...with this, or similar: "I truly enjoyed our time together, and would love to see you again, but please know, that if you wish to visit with another lady, either here in DC , or when traveling, you may list me as a reference".
Hugs and Kisses,Kelly
A provider that I saw yesterday told me she had to turn down a lot of guys (newbies) etc because they did not have references. That did not seem to understand why they are important. To the guys who were willing to give them kudos to you all. Enjoy.
I know the importance of the reference; however,it is really annoying having to answer 10 emails from girls asking for references ...for a person who has not let you know they are using you as a reference. then you have to research the number, email, and name....then ive spent 10 min on each person.....and it has absolutely nothing to do with me. might sound selfish but I really dont feel the need to do other girls homework.....if you want a reference let the person know ....make sure they have your number and name so they arent spending a million years researching. a text or a call letting the providor know you are using her would be nice also....just a thought...
Unless I have already discussed the issue already in person, I like to be contacted with the name of the provider that I am to speak/text/email with and her info. If she is not reviewed or certified, I do not guarantee my reference. I try to be newbie friendly and feel I have an intuitive sense of people but safe is safe. Also, rom the male perspective, I take your patronage with the ultimate discretion. I do not want random ladies hitting me up to imply that my relationship will be in any way the same as their potential partnership. It has the potential to breath entrapment- whether that is from LE or a long term partner/wife. Last, I develop real connections with my regulars so this is just one more step in that road to your exploration-permit me men to experience some kink as well (wink!)
couldnt have said it better ! kudos xoxox