She must be back at setting boundaries, or you got dat good dick ;p
There is a provider who visits, who I really like. Have seen three times, have written a review, with higher scores than others have give her (indicating that I like her a lot). On top of great looks and performance, she is intelligent as well.
Last time she visited, I wrote that I could not make it during that visit, but wanted to say "congratulations" on an event in her life. She wrote back saying that was very sweet and she would look forward to seeing me next time she was in town. Next time she was in town, on her first day, I wrote that I was looking forward to setting things up but had to work things out first. And, you should know, this provider has set hours that she puts in all of her ads.
So, that first night when she was in town, I wanted to see someone on short notice. It was after her preferred hours, and since it was short notice. I contacted a bunch of agencies. One of the notes I wrote the agency, though, I accidentally texted to the provider instead. She wrote back saying something like "it's clear you're seeing other people and not scheduling me, so stop wasting my time and don't contact me anymore."
So, my reaction. I am ok. I will move on, there are plenty of fish in the sea. But I wonder about the wisdom of her over-reaction. Everybody knows clients see more than one provider. And the appointment time was not in her scheduled hours anyway. Her reaction probably cost her 6-10 meetings with me over the next year. Just odd. And I thought she was one of the smart ones
It's a shame. But it does happen. Better to cut the ties now then deal with some BSC mess later...
I know as a woman, I have feelings and emotions that may spring up whenever, not necessarily attached to any client, but it may affect my judgement of what is real and what is fantasy. Even though I know the circumstances and arrangement I have involved myself in by working in the hobby, I can't help but feel some hurt or betrayal if I find that "he" has seen someone else or has bypassed me as a choice for whatever reason.
But then again, I enjoy the rush of meeting someone new and having an organic experience that maybe he didn't give me. Plus, if the chemistry and attraction was really there, then I know, yeah I am pretty confident, lol, that he will contact and visit me again. So then, I am not worried as much.
I thrive on love affairs. I enjoy the highs and the lows. I enjoy watching things play out as they may; they are all unique and give me great memories and experiences to reflect on later. I am mature enough to control my emotions, not bite the hand that feeds me, mind my business, and enjoy the ride. She sold herself short. Maybe she is really looking for love?!? Good luck and enjoy the hobby!
I really can understand where she is coming from in that I may have a slightly similar situation - emotions and comfort play very weird roles in this stuff. Initial reaction would be - what right does she thinks she has to be p.o.'ed with you for seeing other people? That is what she does all the time! When she says she'll stop seeing all her other clients if you stop seeing others as well, then there's a conversation. Don't think either of you sound like you want to go there.
On the other hand, I have been seeing someone for a long time who posts for doing body rubs. We do a LOT more, and extended overnighters a and sometimes even getaways. I don't know if there are other clients of hers that she does more than bodyrubs with, and I don't ask. And she doesn't ask if I am seeing others. But I get the strong sense she would be disappointed if I explicitly told her I was. Maybe a double standard of sorts, but it is what it is. Sometimes silence is golden, or at least less complicated.
Last time she visited, I wrote that I could not make it during that visit, but wanted to say "congratulations" on an event in her life. She wrote back saying that was very sweet and she would look forward to seeing me next time she was in town. Next time she was in town, on her first day, I wrote that I was looking forward to setting things up but had to work things out first. And, you should know, this provider has set hours that she puts in all of her ads.
So, that first night when she was in town, I wanted to see someone on short notice. It was after her preferred hours, and since it was short notice. I contacted a bunch of agencies. One of the notes I wrote the agency, though, I accidentally texted to the provider instead. She wrote back saying something like "it's clear you're seeing other people and not scheduling me, so stop wasting my time and don't contact me anymore."
So, my reaction. I am ok. I will move on, there are plenty of fish in the sea. But I wonder about the wisdom of her over-reaction. Everybody knows clients see more than one provider. And the appointment time was not in her scheduled hours anyway. Her reaction probably cost her 6-10 meetings with me over the next year. Just odd. And I thought she was one of the smart ones.
