain hobbyists have said about a provider (i.e. what she offers, her location, her attitude, her punctuality, etc.) in a review, that would be your red flag to look at another provider. Use your best educated judgement and you will be fine. You should have no doubts when you contact the provider that she is first legitimate and second what particulars she offers in her service. There should be no surprises.
Third, contacting a provider can be tough at first, but you have to get through it. Understand how the provider wishes to be contacted (phone, E-mail) and what information she wants up front. Some providers require 2 provider references, some require a work verification number, some require nothing. BE PREPARED to give whatever that provider wants in terms of information. (obviously as a newbie, if the provider insists on other provider references you will have to find someone else) It is totally discretionary; the provider must feel comfortable. Please realize that the providers are MUCH more nervous and concerned about seeing you (they dont know anything about you and are about to spend private time with you) then you are about seeing them. Give them all the information they need to feel safe. If you cant or do not wish to provide the requested information to a provider, understand and respect that she may not choose to see you.
More important then having verfication information is to understand what you should and should not say when first contacting a provider. Remember: You NEVER (especially true in this hobby) get a second chance to make that all important first impression. Obviously, never mention anything sexual (if you have read her reviews, you know what will happen in a session, so there is NO need to bring it up). Do not talk about things that you can easily find out on her website (i.e. rates). Have a SPECIFIC date and time in mind that you would like to see her (i.e. dont call up and say "hey, I'd like to see you sometime in the next two weeks, are you free?). Act professionally and confident when you contact a lady.
Finally, is it safe to bring a provider to your home? I will assume that you are a single guy, with no significant other. (If you are married then that will bring a whole host of other problems) As a newbie, I would NOT recommend bringing a provider to your home. You are going to be extremely nervous about the whole session itself; why add the extra stress about bringing a lady (who you know NOTHING about other than what her add or website have told you) into your home? This makes no sense. You have to develop a comfort and trust within the hobby first. Once you have seen the lady several times at her incall location, and you are comfortable with the type of person she is, then you can invite her into your home. Until then, I would strongly urge you to consider seeing the lady on her turf, not yours.
Good luck and happy hobbying
-- Modified on 10/19/2007 5:27:43 AM
-- Modified on 10/19/2007 5:30:35 AM
This is a clear exception to that rule. This is GREAT advice, from start to finish.
The only thing that I would add, to #2 is the suggestion that if the reviews send up a red flag, but the lady is just absolutely the most beautiful female specimen on earth, you should immediately go re-read Hardy's post.
Spend the $20 to get VIP status so you can read the entire review. I get much more information from the reviews than from reading the profile (which is posted by the first reviewer and not updated unless a problem report is filed).