An associate and fellow TER member who was enjoying UN-moderated status on these discussion boards was moderated last week for merely “seconding” another members recommendation of a provider. It seems that the provider had just RECENTLY had her reviews removed from TER (by her own wish), and the two hapless members who didn’t know about her recent de-listing have now been MODERATED(censured) for violating the “Mentioning a de-listed providers rule”. TER offers NO listings or mentionings in these forums at present to alert the membership of such de-listings.
After witnessing how mercilessly this edict is enforced I would adamantly warn against ALL altruistic efforts in helping fellow hobbyists find what they seek on these TER regional and ISO forums.
First off, being moderated is no big deal. If it bugs you to be moderated, just PM your moderator and expalain / apologize. Chances are good that they'll change your status back to "unmoderated" especially for something that you were unaware was a "no-no". I've been moderated LOTS of times for taking people's stupid comments down to ridiculously low levels. Practically every time, I agreed with the decision. Sometimes I felt so badly afterwards, that I made myself wait a week or several days b4 asking for a return to my unmoderated status as a means of "doing my time". Back to the rest of the topic. DO BEWARE OF YOUR RESPONSES TO ISO / RECOMMENDATION REQUESTS. Specifically, who's asking? What are they asking? I.E.- If you don't know who myfavoriteDILF!!! is, why would you recommend a provider if I said, "I'm coming into Anytown, U.S.A. on Fri, Oct. 12, can someone recommend a good provider?" You think you're helping your fellow hobbyist? Perhaps. But my using an alias gives you NO IDEA as to who you're helping! I could be a nutjob or L.E. for all you know. And how are you going to help me when all I asked for was a "good provider" (like someone would actually seek out a "non-GFE" or "average" provider)?!!? I may prefer a different age range, ethnicity, body type, hair color, etc. than what you recommend. W/O me specifically stating what I'm looking for, why would you lift a finger? And what about the lady that you're recommending? She doesn't appreciate "blind" recommendations b/c she knows that it could lead to a "bad date" or worse. Yet a big percentage of the non-specific ISO / recommendation requests that I see, gets some dumbass to respond by "showing his love" for his favorite provider.
NOT trying to be confrontational here, I really just don't "get" the thinking.
Say Joe Alias posts an ISO. HOW would I be putting anyone in danger of LE or psycho-date by stating that I had a good time with Kathy of 47th Street?
Neither can get anything from that reccomendation that they couldn't from her web-site or any of the 1001 escort malls she advertises on. I'm certainly not giving him any "in" with her, as I'm not writing him a personal reccomendation. In the end, she will still screen him to her standards, whatever those may be.
How, then, is this risky for her?
Your thoughtful response would be sincerely appreciated, as I have never gotten anyone to explain the thinking, and I am truely curious
I'm not the person you responded too, and I'm proabably not going to clear up anything in terms of explanation for you with this answer, but personally I generally don't respond to an alias ISO post because I like to know who I'm talking too.
I know, even with a real username, you really have no clue who the hell anyone is, but you'll be able to see if they have reviews (have you seen any of the same girl's, do you prefer the same things, blah blah blah..), and if you wish, a posting history.
On the flip side, if a person posts with the same alias all the time then you get to know them under that name and in a sense you think of them under that name, and you can also still search for a posting history under an alais, just not a review history.
I guess it comes down to feeling responsible in some way for what may happen later (in worst case senario terms). If I recomend someone to a girl and something should happen to her I'd wonder after if it was the guy I replied too, and thus hapened partly because of my recommendation.
Then again, if you searched for my posting history and the fact that I have no reviews up I wouldn't even be able to answer myself under my "rules".
I don't make a hell of a lot of sense, do I?
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but further investigation has revealed that there is apparently a certain amount of 'bad blood' between the moderator and the provider who lobbied for SEVERAL MONTHS to have her profile & reviews removed.
EBE is correct; if you value your UNmoderated status which allows your posts to go up in 'real time' it is not worth the risk of losing it for simply answering to an ISO.
what "unmoderated" meant when I saw the term for the first tonight in another post. I suppose I could have looked it up, but I was just being blissfully ignorant. Ignorance now abated.