I once mistakenly wrote to the wrong gent, "see you in a few hours." He wrote back, "we have a date tomorrow." I apologized and he canceled saying that I wasn't professional when I texted the wrong person. What if it would have been personal information.
I apologized and just went on with my day.
I don't think this provider is crazy. She just felt that her time was being wasted.
Maybe a simple, "my apologies! I texted the wrong number. I know when I can see you, does a, b or c work?"
She doesn't mind that you are seeing others.
She's just confused that you said you would set something up with her then it seemed that you weren't.
It was a simple error, nothing a simple fix can't correct. 
thanks for all of the interesting replies. I left out of my original statement that I did explain and apologize. I think sexyjaye nailed it in her explanation.
not only is the provider a little dramatic, but so are you.
if someone tells me to eff off, i don't chase corespondence in any matter with them anymore.
xo
He probably is but so are a lot of folks on the "boards". It is what makes this site and the hobby, at times, a bit more interesting.
the most successful television shows are the ones with good drama!
It's just funny that he's calling her out for overreacting then does the same thing. 
xo
Don't really see where his over-reaction is.
He was just relaying another "day in the hobby" type of story that we hear all time here, from gents and ladies alike.
She must be back at setting boundaries, or you got dat good dick ;p
I can see both sides.
1) A mistake is a mistake, and that's just that.
2) As a provider and someone who spends an ample amount of time analyzing and trying to read other people, I could see a woman abruptly shutting someone out. Sometimes in this field it is natural to question motives, and people in general. Believe it or not, there are many people who behave in odd manners, and a smart woman knows to distance herself from such characters, regardless of monetary matters. We are all different cerebrally, so that's all I can say.
In most scenarios (and life as a whole) I do believe honesty and communication can take you far. If she is someone you still wish to see, reach out to her and explain. You did make a simple mistake, and if an apology would make her feel better, so be it. Anything can be repaired with the right approach and effort.
Best of luck to you
...it's probably more to it than that but reading it several times that's pretty much what I got out of it.
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still the name of the game? If you are not trying to make her or him to marry you, then there really is no need for this sort of "acting" behavior. There is really no need to bother a provider When you are not ready to make an appointment with her. And why make promises for future visits, and providers actually get upset about a client not keeping his future appointment promise?
One of the frustrations with the hobby is never really knowing what is going on in her head ... kinda like real life I guess. :-[
I once accidentally texted the wrong provider. It went to my regular ATF but with the wrong name. Oops. She replied with a "WTF!?". I felt awkward, even though we both know that we both see other people. It kind of screws up the GFE fantasy. (Maybe that's not all bad ... it's easy to get carried away sometimes and forget what's real.) Fortunately it was a time when she had said she wasn't available so it wasn't a big deal. I tried to smooth things over by suggesting that all three of us get together sometime -- trying to make lemonade. I think she liked that idea, but unfortunately it hasn't happened yet.
Anyway, shit happens. You'll both get over it.
Happy hobbying.
What a great post babe!!!
A number of years ago - many - as I used to enjoy the hobby I saw mostly local ladies. But three I saw quite a often. We had things in common outside of the hobby so I communicated with each about other things quite often. Occationally an exchange would take place on the board. Then boom! I got a nasty email from one I was quite fond of. There was a post to one of the other ladies that was verbatim of something I had sent to her. I couldn't explain it then. Never saw either of those two ladies again. The third I continued to correspond with even though we both retired. So I guess it is easy to get a little too close when things are intimate and beyond.
And if you wondered what happend, I found out much later, to late to do any good. My ex got into my computer, found out my hobby and emails and then posted several things and sent a few emails in order to cause trouble. i think she did a very good job.
So, because of my not seeing the provider I mentioned above, I ended up meeting a new one....who was fabulous and who I will see again...and again. This whole epsiode seems to have been in the "Everything happens for a reason" category.
Thanks for all the comments and perspectives, too