and following the advice already given, and please don't get mad at this comment, but maybe you are still too apprehensive to take the plunge, and should reapply yourself to finding a civie GF.  I do agree with you about the BBBJ, that is one of my deal-breakers.  No BBBJ, no date.  BTW, the other one is no kissing.  To me, those are two things which will cause me to not include a provider on my list of ones to see.

But as was said above, do your homework and research the ladies. If you have done the research and followed the lady's screening requirements, the risks are minimal.  Remember, this is her livelihood, so she is not going to do anything to jeopardize that.  If you do not already have a VIP membership, get one, it's well worth it.  Without it, you don't get the juicy details, which are very important in the decision-making process.

Good luck, and happy hobbying.
Swim

PS, feel free to pm me if you have questions not already answered.

"Statistically, you are more likely to catch something from a BBBJ than from intercourse with a condom. "

Do you know any of the stats on this?  How much more likely you are to catch something with a BBBJ?  Or, how much safer covered intercourse is?