(I've seen people get razzed for asking a question like this, but here goes.)
My question is about the demographics of people attending Meet and Greets. (Don't worry, nothing explicit.) Do hobbyists of all ages and experience levels go there, or just the "hard-core" hobbyists, meaning age 35+ and having 50 or more reviews? I've never gone to any M&G because of this concern, so I thought I'd ask the question here.
not on this board, at least not initially, as the mod I try to make sure of that. Of course, once your question has been answered, and common wisdom is shared, the rules can change.
I've attended a couple of M&G's in Phoenix a few of years ago. Being 40 at the time, and a bit of a neophyte by TER standards (I'd been hobbying for years, but only recently began using TER), I can say that my age was about average on the night. I can also honestly say that I was never the ugliest, heaviest, poorest, smelliest, or any other type of guy there.
In my experience, these events can draw in a broad spectrum of hobbyist, and also in my experience, the ladies will give attention to all of the gents. They know that you will have likely had to passed some screening to get an invite to the party. They know you are a potential client!!!
Jazz,
Have you ever run into somebody you know in person at any of these events? I'm always worried I'll run into a co-worker. I really don't want my real life friends knowing about this even if they do it as well.
I've only met one person at one of these events I had met before. She was a provider who had seen about a six weeks earlier in a duo with another popular gal. Being a gentleman, I asked if reviews are OK, and both discouraged me, so I posted nothing about the visit. But at the M&G, one of the gals was providing more details than I would have. Talk about an ego boost!!!
In answer to your question, more than likely, if you meet an out of context friend, they will be just as concerned about keeping this part of his/her life undercover.
And if it is a she you happen to meet, IT IS NOT COOL to take advantage of the situation!!!
jazz32
I've had similar thoughts about running into people at a swing club. The SO is interested enough to go & look around, assuming a significant alcohol primer. Seeing people we know is a HUGE concern for her, to the point that travelling seems to be a necessity. In fact, she was out of town the one time I did go, LOL.
Remember if you meet someone you know, they are being identified as a someone who sees SPs just as you are. You now have the same dirt on them as they have on you!
Have a good laugh together about how well you both kept your secret and share info on good local SPs!
Ronnie,
Naughtylady
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I'm reasonably well known in my local community, and had met a couple people individually prior to any M&G activity. Now, I'm either invited personally, or just request an invite without issue. They are a valuable tool IMHO, because you can see and talk to the lady before deciding if she'd be fun to be around. She obviously gets the same opportunity with you.
Well, my primary concern is the age issue. I'm in my mid 20's, and from what I heard, most hobbyists are 35+. I've seen a lot of hostility on the forums toward young hobbyists, and I'm wondering if M&Gs are like that too.
Look at the bright side. Being in your mid 20's, some day you will be in your mid 30's. Those of us already there or beyond can never be 25 again.
My grandmother told me when she was 90 that the older she got, the faster the time went by. I have learned she was correct. Enjoy each day and make the most of them no matter what your age.
Speaking as one who has experienced 5 of them, every decade of one's life has its own distinct advantages.
I don't think it should be a big concern. As someone old enough to be your father (don't you hate that, lol), I think that the kid-bashing is more about recognizing that some guys aren't mature enough for the ladies to be comfortable. For the most part M&G's aren't about generalities. To be invited, you'll need to have personally demonstrated that you're OK, by some measure. Based upon previous posts you've made, you shouldn't have a big concern there.