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GFE : What makes the difference?confused_smile
lv1000 2847 reads
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Hi everyone. I'm in the verge of my bautism as a hobbyst. If everything goes as might, I'm going to meet my first provider in 15 days in Vegas. I've been doing a hard research for a couple of months to know as much as possible in advance.

 But there is somethig that I can't really find the key issue: whats does a GFE meeting has different to an "standard" one? Is it less "mechanical"? does she treats you more caressly? or is it only a matter of "marketing"?

 Your help is highly appreciated.

MadMike492347 reads

GFE is supposed to be more like a date with a girlfriend, but it does not always work that way.
IMO it should involve cuddling, kissing, lots of foreplay. How much of that can you do in an hour before the main event. Also be aware that it is a marketing tool that may or may not happen.

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little phil1780 reads

This has been discussed hundreds if not thousands of times, and the quick answer is that nobody really knows for sure.

If you've done your homework and read through the reviews, then it doesn't matter.  If you're popping your hobby cherry in LV and haven't done your homework, it's not gonna matter either, because you're gonna get ripped off.  The city has some of the best women around, but it's not a place for the faint of heart.

If you want some help, feel free to PM me.

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mrfisher1715 reads

"Does this make me look fat?"

As she tries on fifty different outfits before you go out.

:o)

Seriously, you'll be fine.

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Bostonguy571670 reads

Read Her Reviews....

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jazz321989 reads

Best Advice Ever!!!

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Lusty_Lolita2161 reads

ok...so what about a newbie that HAS no reviews as of yet? Kinda hard gettin noticed when everyone looks at the NON-review part of your pro. Anyone EVER just TAKE A CHANCE???? (and succeed?)

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Bostonguy571446 reads

And the answer, for me at least is Yes! I do take a chance on occasion and it's almost exclusively with FBSM ladies. What I look for is a well worded ad or well put-together site. I don't recommend this to newbies however as their BS radar is not fine-tuned enough to spot potential rip-offs yet.  Best of luck to you!

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Lusty_Lolita1161 reads

For your responses and encouragement. Being a newbie is difficult enough without thinking everyone is looking past you because you have no reviews. After this Tuesday I'm hoping the light at the end of the tunnel will be shining brightly enough for me to step through and into your waiting arms.
I've worked hard on my website, and listened to each and every one of your pieces of advice, changing a little bit here, adding a bit there. Sometimes the harshness of advice that I get can be for the best, and I see that now.
Thank you again, and i hope i have the honor of meeting most of you very soon!
xoxo
~~DI~~

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GaGambler1407 reads

As a matter of fact, a couple of years back we had a TOFTT kind of pool going on here in Atlanta where we rotated checking out unreviewed providers that we agreed were worth checking out, but of course all of us had been hobbying for a long long time.

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dragonfly20061588 reads

I don't know where I would go to find out about newbie providers besides CL, which I avoid.

By the time I find out about a provider, she's already gotten some notice.  The earliest I ever caught up with a provider in her career is my ATF who had only been in the biz 6 months, and already had some good reviews.

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Lusty_Lolita1521 reads

Thats just it...if no one was willing to take a newbie under their wing...most of us WILL never get a review. I WAS on CL..and I WAS thorough in screening them. The ones that DID pass my screening were very well to do gentlemen, who also are members of RS and TER...but as they already TOLD me...they NEVER POST, and NEVER REVIEW. Just my luck huh?
I was told by a fellow ex-escort, to start there. Had I KNOWN how I would be viewed NOW, I would never have started there...but its already done. Now where do I go?

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dragonfly20061916 reads

That's a good questions.  I think many great providers might have gotten their start with CL, but the risks are so numerous, I just don't feel I can do it myself.

Besides, sites like CL are not well organized in my opinion, making the search too much of a hassle.

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mrfisher1747 reads

who were recommended by other well regarded providers who had taken them under their wing, and I had a very good experience with them.

Newbie providers would do well to network and get to know well regarded providers just for this purpose.  Many providers are open hearted enough to know that it is for everyone's good to open doors for others.

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Lusty_Lolita1819 reads

TY MrFisher...I am feeling the luv from the ladies already. :) Not only from Local, but some from as far away as Vegas who visit our wonderful windy City. xoxo to you all for all your encouragement.
Di

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angel1030021158 reads

You know what mr. Fisher well said:) Have to start somewhere right? All these well experienced providers started as newbies, and its time for us newbies to get there as well. I have met a few well experienced providers here and they opened the door for me, and I appreciate their help so much you just dont know. I have learned so much in these past few weeks, and it is helping me a great deal, and as for the hobbyists out there same thing, I have talked to a few of you in the TER chat room, you guys are alot of help believe me. It was mentioned by a few hobbyists that they would be taking a serious risk with a provider with no reviews or newbie provider. What is everyone's opinion on that? I can surely understand with a provider with no reviews, but what about word of mouth, datecheck etc? Thanks all.

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momoepez1338 reads

You seem to have the right ingredients.

Well organized website. Full pics.Moderate prices.  

The next step is to get a hobbyist with s few reviews under his belt to give you a great review.  Good idea with the TER discount.

Its a steep curve at first but things will pick up quick.

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sexxxysam1221 reads

I used to get more biz before getting numerous reviews, granted I still get plenty, but some guys just really don't care.  It's sad but true.  Just depends on the availability of other women at the time wanted, your location, and honestly, how you sound on the phone.  It's a marketing game, men love how you sound on the phone, even with no details shared, it's about the approach to talking to them, and being excited to set something up.  It works wonders, but again, maybe it's just the location.  Also, if someone schedules and appt with you and they are a TER member, ask them to write one for you, weither it be good, bad, average.  I started by asking them, telling them to be honest, however I have too many details discussed in mine, that's the only negative part.  Then everyone expects the EXACT same thing to happen.  How do they know that I didn't find them attractive enough to just enjoy the visit more, or was feeling extra spunky that hour, or what not, it all depends on the time, that's why I love when people put ymmv, we ALL have our bad days/moments!!
Good luck sweetie, it'll all come in time!  Just don't let them walk all over you!!
XOXO
Sam

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dragonfly20061621 reads

For many, GFE comes with an anticipation of DFK, DATY and BBBJ [see TER's Instruction Manual above for an explanation of the acronyms].  Some would include Greek.  However, with a true GFE, it's not just a matter of services performed but also the manner in which she treats you - like a girlfriend, or like a girlfriend in the honeymoon period.  She will be charming, and will at least appear to desire you.  Even if she does CBJ-only, like one of my fave providers, the rest of the package might make her a GFE in your book.

However, when a provider advertises as "GFE", it's better to treat it as advertising copy until you read her reviews to see what she actually provides.

A "standard" provider, at best, will be cordial and polite but it's transparently clear that she wants your cash and has no interest in anything other than the physical act.  And she'll definitely let you know when time's up.  At worst, you'll feel like your on an assembly line.

Sometimes, a fuck and run is all you need when it's just about physical release.  However, I've come to meet a few wonderful GFEs and their personalities are part of my enjoyment of their services.

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mtskys1271 reads

I can't seem to foind TER's Instruction Manual you mention to get the acronyms?  Can someone help my blindness?  Thanks

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dragonfly20061064 reads

Look at the header "Newbie Discussion Boards" go past the paragraph, and there it is.

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