First Impressions of our First Encounter, right?

The 4 things likely going through my noggin when you open the door (no order of importance):

Does your face look better un-pixelated? (I've been rudely surprised by heavy/bad make up, and outright fugly)

Is there an odd smell to your place such as bad incense, pet odors, cigarette smoke? (All places have a scent, some have a stink)

Is your place quiet, or do I hear soft music, or are you the kind who leaves the tv blaring on HGTV or HBO? (Noise distracts, music soothes)

Does your smile seem sincere in greeting me or does it appear forced? (Take acting lessons as required)

But that's just me. Whorehouse Harr

When I enter, I'm hoping that I won't be disappointed with the provider's appearance. It's only happened twice, in my admittedly limited experience.

Her personality doesn't have to be the same, just compatible. It seems like just about every provider I've seen is likable and a good conversationalist. There's a couple of providers who, for reasons I can't fully explain, just draw me into their webs.

I would rather have control of the session, or have it just evolve naturally. If the provider is running the show, it can sometimes feel scripted.

I was with the same woman for 45 years before divorcing, and am accustomed to the way we kissed, which is very different from the way just about every provider I've seen kisses. It's something I still need to get used to. It's either that or I have bad breath.

My priorities in order would be: 1. looks and personality (cannot separate them); 2. quality of bj (yes, it's a priority); 3. cuddliness (is that a word?) I love cuddling while talking; 4. authenticity--making noises two seconds after my first touch is a turn off. I know I'm not the best in bed, not by a long shot. I'd rather be told what she likes and think that her response is genuine when I do it righ

Looks can be to the beholder.    Your curvy but pretty in my eye.  Do the best with what you have.
Passion.     Your not selling hamburgers at Mcd's .    Smile at the door.   LFK kiss and hug at the door.      Put your arm around him and walk him to the bedroom.    Have you condom's water ready.    Be as aggressive as you think he likes.    Help him undress like your want him.   He's your long lost lover treat him like one.   Kiss him with passion DFK LFK until you see what he likes .   Lick his nipples caress and stroke him continuous through the session.   Put his member in your mouth deep wet and in and out swirling the tongue careful not to make him deliver too quick.   Play with yourself when your with him as it shows your a horny.     Grab his hand and put it on the cooter.   Go through every position with the same passion and you will be a 10.   When in CCG and Mish squeeze those muscles like your a mousetrap.   Have an O .   You get the picture.   Your a pro not a SB..
Talk when it adds to the session.  Be social at the right times when resting.
Be ready to clean him up and offer a shower.  Tell him you enjoyed his company and to come back.
Don't clock watch just glance.    Pretend he looks like Benjamin Franklin.

Top 4 things?  I had the top 3 things I look for in a provider already chambered, which is attitude, attitude, attitude.  But you threw me a curve ball with 4.  

I sense you want some helpful feedback so let me give a helpful answer.  And a brief one.  Occasionally I'm accused of wasting words to make a point.  Which is very hurtful...  I try to craft each post with the care and attention it deserves.  And only use the minimum number of sentences to achieve maximum impact.  Efficiency of design.  Form fits function.  Carpe diem.  Veni vidi vici.  E pluribus unum.

Sorry, where was I?  Ah, yes words are precious - they must be conserved.  You see the world is undergoing a word shortage so we must be brief, succint, to the point.  No word wasted.  I hope you get the message.  Because if not I can explain further.  Maybe throw in an anecdote or metaphor or two.  Free of charge.

Whatever you do, don't use too many words.  It is offensive to some - mostly those with 1) no sense of humor 2) the attention span of a fruitbat 3) editors or 4) all of the above.

So, in keeping with the very important message of brevity and all that...  without any further ado...  I won't delay any longer...  I'll just jump right into it then...  here goes...

The top 4 things I look for in a provider/session/date/sexytimes:

1)  Attitude, personality, authenticity - ok, maybe that's three things.  You got me.  But do you seem genuinely happy to meet (and spend time with) me?  Did you ask for my wardrobe, drink, music preferences?  Do you understand this is my little escape from reality?  Not that reality has a firm rein on me...  Are you willing to show me your best?  (Yes, I always try to bring my best too).

2) Be a good kisser - a woman that doesn't (or can't) kiss well is a dealbreaker for me.  It's what fuels passion.  The single biggest indicator of how a session will go is in that first kiss.  Seriously.

3)  Be able to give and receive oral well - it's important.  A genuine appetite (heh) or well acted appetite to give and receive oral is much appreciated.  Both ways.

4)  Be open to suggestion - I happen to be dominant in bed so I usually take the lead anyway.  But be open to suggestion and trying new or different things.  You can still be creative without domineering a session - enthusiasm is key.  Some guys like the same thing every time, some don't.  It's important to figure out who's who.

That's it.  See - totally short, sweet, and to the point.

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1. Smile
2. Smile
3. Smile
And.. a friendly attitude/Smile

I want to feel like you are really looking forward to my visit.   Convince me that making this a memorable visit that I'll remember for a looooong time is something you are sincerely looking forward to.    

Get to the "forgot it was a service level" - which is the hallmark of great service and I am as happy as a clam.

There are some great ladies here in town who do that.  I have been blessed with the privilege of sharing their company and I look forward to seeing them again

Does she have a full set of teeth?
Does she have clean soles on her feet?
Does her upper body smell like she smoked a pack of menthols before she met me?
Does her lower body smell like she's never heard of douches before

Her eyes, demeanor and appearance tell me if she's eager for the session and glad to see me, or if she would rather be somewhere else.

and not in this order necessarily

1. Looks (face) a beautiful woman always gets me! Then great boobs and foreplay!
2. Personality ... some talk, humor, caring, long lost gf, genuinely want me (acting skills essential)
3. Kissing .. kissing ... kissing
4. Don't take calls ... any call. Organize to preempt them .. even agency girls when they call to
say every thing is ok ... I know it is business but that's exactly what breaks the mood ...
5. BBBJ, no teeth, and no towel action to interrupt if the man has pre-cum (well I do lol!)
6. This one is very critical .. any type of body odor .. Especially at the gates ... that's a session
killer for me ... baby wipes are a great investment everything else being equal a super clean
woman makes my urge multiply ...

6cents

Make all the difference.

Does she look me in the eye with a big sexy smile, shows confidence.
Does she greet me by name, shows preparation.
Does her perfume work for her, shows she knows herself.
Does she offer her lips for dfk upon meeting, shows she is into me.

Loved reading all of these!

I feel like i' ve certainly learned a lot.

as well reading over these and thinking "I don't do enough of that, I should do more of it" or " wow, I should really start offering that" etc.

Really helps me think about what I need to do to make the experience even better for my clients.

Thank you so much everyone! :]

Anyone who hasn't had a chance to put their input,you're more than welcome to do so

would think that it has to be two way traffic. On one hand hobbyists do have expectations (and rightfully so). On the other hand I do think that passion, kissing and intimacy from the woman can be invoked only if a hobbyist conducts himself as a thorough gentleman and does certain things to the liking of the wonderful lady that he is about to date. So my recommendation to the ladies is to bond with the hobbyist either over phone or over a get-to-know-each-other kinda dinner and convey your likes and dislikes to him. Lijewise understand his likes and dislikes. That does take the connection to a different level

Many men look for tenderness, "cuddlability", a sweet temperament and affection.  Rest is all icing on the cake.