I do enjoy this lifestyle (and the people in it) and not just for the money but hotdamn the money is a good plus. Wants/needs change over time and I say mostly because when money isn't issue anymore (kind of isn't now considering I have a pretty good civvie job and escorting is in the passenger's seat) I'll either go by the way of being an assistant/booker only or have like certain time minimum with a hefty price tag on it (or hell maybe both) lol.
had a very interesting phone call today from a provider who I have seen several times over the past six months. She is quite popular and when she gets local reviews on our e-mail groups her phone rings off the hook.
After some chit-chat she told me she has been seriously thinking of quitting.
She told me she has tried to quit but just can't do it. She loves, and I mean loves sex and says she can't give up the rush of being with different men. Especially meeting new men. I told her she sounds a lot like me and if we men could make a living at this most of us would try being providers.
But I was wondering if this is very common and if any of you ladies don't want to give up the rush you get from being with different men. If money wasn't a issue would you want to remain being a provider? Have any of you tried to quit but decided not to because you missed the rush
Point of discussion at home per a prior post by me. My view: if you are satsified, man or woman on all levels, you don't need to be here. People that want exclusive relationships with providers and vice versa, found something they should hold onto because we are all chasing. If stopping/staying with ATF is not enough, you got an addiction that won't ever be satiated
I am satisfied with my home life and do not NEED to be here.
I am here because I WANT to be.
Why? Many reasons but just know that I find my times with the lovely ladies here bring me great pleasure and enhance my life.
Is it all superficial? That can be argued on an individual basis (depending on what your definition of superficial) but for me, this is NOT an addiction and I find that I repeat with the ladies whom I feel I have "clicked" with on some basis. That makes it NOT superficial to me.
Everyone is different and it's easier for guys to walk away than the ladies. Most but not all have financial obligations and/or plans and need the influx of income this hobby provides them. I know of 2 ladies who came into this with a plan, executed the plan, and are now retired from all this. I know them well, still talk to them (as nothing more than friends now) and am happy that they got what they needed here.
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I don't think I could do something so personal just for the money and say I like it, I think I would hold a lot of resentment -sex and intimacy is an essential part of life. I've always been a lover of "strange" so I can get a little of what your friend is saying about that. Quitting the hobby in this capcity is always an option, but realistically, I know myself enough to know for years I have always been and will probably continue to be propositioned, I have always been interested in the adult sex scene, and I always seek out "strange" - yes I have one night stands and have found guys to hookup with online!!! So it's more comfortable for me now to be somewhat accepted and be here, be safer with screening and knowing a little about whom i am meeting, and bonus get some good money, lol; than be amongst the uber judgemental and vanilla ciivies who don't get how a woman can luv herself, luv sex, and luv to share pleasure with so many.
Maybe it depends on how she got into this and maybe she can reevaluate if she doesn't want to leave this life how she can make it work for her. Every provider is different, not every provider has to advertise or be marketed to succeed. Let her do what she feels comfortable with and she will be way happier than following the herd and focusing on the "extra" that goes on in the hobby. Best of luck to her!!!
Just like you guys we get tired of the boring every day things life has to offer. Its exciting and fun to meet new guys, get spoiled and to be told how pretty and fabulous you are. Theres also something fun about having a secret life. I spent some time away from this business to travel and concentrate on my "real job" and I missed this lifestyle very much.
I think your friend should quit if she feels she needs to explore other avenues in life. She can always come back lol
transitioned from the swinger scene to our hobbyworld.
They get the same "rush" but also the bonus feature of $$$$$
Not sure if I know anyone who went from a Provider to being a swinger.
I do enjoy this lifestyle (and the people in it) and not just for the money but hotdamn the money is a good plus. Wants/needs change over time and I say mostly because when money isn't issue anymore (kind of isn't now considering I have a pretty good civvie job and escorting is in the passenger's seat) I'll either go by the way of being an assistant/booker only or have like certain time minimum with a hefty price tag on it (or hell maybe both) lol.
For me, it would be *very* hard to walk away from this lifestyle. Money is not, nor ever was, my primary motivation here, though it is a nice reward for a job well done and a pleasant measure of success.
Monogamy just simply has never appealed to me in any way. I love the way that different people will bring out different sides of my sexual self, and I love learning how different people enjoy different activities and sensations. I simply can't understand how one person could ever be *everything* to me in the physical sense, and honestly it seems like a terribly unfair and unrealistic thing to even ask of a partner. Restriction just doesn't feel like it truly comes from a place of love (or even mutual respect) in my opinion, and I'd never want my partner to hold back on their enjoyment of themselves for something as superficial as my vanity and delusions of "ownership".
While I'm sure many men think that a woman would never have a problem finding easy, uncomplicated hookups... you're half right. Easy for sure, but complicated as hell! I swear, I still get "come back to me" calls from hookups I had 5 years ago. Men are so expectant of a woman to try and lay claim on them that they go nuts chasing down every woman who has no interest in taking on that hassle. So needy! Here in this lifestyle however, I get to enjoy the company of many interesting, accomplished ladies and gentlemen who are seeking me out specifically for the *lack* of emotional entanglements we bring to our encounters. I love it - I don't you, and you don't need me, but we want each other badly... It's purely desire and that's what makes it so amazing 
So yeah, I don't think quitting is in my cards. I'm still quite close with many girls who've retired... and while I try not to bring it up, I hear often that they miss it. Not just the physical aspects either!
~Mme X~