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to turn this into a Monogamous white picket fence relationship? Let's face it, the Genie has been released from the bottle. Now I have loved some of the women I have met in this context. I think I have gotten past all the clingy jealousy and the insecurities of true life. Yes I admit I would find it difficult to see my lady on her way out to have sex with another man. But when you think about it isn't that exactly what we men want when we see other ladies? I say if two people can come to terms with their true desires and strive to see that both sides are met; then you have a match made in REAL LIFE. Some call it an OPEN relationship. After a long marriage which ended terribly because of extreme  selfishness I can't see myself going the traditional route. If I truly felt the lady loved me there would be nothing I wouldn't do to see her happy. Hopefully she would have the same outlook. It would be easy if she wanted to bring another lady home to share our bed but the real test would be when she wanted another guy or two to do the same thing. Guess that's what swingers clubs are for. If she was able to convince me that she wasn't looking for a replacement and her emotional connection was still with me I think I could handle it. I'm too old for petty jealousy. If she were to ask me to walk away from this hobby and she was ready to do the same I'm not saying "NO" I'm saying that would require a higher level of trust than just being honest about our desires. and I'll be the first one to admit;The male ego is about as fragile as his Nut Sack.

 

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This subject has been addressed before but to expand on it, just wondering  how many of  the gents would be open to a relationship outside the client /provider the relationship if the provider was willing and how far would you take it : mistress, divorce, marriage?  Same question for the ladies:  Is the " Richard Gere , Pretty Women"  scenario something you aspire to?

who I have never actually met yet who I would love to call Mistress any time she wanted me. I've already been through the marriage and divorce thing.So far we have only PM'd and spoke over the phone. I'm sure she knows who she is.   Sweet Dreams Darlin.

I have heard that most providers prefer not to give up their independence and consequently would not leave the profession for a client they were involved with.. unless of course that client was as you say Richard Gere.  LOL

Posted By: Lexiplexi
... damn julia roberts.  
 but, it'd be hard to say no to Richard Gere!

Posted By: Lexiplexi
... damn julia roberts.  
 but, it'd be hard to say no to Richard Gere!

probably more often then you might think.
I would think that when the moment of clarity hits a simple reassessment
can be made.  A nice parting gift and leave as friends.

So I've been told.

easily, especially with there being so many beautiful, fascinating, outgoing women in this business. It's also why I date women 30+ years younger than me, so I know that it can never happen.

Is that with or without the gerbil?

That's the beauty of this whole thing no expectations or pressures to screw thingy up. Here's a little story to bring things to reality to anyone who knows anything about marriage or serious relationships. You meet a gal, you have fun you have fun together doing fun things. You get married and it's fun for a while. One day you come home and there is a taxi in the driveway. She's not leaving guess who is leaving? It's fun!! You're like where are you going?  The little fun fairy (who for some reason I imagine as the midget author from the movie Elf) flips you the bird and says "screw you im out bitches!!"
Pretty simple life lesson there!  

Sometimes a provider and  client clicks and it's cool as hell. The boundaries get a little fuzzy, hell I've even loved a couple gals I've met here. Not White House and picket fence with 2.5 kids in the suburbs kind of love, but a love of sorts let's call it a special friendship. But trying to turn it into a serious relationship? Nope I liked them too much for that. When it gets serious Ol' Mr. Fun packs his shit and leaves. No sense screwing up a good thing. Even without the benefits of rolling in the hay sometimes a friendship with a little spark and a genuine concern for each other's wellbeing and feelings can be priceless. And when it ends due to her leaving the profession or your leaving the hobby you've got some great untarnished memories for a rainy day. Maybe you keep in touch, maybe you don't, but the memories make you smile now and then and hopefully they do the same for her.

Several good friendships have developed with women I've met in the hobby. Appointments are always more fun for me with friends.

One relationship went much farther than that and was extremely rewarding. It was also extremely difficult. We both learned an awful lot and are still friends. If I had it to do over, I'd do exactly the same thing but I have no desire to repeat the lessons.

to turn this into a Monogamous white picket fence relationship? Let's face it, the Genie has been released from the bottle. Now I have loved some of the women I have met in this context. I think I have gotten past all the clingy jealousy and the insecurities of true life. Yes I admit I would find it difficult to see my lady on her way out to have sex with another man. But when you think about it isn't that exactly what we men want when we see other ladies? I say if two people can come to terms with their true desires and strive to see that both sides are met; then you have a match made in REAL LIFE. Some call it an OPEN relationship. After a long marriage which ended terribly because of extreme  selfishness I can't see myself going the traditional route. If I truly felt the lady loved me there would be nothing I wouldn't do to see her happy. Hopefully she would have the same outlook. It would be easy if she wanted to bring another lady home to share our bed but the real test would be when she wanted another guy or two to do the same thing. Guess that's what swingers clubs are for. If she was able to convince me that she wasn't looking for a replacement and her emotional connection was still with me I think I could handle it. I'm too old for petty jealousy. If she were to ask me to walk away from this hobby and she was ready to do the same I'm not saying "NO" I'm saying that would require a higher level of trust than just being honest about our desires. and I'll be the first one to admit;The male ego is about as fragile as his Nut Sack.

 

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Interesting perspective. I posted this thread because I'm trying to come to terms with my own experience  regarding  a client/provider relationship. It's interesting to hear others opinions on the subject.  I'm old as well, and she was 25 years my junior. She said she loved me and I believe she did.  I thought as you that an OPEN relationship would work just fine.  But it doesn't. Jealousy will rear it's ugly head and destroy the relationship.  She will say it's just a job, just sex, no emotional connection like she has with you.  But that won't be enough, it was hard for me to  see it her way.  Oh, and she will expect you to be monogamous because she has crossed that line with you where you are now a love interest not just a client.  Seems like a double standard, but believe me thats the way it is.  I believe I'm am supported in this in a previous post on the subject by Lay Down Sally and many others.  Also, check out the blog "exoticescortdiary.com" for some additional perspective on this subject.  In the end, most will not want to quit their chosen profession to be supported by their significant other.. a very wise provider told me once while discussing the subject, that the money and the independent life style are addictive. Going forward,  I think Case 321's post  above nails it.

is it even reasonable to expect that both parties are both looking for that.When expectations are different one has to give or just agree to disagree and go on as best as they can. This would require a few bottels of good wine and a lot of heart to heart discussion (Vin Vino Veritas). I'd be interested in a discussion like that with the right  Lady.

Than she would be a special lady..  

You should check out this link:   https://exoticescortdiary.com/category/trying-to-leave-prostitution/  

You might find it interesting

Posted By: 1woody

It confirmed many of my thoughts and gave me a few more to consider. Many serious topics that require serious discussions before entering into a relationship. Requires both parties to look inside themselves and face reality. The nature of human relationships...

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