Can't ya just yell "ooops, party foul"?
For certain services during a session.(Assuming you know something is on the menu before hand.) Should expectations be discussed before or just roll with it and ask during.. Wondering what others do.
Once the session is going strong and you're starting to fool around, I'd recommend asking "Is it okay if I ___?" or "Do you like to ____?" Some guys just start doing it tentatively (ie. moving south if you want to DATY, moving fingers around back if you're into anal play) and trust that she will stop you if this is not okay, but I would much rather be asked.
Remember, some girls will do certain services with some guys and not others, or some might vary based on their mood. (For example, I don't do greek, but I know that girls who do it will not just do it for anyone- depends on their size, style of fucking, etc. Also, some girls may often do bbbj but decline if there is a question as to cleanliness/hygeine, etc. or may reserve it for repeat/regular clients.)
So the moral of the story is- never assume and be polite, and you will generally have a good experience.
Also, unless a provider specifically advertises one particular thing (ie. "oral specialist" or "dominant personality") don't get too hung up on one specific act or experience and just go with the flow.
Just my .02
XoXo
Marea
-- Modified on 9/4/2007 2:10:14 AM
Two different situations:
The first situation is when the hobbyist requires a specific service (Greek, facial, Russian, etc.) and you absolutely would not see a lady unless that service was provided, then you somehow have to ask beforehand. However, it's a very difficult and tricky thing. Obviously, if you have never met the provider, they will not answer any questions regarding specific sexual acts. You prob. have to go by the totality of the reviews and hope the reviews are truthful. Once you get there and she knows you are legit, you can verbally express what you want. If the lady refuses to provide the services you require, your only recourse is to the end the session there. She may or may not offer to give you a partial refund. An expensive economic lesson to be sure.
The second situation is when you want a service, but not required for you to have it in order to go through with the session. If you know something is on the menu (or strongly believe something is on the menu) than just ask her outright. Again, wait until she knows you are legit. The worse she says is no. I would ASK beforehand and not simply just go with the flow. If you really want Greek, don’t tell her to turn around with the expectation you are going to take her doggie and then simply plow into her ass... that is a real mood killer if she objects. Again, remember that ladies will offer certain services to some gentleman, but not others. Not fair, but reality.
Can't ya just yell "ooops, party foul"?
Something that would probably work for me is this, "Hi Rhea, I read your reviews on TER and read your web site and would like to set up a session with you. Among other things, I REALLY ENJOY PROVIDERS WHO OFFER GREEK FOR ME!!! I am respectful, and clean. Do you think that we would be a good fit?"
Then, don't I have the right to then say, "Oh, thank you for your interest. I think you are a lovely person and very respectful but honestly, I don't think that you and I would be a perfect fit at this time. Have a great day."
Or how about: "Hi Rhea, loved your reviews on TER. I would like to tell you a little about myself. I've been hobbying for two years now and am very generous, clean, and respectful. I love the idea of a massage session ending in a bbbj with a great bbw provider. I've seen these other providers in the tc and would really like to see you as well. Do you think that you and I would make a good match?"
To which I would most happily reply: "Why hello and thank you for your interest. I believe that you and I would have a lovely time together. Why don't you schedule an appt with me asap."
In other words, why not be clever and subtle. Why not express what you like or what you fantisize about and then that gives me a heads up about what you are lookng for. Then I can tell you if we would be good together based on your fantasy. It's so much more respectful than just a blunt.. "do you do untranslated French, and if so, how much do you charge?"
Sorry, you'll never hear back from me on that one.
And then there are some very discreet ladies that will ask you to leave if you start asking questions about specific sex acts even if you have been screened. Cops are known to undress and fondle and then ask the questions.
Personally I will ask anyone to leave if there is any questioning about a sex act...the guys I see never ask stupid incriminating questions.
If something is that important, see someone who has the act repeated in their reviews...but always remember...YMMV no matter what.
Oh and Hardy5456...what's not fair is some man wanting BBBJ who has the odor of foul cheese emminating from his croth and that crusty redddish, brown substance in the creases of his thighs. Or a guy wanting to DFK who has plaque so thick you'd think he was wearing a set of dentures over his own teeth...and the smell would drive away a shoal of man-eating sharks.
If you were a male provider would you go down on a woman who has bacterial infection that smells like mould? You'd employ the YMMV I'm sure.
Oh and the mood killer if anyone "plowed" into my ass would be him picking up his teeth and trying to call an emergency dentist with a discernable lisp.